Am I being silly?

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I have told my brother and my nephew not to wear my boots. There are plenty of other boots they can wear. I have a thing where I don't like wearing wellingtons that other people have worn. Due to this I keep having to buy more boots... And no matter how many more pairs I get (Which are not so easy to buy boots that suite me as it takes many tries to find a pair), they keep ignoring me and wearing my boots. They are taking advantage of me. How many more wellington boots do I need to buy and why don't they wear ones they wore before I had to get more boots the last time?
If I complain they think I am being daft. But I hate putting my feet in boots that other people have worn. I rather go bear foot like I juat had to walk through the mud to try to find out where my boots were. Why do they keep doing this? It means I can't go for walks and I will have to search round shops to try to find another pair that I get on with... Shops that put footware next to clothes which trigger shutdowns.

I have to have wellies living up here. Yet they don't need them as they live in the town. Yet they have their own boots and are too lazy to get them. "Grrr". Yet I loved my boots. But now I can't wear them.

What if someone was to don the wrong pair of boots and find something unpleasant inside?

It's quite reasonable to not like other people wearing your shoes or boots. And it's rather daft to ignore you if you have kindly told them enough times not to wear your boots. They should get their own.

It doesn't seem silly to me. I would hate that too.

Can you leave out pairs for guests and put yours in a much less convenient (or secret) place? Or if they are the types too care about wearing colors that they consider feminine, you could get yourself pink/purple/etc wellies, then they wouldn't want to wear them.

I have had to conceed and give in again, and give him my boots. I am not happy, but if I don't I will be in thw families bad books for complaining.

In the bad books for complaining? Sounds to me like you are being manipulated.

Ask them how they would feel if you kept wearing their boots after asking you not to.

And I can relate to the complaining thing. People tell me to "stop moaning" all the time even when I'm not, and I've learnt that sometimes people say that as a way to win an argument that they have lost but don't want to admit to it. Emotional manipulation.

I remember one time an ex-friend of mine wanted me to buy her something, even though she had enough money. She was the sort to expect others to pay for her things. But I said no. She didn't like that I'd said no, so she said "oh, Joe90, stop moaning!" I knew that just saying no in a calm but firm way is not the dictionary definition of "moan", so it was obvious that she was just trying to manipulate me into buying everything for her.

In this case, I’d look at my options ... you have choices here :

a). Keep leaving them out where they can be easily thrown on by family as needed and adopt the outlook “Water off a duck’s back ... they can have them if they need them!” OR

b). Remove them from this “accessible” spot and keep them in your room from this point forth to make a point.

My personal view would be to allow others to use them if needed, but that’s only because I like to share everything, within reason! However, if each person has their own wellies, then hopefully they prefer to use their own(which is usually standard).

Good news is though I probably travelled around 75 miles in all, I managed to get a new pair after going to three seperate shops in the search to find some my size that I can wear. The not quite so good news is I think one may have a tinsiest leak. But it is ok. I tried them out where I took you that day we met Juliette. The one where the writer and poet once lived.

I want to wear them everywhere!

Like some others have said, I was also gonna suggest keeping your new boots where others can not access them easily. I'm also gonna suggest that since you have such a hard time finding boots, perhaps you could find some online more easily & maybe even cheaper. They should be the same if you get the same exact brand, same size, & same model/type/style as previous boots you bought & really liked. I get my shoes online. I like shoes with velcro cuz I don't have the best fine motor-skills. I can tie my shoes but velcro is easier. Velcro shoes are hard to find for adults unfortunately so I started getting them online. I stick with the same brand as the one I kept finding offline at physical stores when they had em & those shoes fit the same. I live in the US thou so your online shopping options may be very different than mine.

I know it sounds odd, but living up here one needs wellies. The land is wet. Also, I don't know why but wellies are the one thing that feels like shareing a toothbrush. I shudder to think about shareing a toothbrush! All sorted now, and my new wellies are a different colour. They are green!