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ivyeight6
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01 Apr 2021, 3:54 am

How does someone mourn for three of their classmates (two they knew well and one they didn't know well.)?



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01 Apr 2021, 3:59 am

Mourning does not need any justification. It needs going through.

What happened to these classmates?


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01 Apr 2021, 4:12 am

One committed suicide, one died in a car accident and the other one got shot.



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01 Apr 2021, 4:29 am

Very tragic deaths. You don't neet do be super close to a person to feel the tragedy of these.


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01 Apr 2021, 5:02 am

What about two of their friends?



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01 Apr 2021, 8:01 am

It doesn't matter. Like Magz said, mourning is mourning. People mourn in their own way.

I'd feel pretty bad if I had a friend commit suicide, and have another friend get shot, and have another friend die in an automobile accident---all at about the same time.

And I'm not the "mourning" type, really....

I lived in the Bronx from 1961 to 1964, and again in 1982 and 1990.



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01 Apr 2021, 8:08 am

Out of 361 people from the Class of '75, only 189 of us are left.  I mourn a little bit every day, too.



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01 Apr 2021, 9:13 am

Doing something in their memory might feel good. That could be donating to charity, placing some flowers, joining a community organization...

I hope your mourning is not overwhelming. I will speculate that your classmates would appreciate being remembered but would prefer not to cause you harm.


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01 Apr 2021, 11:09 am

Okay. One of them is not in the class as me. A different class.