Have you ever let the cat out of the bag?

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Have you ever let the cat out of the bag?

(That is, have you ever given away something that was someone else's secret?)

Yes. I have told other people's secrets before on several occasions. One of them was when I accidentally let my mom know that my sister was buying her a stereo for Christmas.

Yes. I gave my dad some underwear for a Father's day present when I was 6. My dad opened up the box and said, "Let me guess...is it a pair of runners?"

I got irritated and said, "It's underwear, dad!"

Not intentionally. I said some stuff about people to others or made a comment to the person in front of others but I didn't know those things were secrets & that I shouldn't of said anything. I should of known but my Aspieness didn't know. I'm the silent type who listens a lot more than he talks & I don't look like I'm paying attention or care so others feel comfortable talking about secrets in front of me. I'm not into gossip

Yes but not right out on purpose. I was asking advice about what to do about someone's drug addiction and the fact that I asked got out of hand...

I almost did yesterday and managed to stop my tongue mid word. A mum said, 'Remember the toddler party when the Santa came?' I said, 'Yes, I remember Ji..'. I stopped before 'Jim' came out, when I noticed her 6yr old standing beside her. It was her fault for saying 'the Santa' anyway. Who says that? It's just Santa.

Literally and figureativly. The former is a long story.
I was the one that told my friend that her boyfriend was cheating on her(or rather that he was too chicken to just break up with her rather than poutright cheating). I negotiated their breakup.

No because I have not put a cat in a bag in the first place.

Ferengi Rule Of Acquisition #135 is relevant here & something I really "should" of known on my own if I didn't have Aspergers. It's not exactly a canon rule though
"Listen to secrets, but never repeat them"
https://memory-alpha.fandom.com/wiki/Ru ... cquisition

If you try to "sell someone in a pig in a poke" you might mess it up by "letting the cat out of the bag".

A "poke" is a bag.

Back in the days of old it was a common scam to sell folks an unseen squirming animal in a bag as a "pig" which was really just a stray cat, and thus not valuable livestock. So the two expressions are like a couplet in their common origin.

Is like saying things that I am not supposed to say?

Yes. I do that because I am too open.

Yes. I do have secrets and protect others secrets too, but often I am too open and honest which can lead manipulative people to take advantage...

Though I am clever too so I can (Though I don't but I did as a child) easily get my own back in hidden ways if I wanted to but I don't. I realize that it is wrong to and is immature so I don't.

I am too open. I can keep other peoples secrets but I do not want to retain secrets because it takes effort to retain them... But I do not often keep my own secrets... Though a few I do like certain things....

But yes. I can say things through eing too open and honest without even knowing I was not supposed to say them and it can get me into trouble as people assume that I know the difference between something said in confidence and something gossipy. I do not do gossip as it does not serve a logical purpose... But I do talk a lot. I used to be very very quiet during my young "Watching" years.
I call them my watching years because I would watch everybody to learn about them. The first couple of years in school I would just stand in the same place every play time and aatch. I would not play. I was not included but when asked I would not because I did not know their rules to know how to join in and play.
I would play at home with my brother all the time, but not in school for the first few years. I was also bullied (Not sure if bullying is the word. He wanted to play by riding me like a horse all the time as he had older brothers and I was all serious and did not want to play and found his forceful acts claustrophobic so to me it was being bullied. To him it was playing) by one kid during that time so my time was spend avoiding him during the first few months when I was 4, going on 5 years old.
Then I found a single friend but he was classed as autistic after he drank a bottle of bleach at his home around when we were around 5 1/2 to 6 years old, so I did not see him for a few months, and when he came back to school I was not allowed to play with him or be with him (He was in his own world after the bleach where he had been friendly to me before), and a week or two later he had to go to a special school so I lost my only friend.
It was when I moved up to the juniors at the age of 7 onwards where I really learned how to play with others in school as the older kids (Up to 11 years old) started playing piggy back fights and I could do this as I had cousins their age where I had been on their backs, so though I did not like to go on the tallest kids backs, I enjoyed piggy back fights (The aim was to get other kids to fall off the backs) as I was small and light so we had fun! The older kids preferred me because I was good at it. That is what gained me the confidence to play with kids of my own age as well.

Never accidentally. I like secrets and secrecy that much to a point of obsession at some time.
Mindful enough to consistently play dumb or dance around it.

The only real way for me to accidentally reveal something is to not explicitly state it should be a secret -- or if it's something it can be revealed nonverbally (i.e. catching me)


Or on purpose;
Only then if it's anything to do with my life and if it's relevant enough for me to be affected by it.

Which is close to only twice so far.

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Nowadays the expression is often used in rather innocent situations. Like you're planning a surprise party for someone, and someone with loose lips lets it out in front of the birthday person. So then "the cat is out of the bag".

So you hafta tell the birthday girl/boy to..."act surprised anyway!! !!".

Dont know the derivation of "spill the beans". Could be that beans being spilled just makes a mess. Or it could be that
it's related to chicanery, like the cat/pig thing. Like you give someone what looks like a bucket full of coins, but what the bucket really contains is a gallon of raw beans with just a thin layer of coins on the top. Just a guess.

Just now googled it. No one seems to know the origin, but it seems to have come from a game at county fairs in which you guess the number of beans in a jar.

I don't think I ever have, not that I can remember anyway.

But I have said things in the past that didn't need to be said, like saying something that's "too much information" (not necessarily sex-related).
I don't know if that counts or not.