Would like to get help on whether or not making the big step

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Hello!
A few months ago, I've had a conversation with someone one the internet and she shared with me how she was diagnosed autistic at the age of 28. As I didn't know what it meant really I asked her what it was.
She basically told me some characteristics, and I immediately related to a lot of things she shared with me.
Now, I may or may not, have been passionately doing some research on the matter, such as doing a few quizzes, reading articles, researching terms, went on official autistic centers websites and so on.
I have this intuition that I do have autism but I know now that it is kinda hard to be diagnosed and I'm not really sure why that would be good?
Bc if I do anyways, it's only mild autism. Actually I really doubt it, it's weird it's like, one second I'm sure I do and the other I'm just making this up for attention or something.
I'm not asking for a diagnosis! I know only a trained professional can do that for sure.
I just feel like it really isn't worth the work and the people meeting and stuff, but at the same time I'm kinda obsessed.
I really feel not so different than other people! Just sometimes things like driving or going to a concert are just hell on earth to me but that doesn't mean anything, a lot of people experience this!
So, I thought, actually asking people on the autism spectrum would enlighten me!
Maybe you could help me understand how being diagnosed was a good thing, or how it really isn't worth the effort, whatever you think would help bc I must admit I'm lost here.
pls don't insult me though
I didn't really told my family about the diagnosis thing but I kinda told them like "oh I really relate to that autistic character that is said to be a good representation of autism ah ah" but I wasn't really met with support so, I guess that makes me not want to waste people's time too

I relate with a lot of what you said, especially having "intuition" about it, but also often wondering if you are somehow "faking" it. Sometimes it just "clicks" that autism is a high possibility, though it can still be hard for some people to really believe it until they get a diagnosis. There's actually a lot of people here who don't have one, some of them were denied one or just have never felt the need to seek one out. I don't really have a diagnosis after two assessments at different stages of my life.

I personally don't think that you have to rush to go professionally "confirm" having ASD, and that it may even be beneficial for you wait a bit, and possibly even hang around here and see if you "relate" with others before you make a decision, even if you don't want to post and you just lurk. You can get assessed any time, but if you don't think you need a diagnosis for accommodations or services then it could be useful to give thinking about it more time. It can be an expensive and/or lengthy process, and there's no guarantee that even if you do have ASD that you'll be diagnosed.

Welcome to WP!

My circumstances are slightly different than yours. First, I'm male. Second, while I had increasingly suspected I really was different from most people I had no clue what the difference might be--I first suspected I might be on the Spectrum when I was 64 years old. By that time I was already comfortably retired so I had no compelling reason to get an Adult Autism Assessment except that I wanted to know, one way or the other, for sure. Learning about Autism on the Internet and the Autism-Spectrum Quotient Test had persuaded both me and my bride that I probably was a High Functioning Autistic but without definitive confirmation I would have been hesitant to ever mention it and would've felt a strong need to always qualify that I had not been formally diagnosed.

So, I got a formal assessment and a formal diagnosis of: Autism Spectrum Disorder, Level 1 (Mild).

When the Psychologist told us the diagnosis she then asked what I thought about it. I had four thoughts:
(1) It was wonderful to finally know what the difference was! (Actually, what I might have said might have been more like "It's wonderful to finally know what's wrong with everyone!")
(2) Maybe I can use this information to get my healthcare providers (I am old) to communicate in a more useful manner with me.
(3) Ooooh! Maybe this could be a new "special interest"?!
(4) Now, when someone bumps up against some of my Autistic traits I can note that "I have a doctor's note for that!"

Well, courtesy of the Pandemic, I and my formal diagnosis haven't been getting out much. But, so far, for those four points:
(1) It is wonderful to know. It explains so much of what I've experienced in life.
(2) Not so much. Before I got the diagnosis I asked healthcare providers to put things in writing and some did, some didn't. Now when I ask for things in writing I also mention the diagnosis. Still, some do, some don't.
(3) I do enjoy WP! And I see you've found your way here, too.
(4) My bride was tired of hearing that before we left the Psychologist's office!