Things I miss for not being ''normal''

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1) Not having maintained close friendships or relationships during school, college or university

2) Not being invited to things (a party, a day out or holiday other than family somewhere etc) due to having few friends

3) Not driving my own car at 17 (even though at time I had little interest in it but I had manuel lessons at 21 but found it difficult and at 24 had lessons in an automatic car and passed my hazard and theory tests at 27 and 28.)

4) Not having gone to university at 18 rather than at 22 when I had just started and after four months I stopped going due to stress and over-work.

5) Not having graduated from university and not having got a picture of myself with a graduation suit as though I've got somewhere.

6) Not having a paid job during and after university (even though I did voluntary work before I went on to do uni and after I left I had no job during a time when I was moving house at the time and for a time living in another county where I maybe didn't really want to be working in. I got my first paid job back in my own county at 26.

7) Not doing a job where I am my own boss and not already an extremely successful businessman (even though I know a part of me feels I wouldn't do that job.) I felt like the only one who wasn't much interested in being a ''yuppie''.

8 ) Not having had a ''wild night out'' with friends as though that will really achieve something in life. (I did go on a pub crawl around town with my sister and a few friends but ended up spending ages talking in a park and getting bored and I did go to a nightclub to see my stepmum's nephew playing in a band there but due to flashing lights and stuff in the club, I ended up sitting outside for most of the performance. It was not because I'm epileptic as I'm not.)

9) Not having found someone by now to settle down with (even though I've seen a number of people in their late 20s or early 30s getting married and starting families. It leaves me feeling left behind and making me think that they are glad that they want nothing do with me and just leave me behind. My sister has a son with her partner now even though they are not married.)

10) Not feeling like I've been at the peak of success, earning lots of money and having lots of friends which I seem to think during this period of your life is what you should be doing.

You don't need to compare yourself with others though I can understand your feeling of having "missed out" on so many things because I actually felt that way, too. However, I've learned to accept myself and now I'm actually happy to be me. I wouldn't want to be anyone else.

1) and 2) apply to me, but now I couldn't care less about that.

5) I didn't go to the uni graduation ceremony because it was sexist and they required male graduands to wear a tie.

7) Most people don't.

8] Many people are not interested in that.

9) Do YOU really want that? Or simply because others have it? I would kill myself if I had to marry a woman.

10) It's not too late to be successful. Forget about regrets about friends, parties, getting married etc and focus on doing something you like that will lead to a career.

Edit: The combination of 8 and ) produces . ] used instead.

The grass is greener - that's the OP's problem. I know how he feels because I have the same problem.

Things I missed from not being "normal"

Being pressured into smoking, drinking, or doing drugs by so-called friends

Becoming pregnant while still a teenager

Doing stupid and dangerous things just to fit in with other kids

Being a huge liar, because most NT teens are unbelievable liars and their parents should never trust a word they say. For example if they say they're going to the library to study with their friends, they're really going to go do drugs with their so called friends.

Following a stupid trend such as eating Tide Pods or choking each other

Swearing like a sailor with Hollywood Tourette Syndrome

Breaking into my parent's liquor cabinet. They didn't even have one, they kept their booze stored in the cupboard under the kitchen sink where it could be easily accessed to any time.

Stealing my father's cigarette's. And even if I did, it would have been more likely so I could flush the cancer sticks down to hell.

Spending even one night in jail.