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Noam111g
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22 May 2023, 9:36 pm

As you know, the Internet can be full of surprises, but I have my doubts when it comes to finding a girlfriend from WrongPlanet. On Facebook its a different story, but WrongPlanet is full of people who have some type of autism spectrum disorder, who live far away and might have behavioral problems I wont be able to get along with in a relationship. A girlfriend from WrongPlanet seems to be a very rare thing to happen, but on Facebook the chances might be higher. However, the whole Internet disappointed me so far when it comes to Girlfriend search, so maybe I need to try at my workplace?

Can you explain what you think about all this?

Thank you.



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22 May 2023, 9:53 pm

Noam111g wrote:
Can you explain what you think about all this?


Anything is possible.
The question is, how much of it is probable?

Be wary of pushing people where they do not want to go and thereby generating resentment.
That can happen Fast if someone feels pushed toward a relationship.

There has been much conversation both here and elsewhere on the web about ND + NT relationships.
They come with even more built-in expectation and communication difficulties than love relationships do naturally.
Much of it is about the sense and feeling of being connected and of being valued.

At the same time, ND + ND relationships have their own sets of wrinkles.

Either combination can be glorious and either combination can be a heartbreaking hell.

All of it the result of an equation which has as many variables as there are people on the planet.


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22 May 2023, 11:41 pm

kitesandtrainsandcats wrote:
Noam111g wrote:
Can you explain what you think about all this?


Anything is possible.
The question is, how much of it is probable?

Be wary of pushing people where they do not want to go and thereby generating resentment.
That can happen Fast if someone feels pushed toward a relationship.

There has been much conversation both here and elsewhere on the web about ND + NT relationships.
They come with even more built-in expectation and communication difficulties than love relationships do naturally.
Much of it is about the sense and feeling of being connected and of being valued.

At the same time, ND + ND relationships have their own sets of wrinkles.

Either combination can be glorious and either combination can be a heartbreaking hell.

All of it the result of an equation which has as many variables as there are people on the planet.

It can be very varied I agree. The situation depends on where you meet each other and what the expectations are. Alot of men expect to get laid very fast or very early in a relationship, for example.

Can you explain what you think about that? About the fact men think about getting laid fast or very early in relationships.



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22 May 2023, 11:51 pm

I can't speak to that.
My husband waited about six years until we were married. His choice, not mine.
My most recent partner waited almost a year.

I don't think any man or any woman or any person of any gender should rush it, unless they're fully prepared to have a baby with that person should one be conceived by mistake, and unless they're also willing to support that baby emotionally and financially, and stay in contact with the other person for the rest of their lives as co-parents.

Kind of a buzz kill, but true.


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23 May 2023, 5:10 am

Noam111g wrote:
Alot of men expect to get laid very fast or very early in a relationship, for example.
Can you explain what you think about that? About the fact men think about getting laid fast or very early in relationships.


I think a lot of men demonstrate that they are basically self-absorbed.


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