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03 Feb 2025, 9:45 am

Do you get into fights? Have you been in a real street brawl?

I avoid a fight if I can. I am prepared to fight if necessary.
I used to be more fearful but as I got older and developed my confidence, I realized
I didn't have to be afraid of anyone.

If I'm ever in a situation where I may have to fight, I think to myself that my mind is very powerful and can get me out of the situation. I use my words towards the other person to let them know I'm not afraid.

I did defend myself on public transit a few years ago when I was punched in the chin. I got them in a headlock.

Have noticed some punks occasionally who I'd like to engage with, but I avoid fighting because it's not worth it most of the time.



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03 Feb 2025, 11:21 am

I have, I will if circumstances demand it.

I'm not especially tough but I know how to roll with punches well, and seem to have good luck with intercepting punches with an elbow or my forehead. I can usually kinda stick to opponents and gradually force them into letting me isolate a limb or get them off-balance and unable to strike effectively.

I used to deal with a lot of physical bullying, including getting jumped by groups of people. I've gotten beaten up plenty, but that gradually taught me how to make trying to beat me up as frustrating as possible. I make it so the other party can't effectively attack, then work to put them in a position they can't effectively defend themselves either, or at the very least, where I can do something they can't resist (like small joint manipulation or cutting near their eye with my thumbnail).

If someone wants a fight with me, they'll get it. It won't be satisfying or flatter either of us, but they'll get it.


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03 Feb 2025, 11:35 am

I'm rubbish in a fight. I have a couple of issues. First, I'm usually so shocked that I'm in a fight that I forget to fight back. Second my brain and body just don't seem to be co-ordinated enough to formulate a coherent and timely response, either in terms of defence or counter attack.

On the plus side I can take a punch pretty well. The only person who has ever knocked me down with a punch is my older sister! She's pretty hard.

I'd actually like to be more confident in my ability to defend myself because I think a general lack of experience and the deficiencies I mentioned above have made me fearful in aggressive situations where perhaps I could have stepped up and helped someone else, or myself, a bit. I'm a big dude and I'm pretty strong, I just don't know how to put that together into something useful in a fight situation.


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03 Feb 2025, 1:00 pm

I hate fighting but I've got one of those faces that seems to make people want to fight me so I've had no choice but to fight in my life

No one wins and no one cares in a street brawl either...it's just s**t


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03 Feb 2025, 2:02 pm

123autism wrote:
Do you get into fights? Have you been in a real street brawl?

I avoid a fight if I can. I am prepared to fight if necessary.
I used to be more fearful but as I got older and developed my confidence, I realized
I didn't have to be afraid of anyone.

If I'm ever in a situation where I may have to fight, I think to myself that my mind is very powerful and can get me out of the situation. I use my words towards the other person to let them know I'm not afraid.

I did defend myself on public transit a few years ago when I was punched in the chin. I got them in a headlock.

Have noticed some punks occasionally who I'd like to engage with, but I avoid fighting because it's not worth it most of the time.


I guess it depends on the situation.

The last altercation I had was at a laundry mat. The washing machine tried to steal some of my quarters without my permission. I had to shove it around and smack it once until it returned my money.

Does that count?



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03 Feb 2025, 2:13 pm

A few years ago, I was walking in my neighbourhood and a cyclist came whizzing right past me.
I felt they didn't give me any space and it bothered me. They had stopped at a traffic light
ahead and I ran up to catch them at the light. I told them to be more careful.

They did not like hearing that and began name calling, getting quite upset. I continued walking
as calmly as I could though I admit I was a bit worried because this person was ready to
throw hands. I thought it was kind of funny how upset they became. They slammed their bike
down on the asphalt on the street. 'You wanna go?' they yelled at me. I just kept walking
and tried to maintain my cool. I did not engage with them.



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03 Feb 2025, 2:19 pm

Stargazer99 wrote:
123autism wrote:
Do you get into fights? Have you been in a real street brawl?

I avoid a fight if I can. I am prepared to fight if necessary.
I used to be more fearful but as I got older and developed my confidence, I realized
I didn't have to be afraid of anyone.

If I'm ever in a situation where I may have to fight, I think to myself that my mind is very powerful and can get me out of the situation. I use my words towards the other person to let them know I'm not afraid.

I did defend myself on public transit a few years ago when I was punched in the chin. I got them in a headlock.

Have noticed some punks occasionally who I'd like to engage with, but I avoid fighting because it's not worth it most of the time.


I guess it depends on the situation.

The last altercation I had was at a laundry mat. The washing machine tried to steal some of my quarters without my permission. I had to shove it around and smack it once until it returned my money.

Does that count?


A fight to get your money back lol.



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03 Feb 2025, 2:21 pm

The thing with cyclists is is that they're usually full of adrenaline from being almost killed by motorists on the roads so that could have been one reason for an overreaction or he might just have been an arse


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03 Feb 2025, 2:40 pm

123autism wrote:
Do you get into fights? Have you been in a real street brawl?
No.

I did certain things to defend myself from my abusive ex once in a while, but it wasn’t to the point of fighting. Maybe it would’ve been more like fighting if there wasn’t such a power imbalance and other dangers involved.

I flee or freeze. Confrontation is something I try to avoid, so I tend to ignore problematic behavior like street harassment and adjust my behavior accordingly. I will avoid walking in alleys and stuff like that when someone makes me uncomfortable.


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03 Feb 2025, 2:52 pm

I have been involved in a legal fight for justice.
This is a situation where I have felt taken advantage of by the police/judicial system.
I have begun to feel I now have the upper hand. Got a criminal charge against a cop who assaulted me.
I feel that to some extent, I've turned the tables on the 'system' that tried to manipulate me.
I think there's a chance the now ex cop who assaulted me ends up in prison because they've assaulted
many others. That would be a big victory.



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03 Feb 2025, 3:01 pm

Yes I have gotten into fights with people if I felt bullied or picked on when I would ask them to stop



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03 Feb 2025, 3:27 pm

In public, a brawl or physical fight? Uh, no. I'm an adult. Loud words? Maybe. Screaming? No. Adults are supposed to know how to behave better than that. I have no intention of looking like the lunatic in a disagreement. I walk away, or I might get a manager.

At home? Yelling, sure. Not physical. Again, adults are supposed to be able to control themselves enough to not go to that level.

(To me the op post reads about being about external physical altercations, thus how I've answered.)



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03 Feb 2025, 3:30 pm

At a party once when a fight broke out I restrained the instigator against a wall.
Unfortunately his friends beat me from behind and I ended up with a fractured zygoma.

Another time at a bar someone decided I was sitting on his chair.
As I stood up to let him claim it he freaked when my head passed his and kept rising and he sucker punched me in the face.
As I pulled myself off the floor I sprayed blood in his face and then he couldn't keep enough distance.



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03 Feb 2025, 3:55 pm

8O ^

I'm glad that I don't get in fights anymore. I used to as a teenager but thankfully no one has tried to fight me since then.

I'm not good at fighting. Much better at debates. I'm a lanky asthmatic geek with all the physical strength of a rubber duck. However, my reflexes are still relatively sharp and being able to avoid attacks has helped me in the past.

Avoid and run was usually my strategy. However, I did once win by lifting up my opponent. He was a very short and skinny guy and when he was throwing punches I was able to grab him under the arms and lift him up in the air. This embarrassed him enough that he stopped trying to fight me.

It annoys me when people pretend like they are going to hit or punch me and then act annoyed when I instinctively flinch and / or dodge the attack. 'You know I wouldn't actually hurt you right?' Sure, but I'm used to dodging and my body doesn't make that distinction. If you act like you are going to attack, don't be surprised when I react appropriately.


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03 Feb 2025, 4:19 pm

:lol:

My favourite move if someone was squaring up to me was to stand on their toe and don't let them go

It really confuses them because most people (including myself) don't know how to fight


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03 Feb 2025, 4:21 pm

Oh yeah and I bit a girls finger one time when she was pointing it in my face


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