what drives you ?

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What pushes you to do anything in life, apart from pure physical needs which require satisfying, however summarily, in order to survive?
Motherhood drives most of my daily activities ; making sure my son is fed, clean, watered, educated ( he's homeschooled), exercised a bit, ferried ( on foot) to 3 classes for some social activity, etc.
Otherwise there is a lot of pain avoidance, and curiosity, within the limits set by avoiding pain!!
For example i am fascinated by how people work, but can hardly bear their company, or if i do enjoy it i cannot "see" them like that anymore cos i'm too tied up in responding to them!!
Fame, money, fitness, ( and assoc "beauty"), attract me , but don't manage to drive me. ( sadly ! )
Driven to do almost nothing by ... well, maybe doing nothing is what happens if nothing drives you.
I don't know.
If you're not convinced by anything is inactivity what happens?
Jim Carrey said "desperation" drove him. But it was to help his mother, so was love or something ?
What do people think? What drives you?
And say if it's not on the list of choices!

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The drive to be happy/avoid pain is not necessarily fear.

That's interesting; when i set up the poll first i put them in separate boxes, but then decided they amounted to same thing.
Not sure what fear IS if not being driven by avoidance of pain ( of all kinds; mental, physical, emotional).

There are several definitions of the word "fear", used by different people.

not sure...ill try to avoid pain what ever it costs think i got very high self procetk insting:D

How would you define fear?

The need to know why. Its really the only thing that drives me to reach out and try to connect with people. I don't mine whether they like me or not, its more about knowing why they feel the way I do. Aside from the few tangible connections I have with people the rest is like one big sociology experiment with myself as the catalyst.

It depends on what definition I am using. For this, I define it as "motivation to look for happiness", as in, we all do, even when we're happy we always keep looking for more and are happy doing that.

Fame!! ! One day im going to be in a boys band at the top of the charts. Take that!

Okay, got it, thank you, that's a nice one.

Alei, I have big "why" drive too . (I think it goes under curiosity in the poll. Does that seem right?) But the trouble is that the very strength of the drive to understand "why" led to my realising that the "reasons why" for doing many things are unsatisfactory ! ! It's a drive that kicks out the feet from under many others!!

The unconscious, I think. I do what my dreams tell me to do.

easy just try avoid to being holdet

I picked curiousity too. I also agree about the reasons why being unsatisfactory for so many things. I'm not implying that finding out why they do things makes me want to do them the same way. Instead it actually causes me to question my own motives as well, which I think is something this world needs a lot more of.

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It's curiosity for me.

I want to know anything!
My big big dream since my childhood. Silly, but it's a real driving force for me!

And of course I'll be famous one day, oh yeah.

You know, I've always thought this as well, although that runs completely contrary to my crippling stage fright

how do you manage to get your dreams to be so directional/guiding ? Mine, when i can remember more than last few minutes, seem to be strange and beautiful stories, mysteries, panic rooms, sometimes horny, but i wouldn't have the faintest idea what to DO as a result of one. Sometimes write them down, but nothing else.