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Been working at home Depot for four years and four months and counting

Gone through five supervisors

The current one started April last year

She has been micromanaging me a lot on the other hand plenty of bosses micromanaging other employees

I don't know if I have been getting more or less than my fair share of the micromanagement

The head cashier said that home Depot is going through some weird massive changes

Seriously regret not doing better at school

Regrets? I've had a few...

I have a bushel barrel of regrets. Did get a high education, though. Interesting what different people regret.

Just things that never happened or unacknowledged.

And a good portion of those are things I have no power over.
Then people wonder why I don't have a lot of trust and why I prefer to do things myself.

I just regret trusting people at things that have long term consequences over my life.

But does that make sense?
Regretting someone else's actions?

When was this?
Probably since as a kid. But what choice do I have then?


More like... I regret not deviating any sooner.
Not taking risks any sooner.
All because I was convinced to trust someone for me to wait and help me out.

All because I was "too young".
I regret to be convinced of that statement.

Turning 30 this year, hopefully will leave that damn excuse of a statement behind.

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got no future

sabotaged my career

going nowhere in "life".

i've been wounded.

even mcdonalds won't make the mistake of hiring my worthless corpse.

past "the point of no return".

gave up a long time ago

"lying flat" movement

rotting/deteriorating/decomposing in my cage

I have a few regrets of my own. I said that my music teacher was Gay when I was in Grade 7. I tried dropping out of school one day when I was in Grade 10. I didn't take the courses that I wanted to in college. I fell in love with someone who didn't care when I was in college and that person was married on top of that. I tried Pot at a New Year's Eve party when I was 21. I allowed myself to fall apart in the Spring of 1998.

I have lots of regrets of varying severity. However failing at life isn't one of them. I'm extremely unsuccessful compared to most all people including lots of Aspies but I don't regret that for myself. My perspective is probably related to being born with a major physical disability that medical professionals did not believe I had & did not diagnose me till I was in my senior year of high-school. I've received very little help & support for it. It seems to me like being productive, independent, & functional with employment & life is just not a realistic possibility for some people. Effort does NOT guarantee a reward & sometimes that effort makes other things worse. Due to genetics &/or environmental factors some people will fail miserably at most things no mater how hard they try. Whereas some others will do quite well with very little effort because they have natural talents/abilities/special skills that help them succeed or they're born into a very successful family. I'm NOT saying that people should never try but rather those of us with major issues may need to quickly give up trying various things in order for us to better deal with day to day life instead of reaching our breaking point.

The things I majorly regret are are related to hurting others & causing problems for others including people who cared about me & tried to help me like my family, the three girlfriend's I've had, & friends I've had. I do feel like I'm failing my current girlfriend because I'm not more functional & independent with housework & me not having a part-time job is making us have more financial stress. I don't regret not doing more though because I'm not sure how to go about doing more & I need guidance & direction. It seems like a catch 22 situation where I need someone to assist me with finding & getting into a program or service that could offer me some kind of support.

Selecting electronics instead of coding as a career path leaving high school.

My biggest regret is not being able to bring my daughter up

I have regrets about my career choice, but at the time i did not know about autism. I did my best with choosing one, but with the mental state i was in, it turned out wrong.

I regret not doing things my way when I was younger.

No regrets on big decisions except that I wish I'd not got into one or two long-term relationships many years ago, or I wish I'd ended them sooner. That way I'd have saved a lot of time and trouble, and I'd have been younger. But even with that kind of mistake there's the bonus of experience I suppose.

In a way I wish I hadn't quit my job and moved to another city to start again with something I thought might be better. It turned out not to be better at all, and the sacrifices I made to make that change were kind of wasted. But at the time I made the decision I was under a lot of stress and I can't be at all sure that I'd have been better off for sticking with what I had.

I've probably got a lot of regrets about smaller decisions, but they're mostly in the sense of wisdom after the event, and I suppose everybody would do better if they'd made their earlier decisions armed with the experience of subsequent years to guide them. Failure isn't a completely negative thing. It teaches us.

Anyway I don't sit around wishing about "if only I'd done y instead of x." I've got what I've got, it's not bad, and it's better to focus on the present and the future than to waste time holding a pity party.

I don't regret anything major because I don't know how my life would change if I'd done it differently. I'm happy enough with my life as it is and I don't want to go messing around with the past and accidentally ruin it all.

I used to wish the pandemic hadn't happened because it was a very hard time for me, I was very depressed for most of it, and it obliterated my social skills. So last night I couldn't sleep and I started imagining how my life would be different 5 years later if it hadn't happened, and I realized that almost all the things I enjoy in life now wouldn't be there. Who knows, maybe my life would be better, but I don't want to know. Where I am now is fine.

So no major regrets. I've accepted that my life is how it is and I might as well do what I can with it now.

Oh yes some but some things that happened were out of my control.

Out of my control-

1. I do sort of wish I had finished community college, but I had to take a half load and work full time. I had wanted to quit the job and just gone to school full time. However, I was living at home, and my parents were paying the tuition, so I was stuck.

2.Living in my parents' house till I was 25, I couldn't afford to live on my own. Became stressful and with my dad stressed from work, I was the one it got taken out on.

3.Wish I would have gotten support for my anger problems and would have maybe gotten tested for ASD, TBF no one knew 20 years ago, at least I didn't but I was told my problems were " In my head" .

4. Not to contradict myself but I was pushed into going to school for something I didn't want to do but was told I needed to go for something practical and to basically " little boy dreams don't make money". I wanted something fulfilling not money.

Could Control-

1. Dating a girl when deep down my heart wasn't it, I tried but I just couldn't do it. Realized it didn't feel right because I was truly gay but could never admit it to myself and even if I did I would have worried about getting kicked out of the house or it causing drama in the family. It was my choice in the end but.. I kind of got pushed into the thing. Feel bad about that one still but it is what it is.

2. Up until a couple years, constantly apologizing for past mistakes. Those days are over and also I WILL NOT apologize for who I am, if I make you uncomfortable because of my condition that's your problem.

3. Made some dumb money decisions when I was younger in my 20s, credit cards, a car, etc... Lived and learned.

4. Getting in with the wrong people of people at work. Red flags I choose to ignore and regretted it for years.

So at 45, I just don't know anymore. All I can do is my best and not repeat past mistakes.