My Mother and "mood disorders"

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Ok, so my mother doesn't have an actual diagnosis of any mood disorder....but I think she friggen has one.
She woke up for work. She is a personal trainer and was going to do excersize with others today. She started to put make up on and I said to her..."If your going to do excersize then why bother to put make up on?".
mum..."Because I want to,".
me..."You're only going to get sweaty, so whats the point,".
mum..."I want to because everyone else does,".
me..."So your doing this just to fit in and be popular, is that what you are saying?".

Then she goes totally nuts at me and threatens to punch me and throw her coffee at me!! !
she said..."your lucky I don't make you wear this coffee and punch your head into your torso!".

She slammed the fridge door.

She used to be on anti-depressants last year and she came off them last year so I said to her..."Maybe you should go back on your medication,".
Mum then says..."You stress me out and your lucky that child services take you away, i'm going to be glad to get rid of you in december!".

She is putting me into residential care in december...

Anyway...does this sound like she has a mood disorder, or is this typical "mother-child" behavior???

I am sorry she's saying such rude things. She's putting you away? Sounds like your mother is the problem.

Might have been the way you said it.

I've done that to my mother once.. she was cleaning around my computer desk (where I'd been sitting for about 3 days straight so there were loads of crisp packets and coke cans around) when she accidentally knocked something off the desk, and went to pick it up and I went "leave it I'll do it". She proceded to get up and slap me across the face. So I slapped her back in reaction. She went "Don't talk to me like that". I didn't know I'd said it in a really nasty annoyed tone until a few years later when we were on better terms with eachother (we had a while of not really liking each other at all.. got to the point where I refused to talk to her for the best part of a year).

I still have the problem of tone and the words I say when I say things. I always end up offending ppl if they don't know I struggle with that kind of thing.

The words you said make it out like you were trying to pick an argument with her, and so it made her mad. Not that I'm trying to blame you.. I just know how it can be perceived. She might well have a mood disorder. I don't know her that well!

My mother would accuse me of trying to trick her if I asked too many questions and sometimes she beat me up for asking questions.

to be honest, and to maintain a neutral position

you really shouldn't have questioned your mother in the first place

but she also should not have shouted at and threatened you

perhaps councilling may work, have you tried suggesting it?

It sounds like your mom is part of the problem, not part of the solution, and it also sounds like she's not very mature or good for you--residential care might be the answer: it could be a spring board for you to get money and grants for college if you so desire...so that you can make something of your life...you can only be responsible for your own emotions and interactions with others, and you certainly do not need to deal with someone who acts like an angry 3 year old with fists flying...

I don't understand what's wrong with questioning. She may have taken it as an attack, though.

I must say that as a mother myself, I am absolutely appalled at what your mom said to you. It doesn't matter what you said to her, she had no right to verbally attack you like that. If your questions were getting to be too much she could've told you that she didn't want to talk about it anymore, and to please go do something else. Please, don't take it personally. You're not the one to blame here. Think of it this way, would she get away with talking like that to one of her friends, or co-workers? No, she wouldn't. People annoy, and irritate eachother all the time, but they don't threaten physical violence, and demean eachother because of it.

your mother is f*****g nuts
she's the issue not you
she's horrible-it should be you who is happy to get away from her
IMO, if my family was like that I'd have gone a long time ago...
leaving her will be good you'll see

tell your mom to f**k off. if she doesnt punch her stupid ass in the face then maybe shell listen