Irritating conversation....

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I like Christmas. However, what I don't like is the following conversation (which has already started!):

Them "what are you going to do for Christmas?"
Me "Just stay at home"
Them (aghast) - "you mean....gaspgaspgasp.... ALONE?! !?"

At this point there is either a pity invitation, or there is a lot of overt sympathy. I may have to fib just to get them to stop torturing me. I almost have to *apologize* and rationalize excuses to make THEM feel better about me not being at some party or at someone's house for dinner. Its irritating. I do understand that being alone at Christmas is viewed as a terrible tragedy. I know its hard for some who fill their day with people and chatter to understand this of me, I am just not a lonely person just because I am alone. I spend every day alone to a certain extent. The most LONELY I ever felt was the last christmas I spent with my ex-husband - being in the same room with someone who pretty much hates your guts and who is mad at you because you put up a christmas tree against his wishes, is a lot worse than spending the day by oneself.

Sigh, why can't they just leave me alone to enjoy Christmas in the way I want to?

Yep....i recognize this - the last 5-6 christmases
i`ve spent alone eating frozen pizza. But this i
tell no one because the few times i did they
looked at me like i was insane and the
question "why" + 10 more dumb ones
appeared. I felt like screaming "because
its just the way it is you bastard" and
knocking him the hell out right then and
there. I dont want to be alone eating
pizza, it just happens.But it feels like
I`m doing someting wrong or something
judging by peoples reactions.

I have this with- GASP!- New Years Eve! I decided to boycott it this year to show my disapprovement for the passing of time. just me and my bottle of vodka.

you wouldn't believe the looks I get.

I am the same way with New Years Eve, I NEVER did anything and everyone knew it, so there was always a mad dash as to who could book me first to babysit.

I spent almost every New Years Eve in memory babystitting someone. But I did not mind.

Nothing wrong with drinking alone.

In this case you are hereby given dispensation to lie.

Tell them "Oh, I have to spend it with my entire family, and my uncle gets drunk, and my brother in law argues politics, and the entire affair gives me a headache."

Then they'll nod, and give you sympathy...

> Sigh, why can't they just leave me alone to enjoy Christmas in the way I want to?

Because they are sheep (sheeple) and think you are too. That is, they feel a strong urge to conform.

I haven't done Christmas in a throng for years. I don't like parties and all the fake excitement.

I have never seen so many people say they are content alone at Christmas. Thought I was the only one.

Or just tell the truth and say "Oh, I WOULD have to spend it with my entire family, and my uncle gets drunk, and my brother in law argues politics, and the entire affair gives me a headache. And I just don't feel like it this year."

Yeah I totally agree. I've had this conversation many times. I just smile and tell them that it's ok, I like it. And if they feel bad for me, who cares? Sounds like their problem, not mine

I also agree with what you said. I also would much much rather be alone than feel lonely when there are people around. That's the loneliest lonely.