How do you deal with unwanted Male attention?

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Lately I've worked up the courage, to go out during the day, away from my house on my own. a couple time during the week i'll either walk to the park, or to the library. Both are 20 minutes, although in different directions. I've noticed I'm getting an insane amount of male attention. Men will look me up and down, stop and honk their horns, and the like. one time an old man at the park was so busy staring me up and down, that he dropped his dogs leashes, and didn't even notice, and I had to tell him he dropped them. It was really embarrassing. I just got back from the park, and on my way home, a man in a very Flashy silver car started looking me up and down and leering, confused I looked around to see who he was looking at. He then pulled his car over to me and asked me if I needed a ride. I said no and quickly moved on. Not only that, two boys speaking in indian started checking me out, one of them said something dirty sounding, and the other looked at me, nodded approvingly, and high-fived his companion.

I have lost several pounds recently, and I wonder if it my be because of that. But then little boys are calling me a "lady" so i think something has changed about me. I feel like crying. I don't like getting treated like a piece of meat. I just want to be able to go out with my stuffed animals and play at the park.

It's actually very scary.

How to deal with this?

i have news for you. all guys think about is sex, maybe you should wear a garbage bag over yer body to prevent anyone from looking? it sounds like it really bothers you. i tell you what though if i was a hot girl i'd be working it

When I was told that a co-worker 'liked' me even though I had no interest in him as any more than a friend I found it very awkward but I just tried to ignore it and carry on as usual and feel privileged that somebody did like me that way, just not someone I wanted to be with. I also hate it when customers go 'alrite darlin' and 'babe' I just want to scream and tell them to get out cos I won't be called that by anyone other than a partner, but I can't cos I'll be fired.
I think you should just walk on and be above them all cos they're just jealous they aren't good enough for you you will find the right person. Yeah you should feel privileged cos you're obviously attractive and sexy to them! Don't care what others think, try to block everyone out and do what you want to do. It is difficult but they shouldn't stop your life. Take a close friend with you or something, I always feel less self concious being with someone, you can laugh off any rude remarks and put the joke on them.

that is actually a compliment, for guys are brutally honest to other guys about a females looks. So if they are looking and talking like that, that means they think you are very attractive!

giving a woman a compliment politely and graciously is OK.

leering, looking you up and down, honking, saying something dirty, high fiving - that's sexual harassment.

you should ignore it. and get the heck out of there as soon as possible.

don't confuse respectful compliments with suggestive confrontational male behavior.

Sadly, most men do not know how to look at women with moderation. All I can really say is to ignore them as much as possible. And if one comes up to you, give em a kick in the jewels, that will settle his oats down.

show them no attention do not look or talk to them. they love any reaction from you - good or bad.

call the cops on them

ShadesOfMe, you should post a copy/link of this in the women's forum so more of WP's women members will be likely to see it. They'll have experience with that, and can tell you how they deal with it. -- Guys rarely get looked that way and so it can be hard to relate.

Hey if you got it flaunt it!!

Ok but if they're being rude about it, then I see your side.

Not easy especially if you don't have a car and are alone...the honking and cat calls are just plain rude.

I have some experience in this. I've even had people grab me or try to block my path and once start kissing me in public (without my consent, obviously).

why are women like this?

You know what it is? I'll tell you. Women think that men are animals - pigs and/or apes mostly and to be ogled over by apes and/or pigs is disgusting to them. Give them a nice shiny vampire or a unicorn and they get all tingly.

Get over yourselves and take the goddamn compliment already! You know how many women are dying to look beautiful and are starving for the attention you abhor? Some women are that beautiful and don't even know it!

If you don't like it, dress down a little. Don't do your hair or part it down the middle and wear some oversized glasses.

And on behalf of all men everywhere; we apologize for not being able to make grand displays like other males of the animal kingdom like the baboon or the peacock to show our interest. We have to resort to a look, whistles or a brightly colored piece of rayon around our neck to express our interest.

Open a can of deletion on them (harassment charges.)