Is anyone not in the Mother's Day spirit?

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I tend to buy gifts months in advance but for once I didn't get my mom anything besides a card. I feel 2 reasons is A) My dad's mom died this year so I was upset since he's the type that doesn't show emotion and B) is some rude things my mom has said to me for example being called a Rude b***h and once when I yanked the phone from my little sister her response was if you do that again I'll kill you that's not a threat but a promise. So how are your feelings today on Mother's Day?

Considering that my mother abused me physically and emotionally and made me feel like I was stupid even though I have an IQ of 153, I have no use for her or for Mother's Day.

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Mother's Day. A bunch of blather! If you are a mother, then every freaking day is Mother's day. You are never off duty, never off the hook. And it is just one more stupid holiday to remind some people that they are left out of still one more celebration.

I actually went out to buy a mothers day gift & when I got home, my mother & I had an argument, she called me some nasty things & I didn't end up giving her the gift the next day. I told her that it was broken so I threw it away, but I still have it. To be honest I don't think that she would even like it so it doesn't really matter.
I'm never in the mothers day spirit, it's an overrated day in which undeserving mothers expect their kids to respect them without giving any respect in return.

There was a Mother's Day?

Seriously, I missed it.

Agreed.

I've been sick the last couple of days, so I haven't really been in the spirit for anything. I have enough energy to go shopping and stuff, but I've been feeling hot and naucious...

I agree with this, too. But my mother expects respect without giving any in return every day of the year.

2007: I didn't have any money so I just made a card in the shape of a heart, but Mum was kind of pissy with me all day because I hadn't bought her something. And she says I'M an ungrateful b***h.
2008: I remembered, but couldn't be arsed because I was still pissed off by her attitude the previous year (I don't think I'll EVER forget that day, in fact). My grandma accused me of not having any feelings (!).
2009: After much problems with my mother, I'd really started to hate her by now, so I didn't do anything at all. Mother's Day is to show appreciation, not to fake appreciation for a woman who doesn't deserve it.

People keep saying to me, "How would you like it if your mother didn't bother with your birthday?" but I say I wouldn't really care, I don't care about birthdays that much anymore (doesn't this usually occur in adulthood, not at 13?!). I'm 14 on Saturday, but I only care because then I'm a year closer to leaving home, I'm not excited about presents and cake and all that kiddie stuff.

Anyway, Mother's Day is yet another originally-religious-and-now-commercialised-ad-nauseum holiday, like Valentine's Day. But not caring about V-Day seems to be more socially acceptable than not caring about Mother's Day, for some reason.

Does your mother believe in the bible? If she does then she is not supposed to provoke a child to anger.



I have questions on this.

1. First, you're 13 years old where does she expect you to get the money for the mother's day present from? Are the child labor laws different there than here so you can work to get the money for your mother's present? Ask your mother where she expects you to get the money?

2. Did she really literally call you a b***h?

3. It sounds like your mom may have too much of a sense of entitlement and may be selfish herself. Am I accurate on this? If so, nothing will satisfy her.

4. Is your mom the type who extremely extraverted hyper-active type?

5. Is your brother the same as your mother?



Have either one of them read about aspergers at all?



I can tell you this. Hating someone is not good. It can consume you and that hate can last for a long time.



I would rather just go out to eat with my family and celebrate my birthday or take my mother out to eat and spend time with her.



I ask why can't every day be the time of showing appreciation for your mother or father, giving and joy, or love? Why have all these holidays dedicated to these things?

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According to the bible, gina-ghetto princess is supposed to give her the present. It's one of the ten commandments.

According to the bible, gina-ghetto princess is supposed to give her the present. It's one of the ten commandments.[/quote]

Henriksson, I know what you're talking about. Honor Thy Mother and Father. That commandment is supposed to be applied everyday of your life to your mother and father not just on mother's day or a particular day of the year. Honor means way more than just giving a present on a particular day. You're supposed to honor your mother everyday. I have a big problem with the comercialization behind it and I have a big problem with someone feeling entitled to receiving a present because it's a particular day. Actually, if Gina was a believer in the bible God comes first before parents.

I'm not sure if she believes in the bible anymore, actually. But she doesn't ever think she's doing anything wrong, and if I point out something she is doing wrong she accuses me of blaming her for MY faults.



I was 11 at the time, in the UK 11-year-olds can't work, and at that time I only got about £1 pocket money a week, which really doesn't go that far.



Not on that specific occasion, but she does say it a lot when we argue.



Yes, that's right. When I say something like, "Don't push me," she says, "I can do what I want with you, I'm an adult and you're 13!" like that justifies everything.



Not really, she spends most of her time working.



Pretty much, yeah. He agrees with her on every single thing, and when we have family arguments it's like it's me versus them, never any other combination. It's like they're the family and I'm just an alien outsider.



My mother has a bit.



That's true, yeah. But I don't know how to get rid of hate.

Ah the ole blame game. Please read this Gina on my blog. http://cubedemon.blogspot.com/2009/04/v ... alues.html Basically you're Actor A and you're mother is Actor B. I've seen this scenario go down here many times as well. When Actor B, in this case your mother is saying "don't blame me for your faults" the truth is she knows she may be at fault but she uses an excellent value of self-responsbility to shift the blame indirectly back onto you. Most people do not want to admit they're wrong and apparently it's become offensive these days to challenge certain accusations in the direct way which is blaming. Gina, will you be willing to try an experiment? Do the same thing back to your mom. If she accuses you of wrong doing and you are pretty sure you didn't do it or if she makes you something that you can't do then accuse of her of being selfish and thinking of her own needs and wants when she tries this stuff with you. If you do this, will you please report the results.





Accuse her of being selfish by making you buy her a present and that she only cares about her own needs and wants and your brother's needs and wants. Use her reverse blame tactics against her.





Tell her that she is being selfish by hurting your feelings by calling you a female dog. That is the definition of the term b***h.



Actually that's child abuse. She can't do that. It is inaccurate when she says she can do what she wants with you.



I see.



This is a trick he uses so he does not get into trouble for anything.



They both need to.



Just like me, you need closure. This means you and your mother need counseling bad.

Crap did I miss Mother's Day?

Interesting. I'll try that.



I know that, I think that as she says it each time, but I can't tell her that, because she just gets in an even worse mood with me when I try to reason with her.



Indeed. I only just realised this over recent months. Another trick he uses is giving me money, then when I keep it he "changes his mind" and wants it back, and when I say you can't ask for stuff back that you give away, he tells Mum and she makes me give it back, and accusing ME of being mean. I got wise to this routine, and today when he asked if he could buy a bottle of Coke from me for £5, I said, "No, go away, I know you'll only use it to manipulate me like the devil-child you are, now get out of my room." I ain't falling for that stunt again as long as I live.



I will suggest counselling to her, or maybe I'll talk to the school counsellor first.