when did you notice your social life sucked?

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I noticed I was an outcast in kindergarten, at the age of 5. I had a couple of close friends in high school, but no close friends since. Right now I don't have any at all, perhaps because I've given up trying to connect with anyone. (I have my husband and kids, though).

I've noticed that my social life has sucked for most of my life, but for much of it was able to go into a hopeful denial of my situation. I've just recently self-diagnosed (plus informally by a practitioner) due to some recently awful social life stuff... most people I knew dumped me saying I made them nervous or there was a disconnect, so they ended our friendships very suddenly, without saying anything to me until I pressed them for more info. AS fits me, but I wish that I didn't fit it. (Sometimes it is just hard to think positively about AS being a good thing.)

7th grade. I didn't care before, though I wondered why nobody liked me.
My father pointed it out to me very clearly then though, so I got it. I didn't like feeling like a reject though.

I was 10. It was at that age when I noticed that I was always alone both at school and outside of school.

I think I always knew I was different than other kids - in fact, the first behavioral testing my parents did was in nursery school because I was aggressive in how I interacted with other kids from day one.

In the early years of elementary school, I didn't notice too much because I was with the same group of kids for so much - ballet, girl scouts, swimming - so they were kind of forced to invite me to birthday parties and the like. But as we got to the age where kids had a say, I noticed others avoiding me. I changed schools three times in junior high and repeatedly found myself the "odd strange girl" that others sometimes befriended, but never were close to. I'd sometimes make close friends, but then they would suddenly start avoiding me because of pressure from other kids.

My senior year in high school, I finally became friends with a group of semi-popular girls - I think they took me into their circle because I was editor of the newspaper and they were on staff with me. I started doing "normal" things like going on dates and going to dances or football games.

In college, I joined a sorority (the "good one on campus" although I later found out they took me because my grades would bring the house GPA up) and had a relatively textbook college experience. I had boyfriends and lived in a dorm and did all the stereotypical college things. I always felt like I was "acting" though because a lot of the things I HATED and as a result, I often went through periods of complete isolation and meltdown from the stress. I was physically sick (auto-immune) for most of my college years and had bouts of depression when I had trouble getting along in my sorority and dorm. I got hired as a resident advisor in the dorms and then fired for not "meeting expectations". I had trouble holding a job and multitasking. Still, socially, it was probably the "best" period of my life.

Since college (I graduated at 22 and I'm now 36), my social circle has seemed to constantly fluctuate. The only people who stick around are the ones who "get me" and they are often very much "like me". I went on lots of dates until I turned 30 but always had trouble making (and keeping) female friendships. I feel like I've suddenly become LESS mature than a lot of folks my age - its like I regressed. And people tell me that I'm hard to befriend because I can alternate from being completely "aloof and snobby" to "completely intense and overwhelming".

First grade, sigh...but I was always terribly shy.

I knew something was up in primary school, but didn't really think about it. Went back to playing with my dragons.

Middle school was horrible - I was bullied, but I still didn't notice that I didn't have a 'social life' as such, I just wanted people to stop hitting me.

At the beginning of high school I attached myself to a group who seemed like the odd ones in the hope that they would be my friends and help stop the bullying. It stopped, but it took me 2 years to realise that 'friends' isn't just sitting silently next to the group at lunchtime and never seeing them after school or weekends. Then I spent all my time re-reading favourite old books in the library for a few months before discovering the joys of the internet - I met someone I could talk to for hours, but meeting someone online at 9pm every night of the year isn't *quite* a social life.

I went to uni in the same city as my ICQ friend. I was more confident having someone I really knew there, and I was bizarrely and suddenly popular - people liked the weird girl. I was bewildered, but happy

probably preschool.

as early as 4 years old, i'd get into fights,
sometimes i'd be violent, but i never got in trouble coz
i had good grades.
it seriously sucked when i was working already, in my
20's, coz i got picked on at work by this girl who was
10 years older than me but acted like h/s, i hate her still and
this was more than 11 years ago.

About 7-8.
My kindy and first grade teachers were really good, and they liked me. My 2nd grade teacher was a b***h, but the other kids could adjust to her. I couldn't. It was about this time that I realised that I was being bullied and excluded by not only the teacher, but the other kids. (Mostly the girls)

at age 2!
and its been going down hill ever sents!

I noticed in kindergarten, I was made to feel stupid by the teacher and picked on by the students

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My children notice it more than I do!

Since I was 3, I began to talk and people found be annoying