lesbian/bisexual?

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i've had sex with a friend of mine...a girl...the great thing was that nothing much has chanced in our relationship after that.

<--lesbian

Men scare me. I don't know, I've found myself attracted to some females but never considered myself either one. That's kind of confusing for me. I don't usually post stuff like this because ppl fool around with those terms.

I'm bisexual. It took me forever to come to that. I'd always switch back and forth between lesbian or maybe straight. I've never gotten to be with a girl, but I'd really like to. It's just so hard to meet girls now since I don't hang out with the gay/bi crowd anymore like I did in high school. Constantly falling for straight girls is driving me crazy.

Took me 37 years to come out..but definately a lesbian. And damn proud of it...thank you.

It was the most amazing moment of my life coming to that realization. I've never been happier...I tried being straight for many years. I never knew what was wrong. But there you have it...I love women. We are amazing.

Cheers for us!

ditto Devon B...

I honestly don't know.

At 13 years old, I was called a lesbian because I wasn't interested in guys at all. Even as a little girl I wasn't into romance at all!

Then I thought that maybe I was a bi, but I'm really not romantically attracted to girls, in fact if I tried having a relationship with that girl I know I would hurt them.

I feel more straight than anything, yet I don't think I will ever get a boyfriend. I just intimidate guys because I'm so intense and so serious. I'm very quiet too.

I am a lesbian w/ ASD have been with my parter for 5yrs.

Lesbian I guess as I have only had relationships with women. But I like sex with men and women. Just do not want a relationship with a guy. So calling myself a lesbian seems to be less confusing to the world.

Someone on here mentioned sexuality being a spectrum, which I completely agree with. I've always identified myself as a straight female, and I've had several relationships with boys before. However, lately I've been thinking that I'm moving a bit more to the bisexual part of the spectrum. It's not that I want to kiss women or touch them or have relationships with them; it's just that I want to be one of them. I feel like I'm missing something that makes me a "real woman"--not physically, but the sort of friendship connection that women have to other women and the sexual connection that they have to men.

My current boyfriend of six months does not know that I am Aspie, nor does he know that in my brain I classify myself as asexual. I am so scared of him finding out and turning on me for it.

I've also had to feign interest in kissing and occasionally sex, which makes me want to scream. I've been on anti-depressants for the past decade (since I was 10 years old), and I know those medications have a tendency to reduce your sex drive. So it makes me wonder how much of this is due to the meds and how much is due to being Aspie. I mean, yes, I feel the need for attention and sometimes I want to have sex with him, but I don't think I ever enjoy it as much as I could if I were NT.

EDIT:

I forgot to mention that I too am attracted to androgynous guys. I love guys with long hair, especially ones who wear eyeliner. I have told my boyfriend (who has a history of getting drunk and putting on his girl pals' clothes) that I don't want him wearing skirts--but that he can wear eyeliner any frickin' time he wants!

Now I don't know if I'm a lesbian woman or a straight man...


-SpaceCase

I'm a lesbian and have been with my partner who is NT for two years. It'd be great to start of a chat here with other lesbians with AS (or bi women with AS.)

I'm so gay...don't tell my mom. XD
I don't know if it's obvious. I wear baggy clothes because I can't stand tight clothing. I also have short hair because I dont want to bother with it in the morning. I can't count the number of times I've been called "sir", it kind of annoys me. Most girls only talk to me because they think I'm a gay guy...it's kind of sad/depressing because I totally had a massive crush on this girl and I don't know how but we started talking and she asked if I had a boyfriend and I said, "Hell no, I'm gay." and she gave me this confused look which lasted about a minute and then she turned red, said "ooooohh" and hasn't talked to me since.

Hello everyone!

I am a bi femme. Well, to clarify I am very tattoed and a bit alternative looking but I am feminine. I am self dx as.

I have always had relationships with men but had deep, deep crushes on women which were stronger than what I felt for men. In my 3 intimate experiences....

1 her husband jumped in. They were using my emotions to draw me in so the hubby could try to get in...
1 was with a friend I secretly had a crush on and my bf walked in and wanted to make it a group thing
1 was with a friend who called her male crush in (my exbf) and they had sex, tossing me aside...

So...I never got to have private intimate time with any of the women I loved. I pretty much got used. I hate how our society has turned the bifem into the end all be all trump... because women like me get used

But now I am married with a son. I would like to pursue some polyamorous experiences but my husband does not. He can be jealous.

So there it is went on a bit didn't I?

I don't believe in it really...

I guess at first glance you'd call both my partner and I butch. I just call us androgynous. And I like that look.

I've been called sir, but been hit on by men. I have a deep voice and when my son was about 5 he asked me if tools were a girl think, because that's what I do...I love tools.

But I also sew.

I can cry at a movie, but also change my own breaks. There is no TOP in our relationship. It's a democracy with each of us having our own specialties.

We can look at men and say "that's a fine looking boy", but I could never have sex with one. I could have sex with any woman, any time, any where.

I used to say I felt like a guy...until I realized I was a woman, all woman...with my own likes and feelings. I could be a lesbian of my own persuasion...but I was no man. How could I be?

I say love yourself...get comfy....it's what you've got.

People say that I'm a lesbian, but I think of myself as asexual.

Yeah I find women attractive, but I gewt scared and push girls away, my sex drive is none existant so I suppose that's one of the reasons I keep my distance.

I suppose I could say the Hedgehog's Dilemma is me down to a tee.