Aspie Women Attracted to "Bad Boys"?

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Out of curiousity have you run across Aspie women attracted to your so called "Bad Boys"?

I'm not sure what you are asking. Whose bad boys are you talking about?

I'm not attracted to bad boys, though I like to fantasize about criminals

Before I met my husband, I had quite the liking for bad men. I've got a real good guy, but he's still all tattooed from the days when he used to be bad....Grrrr...

what do you mean by 'bad boys'?
I'd rather hang out with an honest as*hole (sometimes called 'bad boys') than a sly as*hole (sometimes self-proclaimed 'nice guys'), but I'm not going to date either. I'm going to date a man who acts like an adult.

I've never understood the attraction for bad boys. I want to date the nicest guy I can get my hands on.

If they are physically attractive, then I'll be attracted to them whether they are bad or good. It's purely physical, though, and for relationships (*if* I was interested in them) I prefer good guys.

Guilty.

Not real attracted to bad boys although I don't know in terms of what bad boys are..."tatooed tough-looking guys?" "criminals?" "misogynist guys?" "aggressive guys?"..and so on.

I don't really find the tough thug act attractive in terms of bad boys. Then again, I don't really find myself attracted to "one" type of guys, it varies.

I don't care for bad boys because of their abusive behaviors. Unfortunately, there is something about me that they find irresistable. Last one caused me to move several hundred miles away & put up with parental abuse because he would not let go of me. It took me more than a year to get him to leave me alone! After that, I was able to move out of my parents' house! I'm thankful to be finally rid of the abuse!

As I see, I would like to add that what is here written like 'bad boys' I could translate it like females aspies girls attracted to 'strong behaviour, pushy boys'. In this case maybe I could include myself a little in it. But, for clarifiying things I don't see that like aspies females wanting to be treated badly for bad boys, but some aspie females that only seem interested in boys with the enough pushy behaviour for waking up us from our own confused feelings sometimes, also. A person who's capable to be straight spoken with us, as some of us we are kind of naive in social procedures of dating or relationships. These 'bad boys' which we refer here, are maybe also aspies males with unsolved issues inside their lifes also, or maybe just neurotypicals, but in both cases they will be persons with no problems to say what they really expect from us, what they really want with us, so that is a thing that some of aspie females will fall unconsciously under, because of the chaos some of us aspie females may have inside the complicate world of dating and relationships, social 'cues' and so on. It just seems easier. Althouh the problem is that we can fall under unhealthy relationships for that matter, .. I see it more like some primary instincts some of us apsie females look for a 'strong behaved' male to protect us, the need we have for feeling somebody wants us with lot of passion, who will take us without no hesitation, to make us love with passion, .. Yes, it seems all too much based on primary instincts', but that is what it is afterall. This way, although not always the best choice , we feel our libido pushed it up, and feel like the 'woman' we are.

Hmm. You see, there are several ways to look at this.

When I was younger it was:
A) 'good boy' as in conventional, hard-working, well-off, what the older generation of women used to call 'good husband material'
B) 'bad boy' as in rebellious outsider

I 'officially' went for A) while secretly preferring B).

Of course, the real distinction, I came to find out, was actually between:

C) 'good boy' as in faithful, non-violent (verbally or physically) and treats you decently
D) 'bad boy' as in...as*hole

For many years I was with a man who was a combination of A) and D). This is dangerous, because such a guy does everything possible to disguise his assholeness from the world in general, while exhibiting it to you in private.

I'm now with a man who's B) and C), and I much prefer it that way.

I thought you were assexual?

I am. Romantic attraction is entirely different from sexual attraction

Yes, me! I am sure I am not alone in saying this, but rule breakers can be very exciting.

But more than that, I want “my guy” to show me the clubs, the bars, the lively places. PLEASE don’t talk to me about Star Trek, or Fantasy & SciFi, or other geeky lifeless topics. Take charge, don’t treat me like your sister on a family outing. Be bold. Be sexy. Drive a motorcycle because it is exciting, not a Honda Civic because it is "practical". Explore caves, not internet chat rooms.

I am soooo tired of ‘PC’ guys who have been emasculated.

Et tu, Brute?

I'm friends with another assexual, and nothing turns them on. I thought thats how it works?