"I've always wanted to be a mom." Seriously?

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Ever since I was a little kid, I always wanted to have kids when I grow up.

Heck, I'm in my fifties, and I still want to have kids!

I had one doll of the baby variety as a child it was one of my favourite toys, I kept it with me till my adoptive maternal grandmother took it away(it was a black baby doll as opposed to the blond blue eyed white one I had been given I traded it with my friend because she wanted the blonde blue eyed baby better they were the same except for skin eye and hair colour) and I did imagine or play mum with it although in my odd sitting there thinking about what I'd do way of playing instead of acting it out I would imagine being married to her older brother too so normal in a way except I never talked much or acted out playing .In my teens I didn't want kids I had been around babies and found them noisy and stressful. I was also told I shouldn't /couldn't have kids.

in my twentys I started really wanting kids, really badly, like some kind of switch turned on, and I was married so we had them although it was difficult, had a lot of miscarriages.

We have two they are not really little I wouldn't trade them for anything, it's hard both are not NT my son seemed like he would be low functioning till about age four but he has surpassed all expectation. I think NT kids might be harder to raise then them though.Sometimes I feel inadequate but maybe all parents do, and still sometimes I would like another, but resources are scarce at the moment and I am divorced although still I live with my ex.


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Never dreamed of having kids nor was it ever a "great desire." Never understood the whole biological clock thing either. LOL I also have 2 kids, love them both dearly. But there have been many challenges in raising them. I don't think I would have missed that had I not had kids.

who always wanted to be a mom? i'll make her dreams come true!

I never thought about having children when I was a child. When I began thinking about it, I was certain (and still am) that I didn't want them. I have a friend who, since we were in high school, has enjoyed looking at bridal magazines, planning her perfect wedding, imagining what her children will be like, and I just don't understand what she gets out of that.
I remember that when I was little my fantasies about the future involved wearing a suit of armour, having a big sword, and going on quests. I was given dolls, but I never treated them like children; I either dismantled them or picked them up/put them down repeatedly to see their eyes open and close. All of my dreams have always been career-related, the thought of children hardly enters my mind, and when it has, it hasn't appealed.

nope. no mom fantasies. didn't really play house, dolls, or plan a wedding.

but when i was a teen and starting having a lot of natural frustration towards my own parents, i started having conversations in my head of how they could have handled things better- what i would have said/done instead- and i directed these conversations towards my imagined future kids.

so i think i have had a normal desire for a family, at least i do now, but not as a kid.

As a child, I always wanted kids. Of course it was always the romanticized version of the fantasy, but that's all I had back then-- fantasy. I was still stuck on the first step of making and keeping friends, let alone boyfriends who would then become future husbands and father my children. I was a very lonely child, but now that I'm a mother, I can honestly say that I didn't know what I was in for. It's a good thing too, or I might have chickened out... The rewards have been many, though the trials have been tough.

I am 21 and would like to get married and have children.
I would love to be married as I would feel more secure, people work harder to stay together when married. I would love my boyfriend one day to make that comitment to me.
After marriage I would want a baby, I like children very much and know I would be a good mother.

I think about having kids a lot as I worry about my future.

I haven't always wanted to be a mum, but now I don't think I would be with anybody who didn't want to start a family.

I love kids and I have an automatic maternal instinct when I am around them. I have been a nanny before and I have babysat alot and kids really enjoy having me as their babysitter because I don't belittle them and I can relate to them on their level... but I have sorta given up on the idea of ever having kids. I am pretty sure I am infertile...my lifestyle is not very stable. I don't really want to have a kid with my primary partner..we do have too many messy neuro-issues between us that would both get passed on to the kid and then also make it difficult for us to raise the kid.

I did not play mother also when I was little, neither with baby-dolls, almost the pretending play game was not my favourite, dressing them up, feeding them, bathing them, not really.
But now in my twentie's I really feel my maternal instinct growing up, very strong if I am sincere, and I like children and I would love to have mines I realized now my desire for babies it much stronger than the pals around me, ..

I am 18. I don't have any kids. And up until very recently, I swore up and down that I would never, EVER give birth to any children for as long as I live. I never played with baby dolls. And I never rushed over to coo and babble to a baby that had just entered the room, like all the other girls and women. I just stood to the side, minding my business.

I still don't want kids. But my fiancé wants just one child, after we are married. I'm willing to compromise, as long as it's only one child. I don't think I could handle more than that. I probably could only barely handle one child!

I dread the day when it's time to consider introducing a new life into the world and guiding it from birth to adulthood. But hopefully, that won't be for another ten to fifteen years!

I think babies are cute and I babysat ALOT as a kid, but I don't have any desire to have kids nor did I ever when I was a kid myself. It bothered me when I heard other girls talk about having babies and it is what women do, to me I feel that there is more to life then having babies and there other things I would rather devote my time to.... for this reason I don't think I would make a good mom anyway.