How to decrease one's sex drive?

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I have the oposite problem. I have absolutely no sex drive at all. The Prozac, Straterra and hormonal imbalace(or the pill when on it) messes it all up. My husband is oposite of me.

being in relationship with someone who has a lower sex drive is tricky, but so, is the issue that he would feel inadequate or that she is a sex maniac (the whole, insatiable woman "problem"). we all come with different rhythms, and those rhythms aren't constant. and im glad garyww pointed out that it's mainly brain based, even on the manly side.
i went thru a time of feeling totally abnormal and wrong for having a high libido (higher than partner). i went through times when i knew i was doing it too much.

but then a time of a sort of discovery: masturbating/sex as a stim.
oh yes, it's stimulating for everyone, integrating for everyone, but for autistic people i think it can have a lot of benefits
i started early and had no latency period and went through periods of being compulsive with it. that extended to sex when i started up with that. i find that i literally am more coherent verbally, can feel my body more (it doesn't feel like it's in pieces), sensory defensiveness lessened, of course i sleep better, etc. i was depressed growing up too, and sure, may have been escape but i think there was a desire component as well as a need for integration. i have been near-meltdown, not really feeling sexual, but needing comfort from my partner and then we have good sex and it brings me right to a more integrated place.

just a thought. if there is any sensory component, yoga would help, because it has many integrating benefits, compresses (applying weight to) joints, increasing blood flow to other areas. however if practiced in certain ways yoga can be very activating and can increase your libido. kundalini yoga focuses a lot on energy. if you're interested in breath work, google nadi shodana (a calming, centering breath), and kapalabhati (an activating breath, raises energy and heat). im a trained yoga teacher pm me if you want to talk more abt this.

I have never really had a problem with being incompatiable. All the men I have been with have had strong sex drives.

I am in the same position of wanting to stop my sexual desire...have considered clitoral circumcision and really wish it was available here in the US...my mate is suffering from ED and I am experiencing physical discomfort and extreme anxiety due to my lack of satisfaction.
I try the toys and masturbation but that actually increases my libido even more and I still have the desire to be held and loved by him...he loves me don't take that the wrong way but shows little affection these days due to my constant longing for sex.
He got some herbal stuff but stopped taking it...he seems to have no desire to even try.
I do not want to seek pleasure out of our relationship.
I found that yoga and meditation is stimulating for me as well...
Psychologically this is affecting me...and I feel unwanted and undesirable...and I have to do something.
I wanted to say that I felt a bit better finding out that I am not alone with this...
I know I have no sexual desire on Paxil so maybe I can try St. John's Wort???? Does anyone know if that might help?

At one time I made religion a hobby, I would go and read about different types, etc.
Walk through the streets trying to feel 'light' or without wants of that type, I think I thought I was some sort of monk....
Spent time helping others, organizing dating site partys that I never dated at/ gave profile advice,,,,,etc
Worked for a few years as I recall....

Take the focus off yourself,
Good luck

Are there anyway to lower the sex drives of men?

My husband like to playfuly remind me of having sex, I am not in the mood often... and while he tells me not to worry about it, I can't help but feel pressured and bad about it.

I know how men are, but I can't just push a button to make myself horny.

christ, why can't my wife be a horn dog instead of a cold fish?

sigh

Just have plenty of sex

I want to destroy my sex drive permanently I'm approaching 18 and it's already causing intense pain.

Acceptance, acceptance that you may live your whole life and perhaps even die, alone.
this will dump your sex drive almost down to zero, it will still be there if needed, but otherwise the desires drops away with the hope.

Out of all the things I have done and tried in my life this is what worked best for me.

total acceptance.

look at it this way, your basing your happiness and contentment on that of not feeling you can be whole or happy without someone in your life, when the truth of it is you need to find that fulfillment within your self first before your ever truly ready for a lasting relationship, and if you never find that, then you need to find it with your self, you only have one life, enjoy it, don't count on others doing it for you.

Soy milk and sugar don't actually work. I drink lots of both and still have a raging high sex drive, it makes me distracted sometimes.

I can't think of any way you can lower it, other than thinking about s**t or vomit (or something similarly revolting) every time you get horny.