Do you feel like a man?

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Quite often people mistake me on forums especially as being a man because of my behaviour... When I was a child I always wanted to be a boy as my mother used to put me in dresses which stopped me from being able to play properly so I loathed them. Growing up I always liked dolls and dancing, but also I was interested in boys stuff as well. I would say I was more asexual rather than male or female.

Definitely. As a child I always disliked dolls and all other girl's toys/game and opted to play with the boys. As an adult, I usually feel like I'm just "acting" at being a woman.

ever since I was a kid I thought gender roles were stupid. obviously women have babies, but beyond that, who cares?

since I've gotten older, I've learned there are real biological differences that make things harder for one sex or the other, but I still pretty much don't care. my husband called me his "man-wife". I call him my "child bride". we're not at completely opposite ends of the masculine/feminine spectrum.

Growing up, I had a hard enough time acting human, never mind being feminine on top!

I'm bisexual, but gender identity is rather separate from that. Certainly women are harder to understand, to "read", and most of the time when there's a questions that tends to line people up along gender lines, I end up on the male side. I'm perfectly happy with my body, don't feel like I need a penis, but neither gender role really fits me all that well. I recently came across the term 'genderqueer', and I like it.

Yes, I feel mentally like a man, because I don't fit in to stereotypes of females, such as being excessively emotionally, having really bad PMS, liking romance films or "chick flicks", worrying about my weight, or caring about hair, clothes, makeup, shoes, and men.

I have no idea.
I don't fit in with girls for some reason, maybe there's something masculine about me or I don't know how to play the little games?
I'm tomboyish but I feel on the outside when I'm hanging out with guys. I can't shake always being the "girl" and all that crap.
So I don't feel like either gender. I wish I could just step outside those limits, but how I do that is beyond me.

I am an interesting scenario. I feel so disconnected from what I was born that I am going through the process of changing it. I have always felt I was female, and just really didn't know what I could do about it for the longest time, simply because I didn't think anyone would accept me for it... Then I find out my parents would accept me, and thathas given me the strength to actually start the process. Now, I just have roughly 2.5 years to go before I will likely be able to get the surgery, and an unknown amount of time before I will start hormones.

Oh, gosh, me too. I remember working in this office once where there was this one girl who liked semi-naked firefighter calendars - big muscular guys with sixpacks. All the other girls 'got' what the attraction was, but it was lost on me. I used to get teased in my family as a teen for liking 'sickly looking' men, and my dad said if I ever brought home a 'long haired Marxist' he'd throw me out.

I think I'm one of the in-betweeners. I'm definitely a straight girl (wth the qualification above), and I also find men easier to get on with conversationally because I find many (but not all) of them less superficial than many (but not all) women. That's in everyday society; the difference is way less pronounced when I'm in alternative, artsy, musical circles, so I guess it's the conventionally 'feminine' thing I don't like. I'm bored to tears by girl talk about fashion, beauty and babies, but I'm also pretty much bored by boy talk about sport and cars. I don't have or want children, and I find that makes me a bit of an oddity. And I don't diet, which can in some workplaces cut you out of heck of a lot of female social interaction.

Appearance, as a 'feminine' thing, has been the bugbear of my life. My folks weren't expecting another child, and then my mother only wanted boys, and then when I turned out to be a girl there was this huge effort to make me into a real old-fashioned hyper-girly girl...which failed miserably. It was all supposed to be about me becoming obsessed with my looks and with fiddling around with them...but at the same time, drawing as little attention to myself as possible. Go figure. If you're told that one gender exists for itself and the other exists purely to be looked at - or not - naturally you're not going to want to associate with the gender that has such a restricted function in life. Because this, to her, was what being a woman meant, I don't believe my mother ever forgave me or liked me very much.

Anyway. What I do these days is fluctuate between bumming-around casual and gussying myself up when I want to and how I want to. I refuse to work for any organization that has a dress code. How I look is my choice, and if it doesn't fit some people's view of 'feminine', tough. Even when I am wearing something girly, I tend to look a little like a man in drag - but I think men in drag are pretty cool, so that's all right. I was also told, by an old boss's wife who met me, that I had a 'really lovely deep husky voice', which I think is a pretty cool thing to be told.

As a 6 foot tall redhead, who needs a man to lug furniture?!

I rebuilt landrovers and drove them like I meant it off road, maintained my motorbike and lost most of my male freinds round the country bends on it.... got called 'mate' a lot and giggled when their eyes slid southwards and they'd go, 'oh, sorry, luv...'

Sex has always been about sensation and a willing partner- preferably male because its a rare day I meet an NT woman who interests me (no disrespect but it is considered polite to chat afterwards and there's not many who'll want to jump up and strip down a computer with me instead!)

Gotta be proud of who we are, seems to me it's a side-effect of our rewiring which brings so much along with it.

I always related to men better than to women. Partially because they think more like I do (logically & practically rather than emotionally--yes, that is an oversimplification, I know). Partially because we had much more in common interest-wise. And partially because I didn't feel as pressured by guys--girls tended to be more judgmental. I'm much more comfortable in a group of guys than in a house of women.

The nice thing about being female is that there really are fewer negative connotations attached to cross-gender interests, fashion, etc. When a girl wears jeans, a sports team tee, and a baseball cap, nobody thinks twice. When a guy wears a dress and heels, it's a different story. I enjoy being a woman, as I can pursue my interests without the harsh judgment and assumptions that men face.

I am heterosexual, so I can't say I'm truly a "boy trapped in a girl's body" as I once reported to my pediatrician at age 12. Since I like men, perhaps I'm a gay man trapped in a woman's body?

I've sometimes wondered if because I feel somewhat gender-neutral myself, I tend to be attracted to men whose appearance reflects the same thing (even though they most likely actually feel 100% masculine, were you to ask them).

Hmmmm....



Mostly, no. I don't really think about it. But I hate it when my mom says things like: "You're the woman of the house. You should do this or that. Blah, blah...."

i feel like neither....i feel stuck inbetween, kind of like someone from another planet

I feel pretty traditionally feminine, just more like a childlike feminine.

You can always live your life full-time as male. There are many female-to-male transsexual people out there. Hormones make your body like a boy.

LOL I might have one to spare very soon if he does pull his head out of his butt. But to answer the question I've always felt like a woman but as a little girl I wanted to be a man because I was told the jobs I realy wanted to do when I grew-up were just for men. One time I locked myself in the bathroom and wasn't coming out until I was a boy. Needless to say it didn't work.