What's up with AS girls marrying so early...?

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I don't think all As women get to marry early, it depends on the personality, I think.
For me I'm not still, but If I had it would be mainly cause I do have maternal instincts, and I'm a woman, strong, but still sooner or later we tend to 'need' someone by our side in general, so he would be my 'chubby' I guess. But as I said it depends on the personality. More dependent, less, weaker, stronger, etc .. Personally I think I have fought a lot for remainig tough and free as mush I could, but I do feel I'm starting to really 'need' somebody. (age, sex, life circunstances, etc)

I didn't read all 6 pages......sorry....

I can relate to your 'not feeling emotionally mature enough' statement. I never felt like I got along with my peer group, I either get along really well with people younger or older than me. I have always felt out of place with people my age. When I was younger I didn't date, I didn't start dating until I was around 24, it's also when I first started having sex. Relationships were nightmares for me. I didn't know how to act in one. I felt like everything I did was wrong. I was 31 when I got married to my hubby, he's the only guy to ever accept me for who I am, all my oddities, btw he's 10 years younger than I am. I was 35 when I gave birth to my son and 37 when I gave birth to my daughter.

People always refer to me as a 'late bloomer' but that's not it at all. I don't like wasting time, playing games etc, because I don't know how. When I was younger I didn't feel like I could handle dating and wasn't emotionally ready for it. I feel comfortable where I am in life because I took the time I needed and found the right person.

That means I must have originality since I'm not married. Funny thing is, I always thought it was the NT girls who tended to lack originality more.

I can definitely relate to the OP, I'm not married and have never felt emotionally mature enough for it or even a relationship.

Does seem to be a number of girls who do or in some cases have children too young. Trouble is there may be a child invovled. So I don't really know the answere to the question. Maybe religion has something to do with it. I knew one girl who was in early stages of pregnancy that was getting married for this reason. Her dad was of baptist faith and wasn't about to welcome the child without it having a mother and father.

This is where I think genders differ...but I'm not so sure guys don't marry young either. My brother in law's an excellent example of one who married into his teens and then divorced. Maybe some girls that're very young have these unrealisitic ideals about what love is....like no father figure?

To those who are married, I'm not putting you down. I think I know where the OP may be coming from on this question as I've seen a number of very young girls marry moreso than guys or talk about it as if it's their ultimate wish or dream come true. Although I do think the attitude is changing more and more. I think people are beginning to wait until maturity before marrying and having children.

I can't imagine what it must've been like back then when there were no birth control pills or condoms and what most girls went through. Ugh...

Self employed ones with a home/office.

I started dating when I was 13, not because I was boy crazy or hormonal, but because my late father was the first person who showed attention to my mother, and I didn't want to end up the same as her.

During my dating years, I didn't believe in serial monogamy (ie. date someone exclusively for a long time, breakup, lather, rinse, repeat) so I dated a rotating number of boys non-exclusively (like people used to in the 1950's and earlier).

My theory was that if I dated this way, I would be less likely to have regrets if/when I did eventually marry/pairbond.

I thought of dates as a series of interviews in which my job was to find out if a particular guy might potentially be a good friend. I always knew I could never love anyone (or eventually be physically intimate/emotionally vunerable with them) unless the relationship was based on a bedrock of friendship, shared interests/worldview, trust, and equality, so this was how I initially filtered the guys I dated.

It may sound rather cold (or perhaps not, since I'm used to being the odd person out in a sea of NT women) but at heart I'm a loner, so even though the social interaction scared me, dating like that was the logical choice for me.

My assumption was that I'd date like into early adulthood while remaining comfortably single and independent at heart; perhaps growing bored eventually and fully embracing my quirkyalone tendencies.

Or perhaps I'd eventually find someone who'd become a very close friend; someone who shared my goals, sensibilities, and lifeview (ie. love travel and the creative arts, didn't want children, etc.), someone excited and passionate about the life of the mind. I assumed that if I ever did find such a person, I'd be much older (ie. 40's or 50's) and was very comfortable with that scenario.

It didn't work out that way.

I met my husband (in a taxi cab when I was carrying what turned out to be our favorite book) when I was 19. We were friends for months, becoming closer and closer until we couldn't imagine living separately or dating anyone else. A loner like me with similar enthusiasms, we two loners somehow ended up fitting together perfectly.

I was married when I was 22. The marriage only lasted a month and a half. (We had known each other for a year and a half before getting married. so it was not an impulsive marriage.)At the time I was very much in love, which makes any person blinded to logic and obsessive...but I am a particularly obsessive person. I was also obsessed with the idea of having a child; I researched childhood disorders and diseases, child rearing. And generally anything related to children. I also spent a great deal of my time daydreaming about what my children would be like. At the time I was broke and un-employed, but I figured things would just magically work themselves out, and I would be in the perfect position to have children in a few short years. In my case I was simply immature and naive and got carried away. He turned out to be a total jerk, but that is a whole other long story.

I don't want to get married when I'm older just cohabitate.
I do want children when I'm older. You know what even now at this young age I get insanely jealous when I see a pregnant woman, and seeing little babies or child birth on TV moves me almost to tears and I always wish it was me. I wish I wasn't so young gggrrrr.

I have never thought of this as an Aspie thing at all. If one thing, I assumed Aspies (male and female) would marry later, due to our difficulty with relationships. My NT mom married at 23. Maybe it's the generation difference, but I at 23 don't consider marrying anytime soon. I'm not even sure whether I want to marry at all, but that will depend on what I and my boyfriend decide on at some point.

It would take one hell of a man to convince me to give up half of my identity (i.e. my surname) and assets to him. I personally think marriage is a waste of time and money, originally designed by men to control women. If I ever marry, then you will know that I have found a worthy man. My current boyfriend doesn't believe in the concept of marriage either, hence that's the only reason why we haven't walked down the aisle.

I'm 21 and I can't imagine being married. The idea freaks me out like nothing else, and the major reason is, "I'd have to spend SO MUCH TIME with that person!" D:

I am not married, though I did come close to it not long ago. I can definitely see why aspie women would marry young, at least if they are anything like me.

If I make a connection with someone it takes a lot of effort and work and is very difficult (I have few personal relationships) and if I manage to forge a link like that I want it to be a lifetime link - no more relationship-making processes in the future. Not to take the romance out of it of course, because that is all part of making a romantic relationship in the first place. I would just rather have something steady immediately than look around for a while first.

I'm 23, and I got married when I was 21. My husband and I had been together for 5 years at the time, and it just felt right. This is the only serious relationship I've ever had, and I just can't imagine not being with him.

I married at 22 right out of college. I always wanted to be a mom and romantic relationships were my obsession.

No early marriage here. I was with my ex-boyfriend from age 19-28, and luckily we did not get married. I should have ended it before he eventually did. He didn't understand any of my AS traits, and kept telling me to STOP and couldn't understand how hard it was for me. I always thought marriage was such a big step I didn't know if I'd ever be ready. I can't see myself as a grown up. I'm also very indecisive, and the decision to be with someone forever tends to be overwhelming for me and I'm not sure if I can see myself making a decision like that (although maybe I just haven't met the right person). However, for some reason, I would have married him because maybe I thought it was what I "should" do, and I doubted if I'd ever find anyone who could put up with me because I was convinced I was so defective.

Current bf wants to get married, but it's more for family/cultural reasons (it seems that when you find someone you like, you better marry them ASAP or family will insist you get in an arranged marriage). I don't even know where I stand on the whole idea of marriage. As for kids, since I can barely take care of myself and need so much solitude, I just don't think it's a good idea.

I got married at 24.
I think I just got lucky. Met my husband in 1st year in college, and we had lots of interests in common as well, so my special interests didn't bother him in the slightest.
Bought a house with him 3 years later, so were committed then. He proposed then when I was 22 or 23, and we were married at 24.
I love hi to bits and I can't imagine life without him.
I have a 15 mths old baby and am expecting another.

I am not sure being an aspie had much to do with it, although maybe it did?
I think I was just really lucky to meet the right person so soon.

Cause my mother had always hated me and tortured me, and my father (who truly loved me and understood me, although lived unaware of my mother's actions) was murdered when I was 16. So I ran off and got married 6 months later.

Lasted for 4 years. Now I am on marriage number three, but with a nice, semi-aspie boy, who I love very much (we're like barnacles -- I call him "my human").

My story is not the usual, though.