I want to Want sex!

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Anyone else have this problem? I'm married and my husband thinks I'm not attracted to him but I simply just don't want sex! Anyone have suggestions on how to boost the drive?

If you are on antidepressants, you may need to switch to a different one.
My first antidepressant destroyed my libido I couldn't even remember desire. I could not do that to my husband, and so switched and am fine now.
You can go to a doctor. A number of medical conditions and medications can cause this.
In the meantime, you can fake it as a gift of love to your husband.

Is he doing his share of the housework? That can cause libido problems. Also arguments or personal/professional stresses can cause libido problems.

Women can also have preformance anxiety but because of how we're structured, it shows as lack of interest in sex sometimes.

If you can check out what is causing you to not want sex it can help.

Is it any of the above, or is it discomfort with some aspect of sex? or something else?

I haven't read it yet, but the book 'the domestic sex goddess' seems to be a good read to deal with psycological reasons for low libido.

Although, bear in mind that you and he may have different sex drives as well.

I've found over the years the what feeds my sex drive is knowing my body, that is, my sexual response. It is been going after my own pleasure in the experience (in balance) and being responsible for my own sexual response. In other words, knowing what makes me feel good then doing it.

I worked in a vegan restaurant for a couple of years and found our clientele very esthetic and far too non connected to their bodies to have much of a sex drive, and most were celibate or only made love for procreation purposes. I started supplementing their diet with T6635 Red Star Nutritional Yeast for Vitamin B-12 and they had a sexual renaissance. They started having to work with how they were going to deal with passion and sexual desire when in a vegan or satvic vegan diet with the B-12 suppliment introduced them back to the 'wild thing'.


Merle

Thanks everyone! I think it must be a combination of a few of these things. My plan is to up my B-12 intake, lower my soy intake, my husband agreed to do more with the kids and around the house after I showed him Micheal Kimmel's video too!
Sincere thanks!

Hi!

This is an older thread. But the topic is very interesting for me.
I'm like you! Its not that I dislike sex.. I just dont.. need it. In a way I do. But I tend to forget about it. My fiancée gets a bit "grumpy" once in a while when he tries to get me into the mood, and I react with being ticklish. (uh, is that even a word? But it tickles at least. When he touches me at my special parts.)
I dont really know how to fix that.
I do take 75mg Effexor (Venlafaxin), and 150 mg Voxra (Bupropionhydroklorid) against depression and the later since I have sleepingproblems wich make me supertired. I can easily sleep around 12 hours and still be tired. But Im working with that, and right now I go to bed at 23 and try to go up at 9-10, wich works. Voxra makes me a little more awake, but I also need an intake of coffein to keep me awake during the day. (Only time where I fail is when I have been socialy active.. then Im more tired the next day and usually need sleep during the day aswell.)
Anyhow. A year ago I took 225mg Effexor, and when I now only take 75mg, I dont feel any difference. In sexuality or mood.

I have a bit of a problem with people touching me.. I feel uncomfortable with touches and it has to be on my terms if its going to work. Me and my fiancée is working on that aswell, so it does feel better for me atleast.
But the sex-part.. *sigh*

I described myself as Asexual, for many years. I simply didn't care about sex. and also had a problem with being touched, unless I expected it. I started going to a Chinese medicine practitioner, and was being treated for fatigue and fibromyalgia. He started me on acupuncture, and herbs. Suddenly, I had a libido! It was weird. I started being interested in dating again, and now I am in a relationship. (Although I still tire easily. We're still working on that.)