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starygrrl
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17 Mar 2010, 12:54 pm

I am definately on the overly emotional end the spectrum. It is not hard to make me cry, and the problem used to be much worse growing up.
I still can get angry, but I am much more likely to break into tears and cry alot. I am very sensitive to things that make me frustrated.



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18 Mar 2010, 12:54 pm

i used to cry ALOT when i was younger until about 19 or 20. Then I started doing drugs to numb the intensity of sadness that I'd sometimes feel. i'm 25 now, and i can still make myself cry jjust by thinking of some stupid thought like a deer chewing some grass or something. i can control it in public thank God, i used to not be able to. but i get this weird feeling all over my body, especially in my stomach when i feel like im about to cry. i have to concentrate really hard on something else to control it. yeah, i'm hyper hyper sensitive. i could be having a normal conversation with someone and they'll say something like, your hair looks weird, and i'l feel that weird tingly feeling all over my body and in my stomach and if i dont stop myself i'll start to cry. im much more in control now, because it used to freak people out. i am emotional though. i cant argue about something im passionate about with someone. i will lose it and have to leave the room. especially if i feel like someone is being condescending. i will LOSE it! i dunno. sometimes i think i need drugs like prozac or something



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18 Mar 2010, 12:57 pm

i will laugh if someone is mad or yelling at me. i dunno. like if my boyfriend is really mad with me or my mom is mad with me i will feeling like laughing! i'll even smile! i cant help it. but if my dad or any man that is an authority figure yells at me i WILL cry. i hate when people at church try to hug me and talk to me and smile. i will sometimes just ignore them because i feel too overwhelmed emotionally. like they want something from me that i dont have or something. i dunno. people exhaust me. they need too much.



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19 Mar 2010, 4:53 am

yes. It has really, really hurt me on jobs. I only learned on here it is a symptom of AS for females specifically. I never knew this before. I'm a bit upset I went this long in life not understanding why people kind of drew back from my intense emotions.. Too late now, lol.



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19 Mar 2010, 5:34 am

when I was a kid I would cry when something bad happened(minor things and major things),
like for example when someone was yelling at me.

growing up it became less of a problem.

When something bad happens now I tend to feel like crying but not cry.



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22 Mar 2010, 9:33 pm

I have problems getting emotional over someone's death, but lose a cat, and I'm whaling.

I have a high chance of being really super emotional during that time of the month, too.

However, when it involves me, and it involves something I've been upset, irritated, or questionable about, and it actually happens or it is true, then I pretty much do the crying thing. It's not like I want attention, I just really guess I really feel this way about these things.

I'm not sure why I still cry like I'm 8. :S



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23 Mar 2010, 12:19 am

I cry at the drop of a hat during movies/TV shows if something is sad or even happy. I have even been known to shed a few tears during a TV commercial. It is truly pathetic.
I also cry when I get frustrated or people start yelling at me, which I find really embarrassing.



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12 Apr 2010, 4:36 pm

geezer wrote:
Crying is, for many people, a way of controlling those around them. You say, "most of my family members know Im very sensitive they know how to act around me." We teach others how to treat us. You've taught your family members that where you're concerned, they have to walk on eggs.


I cry often, and 99% of the time I am alone.

It's a response to being emotionally overwhelmed, maybe because I cannot express myself emotionally the way most people are able. I would never manipulate anyone. I cannot imagine this scenario.

I know Geezer was well intentioned with this post, but it makes me very angry.


geezer wrote:
You *can* have an emotionally rich and authentic life.



I'm new here, and undiagnosed. So feel free to take what I say with a grain of salt. But I have read a lot of posts on WP and in this thread in particular two NT posts make me very upset. The other one said something like "fears are controlling your life, and you need to come to terms with these issues."

I'm not even sure why. Like I said I am sure they were well intentioned. And I think people can work through a lot of problems. But advice from someone whose emotions are wired correctly to AS women who are exasperated sounds very patronizing to me. It's as if you were starving and you were unable to find any food, but someone walked up to you and said "well, you could learn to eat!" How would you explain what was holding you back?

It's very difficult going through life with this sort of disconnect with other people happening all the time. Words do not explain. It's just very isolating. And women are supposed to be the ones who comfort others, but these words of comfort to me are unrealistic and meaningless when I hear them, so I don't know what to offer.


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12 Apr 2010, 5:40 pm

On the emotional IQ test my "emotional control and maintenance" was 55. Kind of gives you a clue. :roll:
My emotions are a lot more intense than most people (which seems to be very common in the autistic community I've noticed). When I'm angry I'm RAGING when I'm excited I'm bouncing off the walls and when I'm scared I'm petrified and when I'm sad It's the end of the world. This wouldn't be so bad if I wasn't so emotionally immature and backwards, but because I am my reactions to these emotions are usually really over the top so if I'm feeling angry I'll go into a big rage where I'm screaming at people (in public I just get teary eyes). I do cry waaaaay too easily and I'm sensitive to pretty much everything (my problems are not so much to do with sensory sensitivity but emotional sensitivity, the only "overload" I get is emotion based.)

Also I often can't pin point what my emotions are, I'll feel a strong emotion about something but get really confused and frustrated because I don't know what it is I'm feeling.


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13 Apr 2010, 2:38 pm

I'm very hypersensitive and always cried very easily. For awhile in high school I could delay my crying by having asthma attacks instead:-/ I cry at almost any correction, feeling stupid. And I cry at happy things, too, or things on television that are good or bad.



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14 Apr 2010, 5:11 pm

That's me as well.



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14 Apr 2010, 7:04 pm

alana wrote:
yes. It has really, really hurt me on jobs. I only learned on here it is a symptom of AS for females specifically. I never knew this before. I'm a bit upset I went this long in life not understanding why people kind of drew back from my intense emotions.. Too late now, lol.
I didn't know it was a female AS trait until I read this thread. I get very overwrought, especially if there is some injustice. It's like I can't take it and I just break down. (I was told that's an AS trait too, to feel like things are strongly right or wrong and to be outraged at injustice.)

When I was a kid I would cry if I was asked to do something I couldn't do, even when a teacher asked me a question in class that I didn't know the answer to. I didn't know how to say, "Sorry but I can't do this." It was very embarrassing.



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14 Apr 2010, 8:11 pm

I cry rarely when I'm very /overwhelmed - and then only in private, it tends to be very intense and I end up hitting myself just to get out of the emotional black hole I seem to get sucked into. I hate it and end up feeling like crap afterward.

Sometimes I cry at sappy stuff in movies - mostly cartoons for some reason, and always during Mary Poppins - but that's a different kind of crying that doesn't bother me so much.. though it is embarrassing to be crying during a Disney movie >.<



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14 Apr 2010, 8:14 pm

This was and still is a big issue for me. As a little kid, I'd cry if I was in a crowd and felt overwhelmed, or if I was playing with other kids and didn't know what to do, or if I had a bad memory pop up, or if I didn't understand classwork, or if I was clumsy at a game. I've kind of learned how to not cry in public anymore, but sometimes I'll get some traumatic trigger and just break down completely. And I still get really angry in crowds if I can't move, or if a bad smell like incense is around, or if lots of people are yelling. I don't like crying in front of people at all, but sometimes hugging someone or petting the cat calms me down.



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14 Apr 2010, 8:53 pm

Anniemaniac wrote:
Wishing someone a happy birthday makes me tear up. Does anyone else get that?


yes. and saying "happy new year."

bee33 wrote:
I get very overwrought, especially if there is some injustice. It's like I can't take it and I just break down. (I was told that's an AS trait too, to feel like things are strongly right or wrong and to be outraged at injustice.)


if I'm in a room with people making sexist, racist, or homophobic jokes i will totally shut down and not be able to talk to them anymore. and i generally need to remove myself from the situation, because i feel a combo of anger and guilt for being so sensitive about it. i have had to leave jobs because of my intolerance of this sort of environment.


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15 Apr 2010, 1:12 pm

I definitely have the social awkwardness and embarassment, but if anything I'm seen as too unemotional.