I'm done with this BS!! !!

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I tried to be girly-girly for a while, but it just wasn't me. I love dirty jokes and oversized t-shirts.

Yes, indeed. I like burping and comfortable shoes.

I have to say I do like enough of "girly" asethetically but I find it too hard to conform to it such as the clothing, makeup or anything that's in style but uncomortable to touch my skin. It's great there's a women site because for a while I didn't know what "it" was until I was diagnosed. Now I do and it's the sensory issues. I don't think I'd ever fit society's prototype of "feminine" but I do know that there's enough to make me uncomfortable to be something I'm just not a natural at artificially "being"....

I would love to wear high-heels. I've seen enough drag queens to know it doesn't' seem uncomfortable for them. Or try out all that makeup...but again it's so uncomfortable and bothers me, I wish I could. I would love to be attractive in some ways and I'm just not..lol not even naturally. Sometimes I think males have it lucky in that they can replace that "attractiveness" with something else. But I'm so glad there are females I can relate to on this forum. For a long time I thought I was alone with this problem in spite of the females that were there for me but "alone" if you take my meaning.

Yeah, wear what's comfortable for you and if you don't like doing your make up, ditch it. Sometimes I like dressing in a very feminine way, but there's no way I'm wearing those very uncomfortable dressy ladies shoes all day. I can't even think like that. Lots of girls can look and feel sexy in just a hoodie, jeans and sneakers. Honestly, I think guys prefer that. I know I do.

I like skirts, nice tops and dresses but usually I wear jeans and a tee-shirt/nice top/jumper. I feel dressed up when wearing contacts and (a small ammount of) make-up. About getting a bf, I'm still not sure (my cat just tried to comment here). I wore what I was comfortable in when I met my bf and didn't try to be anything I was not (we've been together for about five years now).

That reminds me of how I was dressed when I met my husband. I was wearing an unbelievably ugly t-shirt (which he actually thought was ugly at the time) and some raggedy old jeans that had been my dad's in the 1960s. My hair was also very unique at the time - I had purple braids tied up in this spastic sort of spray. And I think I'd been out all night the night before. You don't have to dress up to impress guys. They are so cool that way.

What's funny is I had more guy friends when I had a stupid mullet haircut, untied hi-tops, concert t-shirts, no make-up, and a unibrow. The only thing people would comment on was my odd or lack of facial expression.

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I've noticed that I get the most attention from guys when I am just being myself and acting all tom-boy...wearing Vans shoes and jeans with holes in them and a marshmallow Peeps t-shirt that says "Where my Peeps at?" I just try to find guys who like their women a little more sturdy and "butch" for lack of a better term. There are plenty of men out there that "Like women who don't break so easily."

I like the idea of looking attractive, but I always feel very uncomfortable in nice clothes and with makeup. I feel like I have to look perfect.

Its easier just to look like crap and feel comfortable, which I do most of the time.

My wardrobe is old t-shirts and shorts.

I like pretty girly clothes and shoes as long as they are comfy for me to wear. I'm quite sensitive to some materials, so I choose my stuff carefully. I enjoy changing my styles, but it needs to be still "me".

Have no fear. There are plenty of guys who find a more tomboyish, and less girly girl attractive.

Why? Because they relate to them better.

I am not the most girly of people. I'm found in combat trousers boots and a hoodie normally. But I found a great man like this. He acctually likes me being independant and not girly. He disslikes girls who tart themselves up in makeup just to do ANYTHING. (We've seen girls who put on makeup to run round all night in a dark forest , why I do not know) So girls. Relax there are men out there who look for personality and not size 0 . Be patient an most importantly be who you are not pretending to be someone else.

Too many absolutes in this thread. "Being girly means this or that." Blah, blah, blah.

Dress and be whatever works for you. If that's being girly with four-inch heels, then go for it. If not, then go for whatever you're comfortable with.

A perfect boyfriend wouldn't require you to be something you aren't.

I'm neither girly or manly. I'm a Kink.