Any of you Aspie women have a significant other?

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1) Are you single or married? How do you feel about it and why?

Im in a relationship, I like the comfort that someone actually accepts me for all my odd quirks and randomness. But it is annoying to have to make that much more of an attempt to understand an NT. I feel because my gf is closer to me than most people that I put that much more effort into trying to meet her half way on things. Its tiring.

2) How many relationships you've had?

before this one, two others.

3) Where did you both meet?

High School. complete opposites but once I graduated I went back to the football game for my brother. I saw her there every time and said the same random thing every time I saw her. She thought it was funny, and is attracted to odd balls like me so it worked out.

4) What was your 1st impression of him/her?

I didn't like her at all, she was a popular girly girl who made fun of me.

5) Who made the 1st move? How did you feel about it?

Well I made the first move to speak to her,... first thing I ever said was. "do you want to go in a corner and make out" haha I dont know I guess I figured thats what you did with people you liked and I liked her. After that she wanted to hang out all the time and I was a mute around her for about a month.

6) What sort of nice things did your significant other for you?

She accepts me no matter what, and sticks by my side patiently whiling to learn and understand me and help me understand her.

7) How did you feel the first time you lost your virginity? Optional question, of course!

I didn't feel anything emotionally like people say you may. I dont know it wasnt a big deal for me.

How long were you both together/married? Are you still together?

together for a year and three months

1) Are you single or married? How do you feel about it and why?
Single but seeing someone. I'm content with my current situation. But I would be content if I were completely single as well; I really just take things as they come.

2) How many relationships you've had?
Three.

3) Where did you both meet?
At work. We both have part-time positions at a fast food joint. Took a long time for us to 'click' because we have almost completely different shifts.

4) How old where you both when it happened?
I'm 22, he's 30.

5) Was or is he/she an NT or ''special''? How did he/she reacted about your condition?
He's NT but he's not exactly 'normal'. Has a crazy side. He reacted very well, as he had prior knowledge about AS from school.

6) What was your 1st impression of him/her?
He had a personality that just popped. To this day he impresses me with how amiable and easy to get along with he is.

7) Who made the 1st move? How did you feel about it?
I can't remember exactly who started our interaction. I'm going to say him, because although we'd always been flirty with one another, he's the one that manned up and asked me out.

8 ) What sort of nice things did your significant other for you?
Well we've not been together very long... but he's very chivalrous and frequently buys me chocolates ^_^

9) How did you feel the first time you lost your virginity? If you did, then with who? Optional question, of course!
I felt awkward, though it was a relief to get it out of the way. I did it with my first proper BF.

10) How long were you both together/married? Are you still together?
I don't know if you mean the first guy or the one I'm with now. I was with the first guy for 6months and have been with the current bloke just over 1month.

11) If not, what led for you both to break-up?
I broke up with the first guy because he was very immature. We're still friends but I just couldn't be in a relationship with him.

12) Do you think you'll find someone new?
I don't know who I'll meet in future. But it doesn't really bother me. You never know; I mightn't need to find another person!

1) Are you single or married? How do you feel about it and why?
I am single, but in a steady relationship.

2) How many relationships you've had?
Just this one.

3) Where did you both meet?
At a Thanksgiving party that a mutual friend from college organized.

4) How old where you both when it happened?
I was 20, he was 19.

5) Was or is he/she an NT or ''special''? How did he/she reacted about your condition?'s
He is an NT, but sensitive to other people. I have told him that I have AS and he was pretty cool with that.

6) What was your 1st impression of him/her?
That he was someone whom I could talk to and wouldn't treat me poorly.

7) Who made the 1st move? How did you feel about it?
I did. If I hadn't said anything, I probably wouldn't be in a relationship, so I'm happy about it.

8) What sort of nice things did your significant other for you?
Comforted me when I've felt sad, been available to talk to me, stopped me from hurting myself during a meltdown, loaned me a stuffed animal to cuddle with at night...

9) How did you feel the first time you lost your virginity? If you did, then with who? Optional question, of course!
I am still a virgin.

10) How long were you both together/married? Are you still together?
We have (officially) been together since February 2010 and yes, we are still together.

11) If not, what led for you both to break-up?
Not applicable.

12) Do you think you'll find someone new?
Not applicable.

1) Are you single or married? How do you feel about it and why?
Married. I feel very lucky to be with a wonderful guy who accepts and loves me just as I am. There are some days though where I just want to be alone and I think those days he finds very difficult.

2) How many relationships you've had?
I guess true relationships, just this one. I did date a little prior to going out with and marrying my husband but they didn't last long and there wasn't anything physical beyond a kiss or two, hand holding.

3) Where did you both meet?
We met through our church, his sister started attending our church when I was young, he began coming to our church, became friends with my brother and then later we started going out when we were in our 20's.

4) How old where you both when it happened?
I was 23, he was 22 when we started to date, we married when I was 24, he was 23.

5) Was or is he/she an NT or ''special''? How did he/she reacted about your condition?'s
He is a very sensitive, social NT. We only really had a diagnosis this year and he was quite accepting, he always felt I was different than other girls/women he knew but that was one of the things that drew him to me

6) What was your 1st impression of him/her?
First impression was pretty "ho-hum". I just thought of him as my younger brother's friend. Then when my sister became ill with cancer and I was helping to nurse her through it he showed a very compassionate side of himself to me and I started to realize that there was more to him that what I had previously seen/known.

7) Who made the 1st move? How did you feel about it?
He did. I didn't really want a relationship at the time and tried to put him off but he was pretty persistent.

8) What sort of nice things did your significant other do for you?
Comfort; nice big/strong hugs when I need them; pays attention to little things that I like and surprises me with them - examples are my favorite thing to add to a bath - Johnson's Baby Vapor Bath - he buys bottles in bulk for me, my favorite chocolate bar will show up in my purse, he makes me coffee every morning - that kind of thing

9) How did you feel the first time you lost your virginity? If you did, then with who? Optional question, of course!
We were both virgins on our wedding night. It didn't go as I had thought it would - not like the movies - should have used a different method of birth control that didn't require stopping to use - I wasn't quite sure when I should stop things to use it and before I knew it it was too late, we were parents on our first anniversary.

10) How long were you both together/married? Are you still together?
Still together, married 28 years

11) If not, what led for you both to break-up?
Not applicable.

12) Do you think you'll find someone new?
Not applicable.

1) Are you single or married? How do you feel about it and why?
I'm divorced, but I've been with my significant other for much longer than I was married to my ex-husband.

2) How many relationships you've had?
Several, including being married to someone who was verbally abusive and would have started physically abusing me if I stayed.

3) Where did you both meet?
At a historical re-enactment event, and we're still into that as a hobby.

4) How old where you both when it happened?
27 and he's still a bit older than me.

5) Was or is he/she an NT or ''special''? How did he/she reacted about your condition?
He said that he was diagnosed as having some learning disability, but I do think he has Aspie traits. When I came out to him about having AS, he understood and is still with me.

6) What was your 1st impression of him/her?
I thought he was very nice, and once when someone was late picking me up from something, he waited with me the entire time.

7) Who made the 1st move? How did you feel about it?
He did, after we had gone out to dinner after some event, and I liked it as I had mutual feelings for him.

8 ) What sort of nice things did your significant other for you?
He's done a lot of nice things, including taking me to the doctor when I had a pinched nerve, and being there for support when my grandpa died.

9) How did you feel the first time you lost your virginity? If you did, then with who? Optional question, of course!
It was someone else in college, and I was ready at the time. I actually broke up with guys in high school who only wanted sex.

10) How long were you both together/married? Are you still together?
We're still together, and have talked about marriage when the economy improves as neither of us feels like we can afford it right now.

1) Are you single or married? How do you feel about it and why?
Neither. I've got a boyfriend but me getting married to anyone is years away in the future, if it happens at all

2) How many relationships you've had?
This is the second

3) Where did you both meet?
He started working with one of my friends and got brought into our group. A few months later we started actually talking to eachother, then became better and better friends until almost a year after we met when we decided to try going further.

4) How old where you both when it happened?
I was 21, he was 23.

5) Was or is he/she an NT or ''special''? How did he/she reacted about your condition?
He'd known about it for months by the time anything happened. To be fair our group of friends was very geeky so almost all of us had a label of some sort. He has no labels but doesn't always appear entirely normal either.

6) What was your 1st impression of him/her?
Slightly manic, not unattractive, plus he swung around a lamp post a few times and that's just a little bit awesome

7) Who made the 1st move? How did you feel about it?
He did, although I think we'd been going that way for a while by that point. Drunken kisses are probably the best way to get the fact that you are attracted to a friend out in the open at the same time as having an awesome excuse if it turns out that they don't feel the same way (imo anyway)

8) What sort of nice things did your significant other for you?
Sometimes he makes me dinner and lets me play on his playstation and xbox. He also takes me to gigs with him and gives me hugs when I get grouchy. Tbh in a lot of ways we do still act like very good friends but we also sleep together.

9) How did you feel the first time you lost your virginity? If you did, then with who?
That was with my first boyfriend. I felt terribly guilty and was just a total mess about it. That relationship didn't last much longer after that.

10) How long were you both together/married? Are you still together?
I've been with my current boyfriend for 2 years

1) Are you single or married? How do you feel about it and why?
Neither. I have a boyfriend. Thanks to my boyfriend, I can now stand up for myself and I have better self confidence now. I have no regrets meeting him

2) How many relationships you've had?
Just one. He is my first love ^^

3) Where did you both meet?
At a LAN party. A LAN party is a temporary, sometimes spontaneous, gathering of people with computers, between which they establish a local area network (LAN), primarily for the purpose of playing multiplayer computer games. I was the only girl there at a party of 14 people

4) How old where you both when it happened?
I was 17 years old and he was 19 years old

5) Was or is he/she an NT or ''special''? How did he/she reacted about your condition?
He is NT. When I told him I had Aspergers he didn't mind it, reacted in a postive way. He is very supportive of me

6) What was your 1st impression of him/her?
I remember him as a alpha male type. He was the guy who knew everything about computers and was pretty much the centre of attention. Today when we go to LAN parties, if somebody is having computer troubles he is the guy to go to

7) Who made the 1st move? How did you feel about it?
I made the first move, I'd never really flirted with boys before so I was nervous and excited. Was a success

8 ) What sort of nice things did your significant other for you?
I recently got kicked out of my house by my mum, so he has let me stay at his house for as long as I need. He has paid for my college/ uni fees which are not cheap. Now and again he will buy gifts like flowers and chocolates. Since I have very little money right now, he has been paying for all of my food. On top of all of that, he gives me all the emotional support I need.

9) How did you feel the first time you lost your virginity? If you did, then with who? Optional question, of course!
Shhh!

10) How long were you both together/married? Are you still together?
We are not married but we have been together for a good three years now.

11) If not, what led for you both to break-up?
n/a

12) Do you think you'll find someone new?
Not anytime in the future. I'm pretty happy to be with him.

1) Are you single or married? How do you feel about it and why?
I am in a relationship and am VERY happy about it

2) How many relationships you've had?
This would be my 5th, but 3 of those only lasted weeks. My last rship lasted 8 years but filled with arguments

3) Where did you both meet?
At my work...

4) How old where you both when it happened?
I was 29, he was 47 he he

5) Was or is he/she an NT or ''special''? How did he/she reacted about your condition?'s
He is the one who said he had it and when I looked it up we both realised that I do too. Makes a lot of sense to us, explains why we just "clicked" straight away.

6) What was your 1st impression of him/her?
I kept saying "I like you" over and over lol Embarrassing but nice to know in hindsight. I wasn't looking for a rship AT ALL, I was determined to be single forever coz I felt it was just way easier that way. But I am so glad it went this way instead. I thought he was so great to talk to, and so funny and so kind.

7) Who made the 1st move? How did you feel about it?
We actually kissed within the first few hours of meeting each other!! lol (we were both very drunk too). It was this instant attraction. But then I "ran" because I had no time/desire for a rship, but he chased me for a couple of months until I finally woke up! lol

8) What sort of nice things did your significant other for you?
He does sooooo much!! He helps organise the house (I am shocking!!), he makes me laugh, he understands me and let's me be me, he is my rock, he always tries to pay for everything, he writes the most amazing text messages, he goes along with me to things, he is so wonderful with my Son, and I could do on and on

9) How did you feel the first time you lost your virginity? If you did, then with who? Optional question, of course!
My answer is kinda weird, but it was just something I "did" coz I was curious. The guy meant nothing to me, the situation just presented itself to me and I kind of approached it as purely an experience to experiment with. It hurt a bit, and was over in seconds lol

10) How long were you both together/married? Are you still together?
We have been together for 8 months now, wow!

11) If not, what led for you both to break-up?
N/A

12) Do you think you'll find someone new?
Nope, this is my future husband for sure

1) Are you single or married? How do you feel about it and why?

Neither! Marriage, to me, feels like a pointless way to spend time and money, I don't need an official statement to know I love someone.
That said, I do have a girlfriend, and we are in the process of moving in together. I'm scared, to be honest - or nervous I guess is a better word. There's a lot of things changing around me, and I don't like changing... Though she knows me well and knows mostly what I'm feeling with regards to it, so she's being adorably considerate with a lot of things.. Which isn't really making me feel any better, because I feel like she has to take special care because I'm the way I am! There's always something to complain about isn't there?!

But honestly? I'm feeling very happy about it all, and I hope it'll be the start of a better way of living for me.


2) How many relationships you've had?

Depends what counts as a relationship. But broadly speaking, I'd say 3 - that's any relationship that had any substance.


3) Where did you both meet?

At my neighbors - who are her parents. True story. I've lived here for a while, and I knew they had a daughter living somewhere else, but we hadn't met until last summer - and it was great, because she was one of those few people who I clicked with very quickly. And she seemed curious of me, rather than scared of me, because of me being different from most people.


4) How old where you both when it happened?

I was 22, she was 19.


5) Was or is he/she an NT or ''special''? How did he/she reacted about your condition?

She's quite an NT I'd say. Me having an Asperger diagnose was probably one of the first things she learned about me already at the dinner table within 20 minutes of first seeing eachother, and I don't think she thought much of it at all! She asked a bit and got her answers, and didn't really talk more about it until we had actually hooked up. I think she finds it interesting or fascinating somehow. Or just plain likes it, I don't know!


6) What was your 1st impression of him/her?

Holy cow, those are some pretty special glasses she's wearing...

That was indeed my first impression! She collects the darn things, and they're all hideous! And she looks just as hideous wearing some of them, in a sort of endearing way. Imagine large-colorful-curvy-70's-sunglasses style. My next impression was how she seemed to be very observant and non-stupid.


7) Who made the 1st move? How did you feel about it?

Hard to tell who really made a first move. We went from spending time together watching movies (Something we're both a bit obsessed with), to watching movies sitting on the same sofa, to watching movies sitting closer together, to watching movies leaning on eachother. I probably made the first resemblance of a "first move" around that time.

It felt kind of terrifying, and didn't really come to any resolve until later - up 'till that point I was sure I had ruined it.


8) What sort of nice things did your significant other for you?

She understands me. That is the nicest thing I can put words on, that she does. She tries to be helpful with a lot of things, and as time passes she's getting better and better at knowing what I want help with, how much help, and when. It's by no means perfect, but then again, neither am I at judging when she wants a hand with something

She makes me feel comfortable with physical interaction, something I've been twitchy about for years. And that feels great, and to me, is a big step forward.


9) How did you feel the first time you lost your virginity? If you did, then with who? Optional question, of course!

Technically speaking, I lost it to myself and my fiddly fingers. I was terrified of having to deal with it together with someone, and stubbornly decided I wanted to deal with it myself.

First time penetrative sex though, didn't really feel very good at all. I was nervous, it felt too sudden and everything was going too fast, and I more or less lost any sense of enjoyment. I also didn't really like the guy, so shame on me for letting it happen in the first place. After that, I've only really been with women, and it's not really because I dislike men, I just haven't had much success with them.


10) How long were you both together/married? Are you still together?

Still together, it's coming up to about a year now. I'm lousy at keeping track of time, so I honestly don't know exactly unless I ask her, she probably knows exactly.


11) If not, what led for you both to break-up?
N/A

12) Do you think you'll find someone new?

Who knows. Right now I doubt it, because I'm very much in love and things are going pretty well. But striking gold at 22/19 years old, seems a bit statistically unlikely, but I try not to think about that

1) Are you single or married? How do you feel about it and why?
single and plan to remain that way forever. I truly believe I met my "one true love" or "soulmate" or whatever garbage and we're not together and so I'm just done with getting my heart smashed and dealing with stupid guys and their nonsense

2) How many relationships you've had?
been "involved" with a couple of guys

3) Where did you both meet?
mostly at work

4) How old where you both when it happened?
31 and 43 I think?

5) Was or is he/she an NT or ''special''? How did he/she reacted about your condition?'s
he was NT and I pulled him aside one day and explained to him what's going on with me. he was really chill about it, but he didn't really understand me all that much (though I guess he tried)

6) What was your 1st impression of him/her?
I don't remember, since I officially met him like ten years ago

7) Who made the 1st move? How did you feel about it?
we were never official so I'm not sure, but he laid one on me one day and I didn't expect it at all. was on cloud 11tybillion for the longest time afterwards

Cool What sort of nice things did your significant other for you?
I love a cool question, but anyway he didn't do much for me outside of work. he made sure to watch out for me and help me out when he could I guess

9) How did you feel the first time you lost your virginity? If you did, then with who? Optional question, of course!
I was like "that's IT?!" it was a one-night stand. it was enough to make me realize that sex is worthless when it's not with someone I care about, and finding someone I care about who's willing to put out is way easier said than done.

10) How long were you both together/married? Are you still together?
we were the most intense for about 6 month or so, and no

11) If not, what led for you both to break-up?
one day out of the blue he just started giving me the cold shoulder. I think I made a comment that made him feel uncomfortable

12) Do you think you'll find someone new?
no. no. no. no. no. and I don't even want someone new anymore. I just want to be left the hell alone. I work in a very male-dominated workplace and I wish I could get my douche nozzle co-workers to realize that I'm dead serious about this and I don't want to date anyone (especially in that nasty place....yuck)

1) Are you single or married? How do you feel about it and why?
Neither, I'm in a long-term relationship.

I like the idea of being single in that you are free to do as you like and flirt freely if you should want, however I don't do sex outside of relationships for the most part, and my partners tend to be my support system, as sad and unfair as this is boyfriends are always people who I get along with and get close to so it makes sense for them to fill that role in my life. I'd love to get married, my boyfriend and I talk about it all the time, despite the problems being an aspie the fact is that we will never be able to afford to get married, or at least if we do it'll be purely about the piece of paper to give us the rights of a married couple, which makes us very sad as we think of it as a special day and ceremony to declare our love and commitment for each other.

2) How many relationships you've had?
Many, with varying success. My longest relationship is three and a half years, although most long-term relationships have been far from great, with the exception of the current relationship of three years (our anniversary today!!), most have been short-term where the guys haven't been able to deal with me or the aspie parts of me.

3) Where did you both meet?
Work, we quickly became so flirty everyone knew we'd end up together.

4) How old where you both when it happened?
He was 19 I think, so I was...erm...23 - I'm terrible with ages and dates.

5) Was or is he/she an NT or ''special''? How did he/she reacted about your condition?
He's an NT, he knew from the start there was something 'special' about me, I can't speak to around 95% of people, but that 5% I can speak to I normally get on with like a house on fire - he was one such person so that was fine. This meant the only real aspie features he saw when we first got together were the cute things like my tendency to squeak and make odd noises when excited/amused/unhappy, or to speak like a child rather than being able to speak like a normal adult.

6) What was your 1st impression of him/her?
He was too young - I've ALWAYS gone for older men, I refused to date my partner at first because of his age, also without his current facial hair he looked like a 12-year-old too, lol. He was very cute and bubbly from the start, he's generally the anti-bloodheart

7) Who made the 1st move? How did you feel about it?
Me, I always make the first move - it normally causes problems, but it started off with me making a move to be flirty and friendly with him, then later on I invited him for a drink and went for it as sexual tensions were getting ridiculous so if I hadn't made the first move work would have been more and more difficult.

8 ) What sort of nice things did your significant other for you?
I'm currently annoyed he hasn't offered to do the dishes - being as it;s our anniversary and I'm very stressed about all I have to do. But in all fairness he's always done a lot for me, before we started dating he made sure to let everyone at work know they were wrong about thinking of me as anti-social/miserable/ignorant/etc. Just before we started dating I lost my job and have been unemployed since, he has always understood that being aspie has caused problems with this and never blamed me for being unemployed and our current situation, he essentially keeps a roof over my head despite my not letting him live here (we're looking for a place together rather than him moving in with me as he understands it would be a problem for me), he buys me gifts all the time too.

9) How did you feel the first time you lost your virginity? If you did, then with who? Optional question, of course!
It was with my first serious boyfriend. I felt bored - I expected it to be like masturbation only 100 times better, it wasn't, the whole thing was my choice and I was in fact ready, but my boyfriend was considerably bigger than me so on top I felt squashed and really didn't enjoy it, I just wished he'd hurry up and finish. It didn't go well, I thought I was a freak for not enjoying it and he used that against me to blackmail me into sex throughout our relationship...I wish I had known more about sex prior to loosing my virginity.

10) How long were you both together/married? Are you still together?
We were together for two and a half years.

11) If not, what led for you both to break-up?
See above mentioned emotional blackmail to get sex

12) Do you think you'll find someone new?
I'd like to think I could stay with my current boyfriend for life, or at least for a decade or so...BUT I'd also hope one day he magically gets over his serious possessive/jealous nature and lets me (maybe us) have other partners, nothing wrong with a bit of swinging

1) Are you single or married? How do you feel about it and why?
Single. Fairly asexual and rather disinterested in the whole thing. The idea of being in a relationship is pretty alien to me. A bit like alcohol in that I understand most people enjoy it and seek it and respect that it is very important to them. But when I think about it for me I feel nothing but intellectual curiosity as to the general fascination with it and the dynamics involved. There's no emotional connection or need. I don't discount the possibility of falling in love, but it doesn't bother me on an emotional level that I haven't. I do wonder sometimes if I should be worried about the fact that I'm not bothered, people want you to fret over that kind of stuff and seem to think you're practically a sociopath if you don't. Though from what people describe it sounds like it would be a terrible thing to experience only once, lose and then spend the rest of your life trying to find again without success. I think the desire for romantic relationships may be a binary condition, either you feel a need, or you don't. If you don't no amount of trying to force it will make it feel right.

2) How many relationships you've had?
None. I have had friendships that in hindsight I think the other person believed we were in the start of a relationship. But I'm blind to most of the subtle hints people put out to start them, or to signify they think they're in them.

I'm married. I feel pretty good about it. I love my husband and am very attracted to him. He has moments where he takes my breath away. He has a kind, considerate spirit and a genuinely good heart. He's a former firefighter with that old school firefighter personality, but he's got smarts and wit. We have great conversations and have a lot in common, plus having our own separate interests. It's a good match.


For the sake of counting on just one hand, we're going to define "relationships" as a long-term serious relationship lasting longer than 12 months in exclusivity. The answer is 5.


At college. We were both working adults taking night classes at a local private college. We both enrolled in this general education class. Our friends had just happened to all sit at this one table which put us seated next to each other. The first time I looked at him, chills went up my spine and I got very intimidated because I was overwhelmed by what I was feeling.


I was 28. He was 38.


Oh, he's special alright. No, he's NT. He is dyslexic but he's normal.


I was very attracted to him, in a way I couldn't even explain. I was so attracted to him that I was scared to death. I didn't know what to do or say. I just went to my defense mechanism and treated him like he didn't matter. Thankfully, he was attracted enough to me to make the effort to get me past that defense mechanism. He had such a presence and such direct eye contact with those aqua blue eyes.


He did, but I had to find a polite way to tell him that I was interested in him. There were other women in the class who had him in their sites and one woman was really into him. He wasn't interested in her. He wanted me. But I didn't want to hurt this person over something like a man. So we'd schedule time together without her knowing and advance our relationship that way until he finally had enough and told her flat out there was no way he was attracted to her. Turns out that she was married so she just had to focus her attention back on her husband. If we'd known that sooner, my husband would've rejected her sooner!

When it comes to the first kiss. He kissed me. It was like magic. I've never been kissed like that before, but he's been kissing me like that ever since. I don't think I could live without that feeling.


While courting, he took me out on dates, emailed me love letters, wrote me poems, drew our names in the sand and bought me flowers. I can't say a lot has changed. When we go out on dates, he's still very romantic. We don't have a lot of money for him to buy a lot of things - and I'm honestly uncomfortable with someone spending money on me, anyway - so as long as he keeps up with the compliments and other nice things to say, I'm smitten.


I was disappointed. It was with my first long-term boyfriend. He was also a virgin but had a very selfish and opinionated personality so believed he knew everything. I was 14 and he was 20. When I was 13, I was dating a 15 year old boy who was incredible. If I'd known that I was going to go wild and have sex that sucked when I was 14, I would have preferred to have had sex with that 15 year old the year before and it probably would have been a much better first time experience. There's hindsight for ya.


My husband and I have been together and married for years with many more to come.


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1) Are you single or married? How do you feel about it and why?
I have been with my highschool sweetheart for over 7 years now. He is amazingly understanding and has put up with me a lot, even understanding my strange bisexual feelings and he let me experiment to find out for sure (he didn't like it, it hurt us both, but we both needed to know). We love each other so much and he is the best and only thing that matters in my life.

2) How many relationships you've had?
Little school ones but he is my highschool sweetheart since we were 15. I had a few confusing lesbian relationships also but while I was with him and he knew about it. That was during my late teens.

3) Where did you both meet?
He was part of a group of friends I managed to have for a couple of years at school. Before and after then I have been a loner but stayed as his girlfriend.

4) How old where you both when it happened?
We fell in love at 14, got together at 15 and are still together now at 22 and 23.

5) Was or is he/she an NT or ''special''? How did he/she reacted about your condition?
He is a normal guy, sometimes depressed and paranoid but this has improved so much since we got together.

6) What was your 1st impression of him/her?
I used to think he was a bit weird although intelligent and funny. I didn't fancy him at all until we spent some time alone together, and then WOW I fell in love and haven't stopped.

7) Who made the 1st move? How did you feel about it?
Umm it's a bit awkward! He liked me for a year and I liked him for 4 months before we got together. It was at a drunken party when we were 15 and we got a bit too intimate for a first contact. But he was really great and respected me and we waited 9 months to have sex.

8 ) What sort of nice things did your significant other for you?
So much! He is always telling me he loves m and comforting me. I find the world so hard sometimes and he always knows how to comfort me and he understands me so much. It means everything.

9) How did you feel the first time you lost your virginity? If you did, then with who? Optional question, of course!
I was 15 and it was with him. We had waited 9 months and I felt ready at 15, but looking back I wasn't ready. I loved him so much but wasn't comfortable in myself, alhough that hasn't changeed!

10) How long were you both together/married? Are you still together?
Yes nearly 7 and a half years

11) If not, what led for you both to break-up?
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12) Do you think you'll find someone new?
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1) Are you single or married? How do you feel about it and why?
In a relatinship but we don't live together and we both want it that way.

2) How many relationships you've had?
4, on my fifth now.

3) Where did you both meet?
Internet on a community for swedish youths.

4) How old where you both when it happened?
I was 19 and he 18.

5) Was or is he/she an NT or ''special''? How did he/she reacted about your condition?
He is an NT so far but is definitly not "normal". Well I didn't have my disorders then, well I had depression and personality disorder nos but not the other stuff, thoose diagnoses are only 1 week old. He took it with ease.

6) What was your 1st impression of him/her?
Cool, nice, caring and shy.

7) Who made the 1st move? How did you feel about it?
I actually think I did, 'cause he hadn't had any relationships before.

8 ) What sort of nice things did your significant other for you?
Many, he do nice things all the time.

9) How did you feel the first time you lost your virginity? If you did, then with who? Optional question, of course!
I don't remember.

10) How long were you both together/married? Are you still together?
We are still together, 2 years this year.

11) If not, what led for you both to break-up?
....

12) Do you think you'll find someone new?
No

1) Are you single or married? How do you feel about it and why?
i am now engaged, first time ever. I am 37. He is odd in his ownway but not sure i can describe it. i am happy since it helps me to feel more normal... though we will never actually be considered as such.
2) How many relationships you've had?
a few. the others had all failed. Men think i'm cute but they never understood me underneath. the man i have now does, at least mostly.
3) Where did you both meet?
near my old apartment--- he was a friend with a girlfriend and i had a BF. neither worked out, and we ended up together. that worked nice, sine we knew each other already.

4) How old where you both when it happened?
i was 30, he was 25.
5) Was or is he/she an NT or ''special''? How did he/she reacted about your condition?
he's the one who first mentioned Asperger's to me. It did seemto make alot of sense. He is Dx'd chronic depression and anxiety, but i feel he may be more than that. He also has Crohn's.
6) What was your 1st impression of him/her?
nice guy, but since he belonged to someone else we just stayed friends.

7) Who made the 1st move? How did you feel about it?
i tried to, thinking i was being smooth... but i was anything but smooth. but he thought it was cute, so we ended up eating at a restaurant and we ate and it was a nice beginning for us.

8 ) What sort of nice things did your significant other do for you?
He cooks and cleans for me, and that is nice. I work outside and make the $$$$ and we work together to make the house good for both of us, he tells me i'm pretty and he likes the way i think sometimes.


9) How did you feel the first time you lost your virginity? If you did, then with who? Optional question, of course!
that was when i was 18. I was with my BF at the time, in my Oldsmobile. It was actually nice... anything involving an Oldsmobile can only be good. it was after a concert.
10) How long were you both together/married? Are you still together?
I am with my current BF for 6 years. We will get married soon, maybe in the summer. I can't wait. I have never been married before.
11) If not, what led for you both to break-up?
we are still together.
12) Do you think you'll find someone new? no. i want to keep the man i have now. he is nice, smart, and cute. I like the way he accepts me despite all my idiosyncracies and quirks.