foobabe wrote:
My 11 year old AS daughter is so ungirly -
She gets very embarrassed by compliments about her appearance. Refuses to try playing makeup, hates perfume, thinks shortish skirts are cheap and don't even get me started on what she thinks about Twilight, Hannah Montana etc etc...
Prefers to wear unflattering clothes with her hair covering her face - a bit like the daughter in the film The Incredibles - its almost like she wants to disappear too?. I don't want to make her uncomfortable so won't push the issue and will let her wear what she wants (so long as its tidy). I think alot of it is down to sensory issues??
BTW She has been having meltdowns lately about how much she hates growing up, having boobs, being a girl, being a girl with aspergers etc. I am being as supportive as I can and we'll get through the teenage years together (hopefully)
Not sure if she will ever be a girly girl? But so long as she is happy thats all that matters.
I was exactly like your daughter. I am still more nerdy than girly but I now accept a bit more my femininity and try to work with my issues. (And I wear skirts and dresses because they are actually more comfortable).
She is only 11 and it must be really hard for her to live with all of these things in her head, hopefully she'll feel better later though she will always be an aspie. I think it's pretty common among teenage girls to be a bit like the daughter in the incredibles.
As for the poll, I rarely wear make up because I hate the feel of it or the way I look, it does not look like myself and I can't stand it. I like to wear clothes that are too big for me because they are comfortable (until I start loosing my trousers of course), forget to brush my hait when I go out, have no sense of fashion but I am still a bit girly.