Any of you Aspie women have a significant other?

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1) Are you single or married? How do you feel about it and why?
Married...I'm happy about it most of the time. Sometimes I miss living alone and I'm not always thrilled to have to check with someone else's schedule before making plans. Sometimes I get so angry at my husband I wish he'd f**k off and die. However, we fought a lot more often when we weren't married. I love my husband deeply, and I'm happy that I get to be with him forever.

2) How many relationships you've had?
Four serious ones, and numerous less-so in high school and my first year of college.

3) Where did you both meet?
Playing EverQuest.

4) How old were you both when it happened?
I was 22 and he was 20. I didn't find out how young he was until his 21st birthday, when he said, "Happy Birthday to me, I can drink legally!" I flipped out over how young he was when he seemed so mature. When I told him I was 23 (my birthday come before), he said, "Really? I thought you were still in your late teens." But we were best friends for two years before we began a romantic relationship.

5) Was or is he/she an NT or ''special''? How did he/she reacted about your condition?
My husband is very special to me, but he's an NT. I was diagnosed after our marriage, although I'd suspected I had AS for a while. His reaction was, "Well, you're still the same person you were, and I still love you." We've had a few fights about it (he wishes there were a cure, while I think I'm fine the way I am), but basically while it was a shock to him, he was cool about it. He helped me get past the "OMG, I'm a freak," phase and into the "This is who I am" phase.

6) What was your 1st impression of him/her?
I thought he seemed really nice, and that he played his class really well. That he was a more serious RPG gamer than I. And that he was better at EQ than I!

7) Who made the 1st move? How did you feel about it?
Oh, he did, definitely! He pursued me actively while I was engaged to someone else, and courted me more openly after my ex-fiance and I realized we weren't in love and split up. It took me some time and lot of back-and-forth before I agreed to give a relationship a real try. However, he's had to follow up on that first move -- kissed me first, suggested making out long-distance relationship into a short-distance one, suggested moving in together, suggested marriage was in our future, proposed.....

8 ) What sort of nice things did/does your significant other do for you?
He's very thoughtful. He never mocks me for not understanding something or being too literal, although it frustrates him sometimes. (He can't, for example, understand why, "I'm low on clean sox," does not translate to, "Please wash some sox" -- I mean, I get it now, but not the first time it happened.) He knows that for me, small gestures mean more than grand ones, so he always says goodbye in the morning, kisses me if I can accept it when he gets in from work, makes sure to spend a little time with me each day, and so on. He doesn't touch me unless I indicate I'm okay with it (like open my arms for a hug). Since we don't have a lot of money to burn, he always comes up with a special plan for our special occasions that is fun and cheap. For Valentine's Day, he bought a bottle of the limited run of chocolate stout from our favorite local brewery and borrowed our favorite board game from a friend -- he put thought into our plans, which is what really matters. (He knows I love Valentine's Day.)

9) How did you feel the first time you lost your virginity? If you did, then with who? Optional question, of course!
Not good. It hurt, and I cried, and my partner was totally unsympathetic. It was with my first serious boyfriend, whom I loved and thought I would marry, but he pressured me into it long, long before I was ready. In my next relationship, I discovered that my he was a lousy lover, too! (My second partner taught me sex could be gentle, fun, enjoyable, silly, and mind-blowing.)

10) How long were/have you both together/married? Are you still together?
We've known each other 10 years and been together over eight. We dated for five years, and we'll have been married for four years in July.

11) If not, what led for you both to break-up?
Well, my husband I are still together. I broke up with my first serious bf because he was abusive, and I fell in love with someone else which gave me the courage to end it. My second serious partner dumped me under painful circumstances. My third serious partner and I split up because while we still cared about each other, we weren't in love anymore. We remained friends until my marriage, at which point he broke off contact. (I don't know if he was jealous or what, exactly.)

12) Do you think you'll find someone new?
Goodness, I hope not! I don't believe in soulmates -- that there's only one person out there for us. I mean, what if your soulmate lives in China and you live in the US? What if they're 78 when you're born, or lived 600 years ago, or won't be born until the year 2100? I believe we all have many possible matches out there and that everyone has a good chance of finding a person they love and can be deliriously happy with. If my husband were to die, I don't know that I'd bother looking for someone new, but I wouldn't utterly reject the idea a second chance, either. I'm certainly not the least interested in someone new at this point!

1) Are you single or married? How do you feel about it and why?
im in a long term relationship with a wonderful person

2) How many relationships you've had?
three

3) Where did you both meet?
at college

4) How old where you both when it happened?
me; 19 my partner; 18

5) Was or is he/she an NT or ''special''? How did he/she reacted about your condition?
aspie, but it doesnt really show much, and i think hes special X-D

6) What was your 1st impression of him/her?
absolutely gorgeous! i only saw him around first week or so before we started talking

7) Who made the 1st move? How did you feel about it?
lots of mutual flirting, then he asked me out

8 ) What sort of nice things did your significant other for you?
hes just wonderful, tells me he loves me without being asked. he always has time for me, he talks about our future together, the kids we'll raise and house we'll keep. just little off-hand comments that show he loves me and he wants a future with me. that im more than just a piece of meat. hell be sad for me and comfort me when im sad, hed stand up and protect me if i needed it, hes respectful about me when he talks to his friends, he doesnt use me or what we do together as a way to gain status with his mates which makes me know that he does thing because hes sincere and he cares about me and not because of what other people may think of it, he wasnt at all nervous about me meeting his parents, he said theyd love me, and if they didnt then they dont deserve to and its their loss but not gunna change how he feels. he does little, pointless things, just because he thinks theyll make me happy.when hes gaming, if im bored then hell stop and maybe put on a film that we can watch together, or well go for a walk... really he just honestly loves me for me and it shows mostly when hes not even trying. its the little things that let me know its real and sometimes hell have an aspie moment and rage a bit, just shout and take time on his own, but hed never hit me and always after he realizes that hes over-reacted to something and he comes out of where ever hes hiding looking like if he could hed have his tail between his legs, and apologises and makes sure im ok and is really genuinely sorry for shoutingand hell give a great big cuddle and dote on me extra for the rest of the day. hes really sweet and hes really genuine and i wouldnt change him for the world.

9) How did you feel the first time you lost your virginity? If you did, then with who? Optional question, of course!
15-i was drugged, i didnt know them. 17/18-i did it with a guy to see if it could be good if you agreed and were concious. it wasnt really but thats probably my fault for being nervous, at least it didnt hurt, and then he went down on me, that felt good. 18-first time with a girl, was good, much better than with the two previous. my partner is definately the best though, hes amazing.

10) How long were you both together/married? Are you still together?
2 years, and yes

11) If not, what led for you both to break-up?
n/a

12) Do you think you'll find someone new?
i sincerely hope ill be with him for a very long time, and excepting something fatal, i really believe that we will.

1) Are you single or married? How do you feel about it and why?
I'm married. It's pretty nice to have someone to hang out with. I don't really have much friends or stay in much contact with my family, so my husband is pretty much the only person I can hang out with and do fun things with and I know he's there for me. On the other hand, sometimes I wish I had some more privacy and time on my own to do things without necessarily having to share it with him. It's not that I have anything to hide, I just sometimes feel like having some privacy.

2) How many relationships you've had?
Only one.

3) Where did you both meet?
We got to know each other online and soon started seeing each other IRL too.

4) How old where you both when it happened?
I was 19, he was 21.

5) Was or is he/she an NT or ''special''? How did he/she reacted about your condition?
He hasn't been diagnosed with anything, but I strongly suspect he's on the spectrum. I didn't know that I have AS when I got to know him. I have other conditions though and he was very understanding of those and supportive and he has been there for me when I've been diagnosed with more conditions. It doesn't change anything about our relationship.

6) What was your 1st impression of him/her?
I thought he was fun and seemed to be a nice guy. He also seemed to know what it's like to be a bit of an outcast in society.

7) Who made the 1st move? How did you feel about it?
He made the first move. I was very happy and flattered about it.

8 ) What sort of nice things did your significant other for you?
He did many nice things for me.
He spent 3 months' salaries on a plane ticket to come to visit me for the first time.
He was very supportive of me when I was going through some very hard times.
He'd show up with small surprise gifts (mostly funny plush animals) to cheer me up when I was sick or down.

9) How did you feel the first time you lost your virginity? If you did, then with who? Optional question, of course!
I lost my virginity with him. I felt kind of surprised that it was actually happening.

10) How long were you both together/married? Are you still together?
We're still together. We've been together for 9,5 years. Our 8th wedding anniversary is this month.

11) If not, what led for you both to break-up?
N/A

12) Do you think you'll find someone new?
N/A. However, if for some reason this relationship won't last forever, I think there is a very slim chance of me finding another suitable partner. It's hard to come by people who are open minded enough and who would enjoy the kind of relationship that I want. My current relationship isn't by any stretch of the imagination conventional and I like it that way.

1) Are you single or married? How do you feel about it and why?
I am married. I have a few regrets, but it is ok.

2) How many relationships you've had?
I have had about 6 or 7 relationships in the past.

3) Where did you both meet?
We met online

4) How old where you both when it happened?
I was 19 and he was 26

5) Was or is he/she an NT or ''special''? How did he/she reacted about your condition?
None of us really talked about it or have really discussed it.

6) What was your 1st impression of him/her?
Very good looking, but very cold and reserved. Showed no emotion.

7) Who made the 1st move? How did you feel about it?
I did. I asked for a hug and then I realised he did like me even though he did not show it.

8 ) What sort of nice things did your significant other for you?
Bought me a nice meal.


9) How did you feel the first time you lost your virginity? If you did, then with who? Optional question, of course!
I lost my virginity when I was 17 with a horrible man who was alot older than me and took advantage of me being naiive. It was due to peer pressure and I regret it terrible.

10) How long were you both together/married? Are you still together?
We have been together 13 years.

11) If not, what led for you both to break-up?
N/A

12) Do you think you'll find someone new?
We understand each other well so I doubt it.

1) Are you single or married? How do you feel about it and why?
I'm in a relationship. It is a little scary, but really good too.

2) How many relationships you've had?
Only the one guy, but we've been out twice

3) Where did you both meet?
Sixth form college

4) How old where you both when it happened?
We went out first when we were sixteen, then re-met aged twenty three.

5) Was or is he/she an NT or ''special''? How did he/she reacted about your condition?
He's NT, but is really understanding about AS (and his brother probably has it)

6) What was your 1st impression of him/her?
I don't remember

7) Who made the 1st move? How did you feel about it?
He did when we were sixteen, I did this time round (although apparently he'd been hinting towards it)

8 ) What sort of nice things did your significant other for you?
He bought me a heart necklace and some sexy underwear for my birthday. He'll send messages telling me he loves me. He will pay for things sometimes because he has more money

9) How did you feel the first time you lost your virginity? If you did, then with who? Optional question, of course!
We fooled around before, but I didn't have sex with him until this time round. He'd been out with a couple of people in between, so had some experience. I felt really good, and it felt right.

10) How long were you both together/married? Are you still together?
About six months last time, and about two and a half months so far this time.

11) If not, what led for you both to break-up?
The first time we broke up was because we were both having 'issues' (he had a bit of a breakdown after a teacher killed himself, and I was recovering from an eating disorder and self injury) and it was too difficult.

12) Do you think you'll find someone new?
I didn't find anyone in between going out with him. He's the only guy for me.

I was married for three years.

My husband began by telling me I was the most gorgeous woman he'd ever seen...and then worked his way up to telling me I was disgusting and ugly.

He wouldn't even touch me any more. My legs were too short, my hair was too long, my boobs were too big, my thighs were too chunky. Everything was wrong with me according to him.

I take marriage incredibly seriously, and can't just hop in and out of it the way some people can. There's emotional love, and then there's dutiful love. When someone is being kind, you love them emotionally. When they're being a complete and utter prat and deserve to be punched in the mouth, all you can do is love them dutifully. That's all there is left. That's what you've sworn to do at the alter, till death us do part. And being married to that man did at times feel like a death sentence. I wanted one of us to die.

It all made sense later, when I learned he had not in fact abandoned me for a year's "cooling-off period" like he said, but rather, to set up home secretly with a taller, slimmer, shorter-haired, bed-hopping mistress, whom he's now planning to marry.

Basically, he made a terrible mistake: marrying someone who wasn't really his type (me - I do not resemble Kate Moss) just because he was so desperate he thought he could never get anyone else.

Please, please, please don't do that to people.

It hurts.

1) Are you single or married? How do you feel about it and why?
Single/divorced. I'm content as a single person. I miss having a confidant and companion, but I don't miss making compromises that aren't healthy for me. I don't have a great track record for choosing partners for the right reasons so am reluctant to get involved again. I also don't have a lot of spare time to spend with another person due to being a single parent and think that if the "right" person was out there, they'd be a needle in a haystack.

2) How many relationships you've had?
Five and plenty crushes.

1) Are you single or married? How do you feel about it and why?
I'm in a serious relationship and I love the feeling. It's just easier because, even though I basically preach being a self-advocate, I still can't stand up for myself so I have a constant defender.

2) How many relationships you've had?
Just this one

3) Where did you both meet?
We actually met on our senior trip to New York City in high school. We were both going to the NY Knicks game and while we were waiting for the bus drivers to get back to unlock the buses, we got into a little photography contest - who could take a clearer picture of the top of the Empire State Building at night ....he won

4) How old where you both when it happened?
I had just turned 17 and he was 17 already when we met; by the time he asked me out he had turned 18.

5) Was or is he/she an NT or ''special''? How did he/she reacted about your condition?
He isn't an Aspie, but he is dyslexic. He knew about my AS before we started dating, and he took it in stride; it's who I am, and he wouldn't have asked me out if he had minded.

6) What was your 1st impression of him/her?
That he was someone I could be great friends with; he was funny and a little competitive, just like me.

7) Who made the 1st move? How did you feel about it?
He did, in more ways than one. I honestly didn't know what to answer when he first asked me out, so I asked him to give me a night to think it over; I ended up giving him a test: come up with a list of 10 good reasons why you want to go out with me.......he gave me 13 and I'm glad I said yes. He was also the first to make a move physically.

8 ) What sort of nice things did your significant other for you?
He's supported me through starting depression medication, as well as just being there. He's my biggest advocate and always the one to kick my butt into gear when I need it.

9) How did you feel the when you lost your virginity? If you did, then with who? Optional question, of course!
Opt out

10) How long were you both together/married? Are you still together?
We've been going out for a little over 2 years now, and, yes, we're still together.

11) If not, what led for you both to break-up?
N/A

12) Do you think you'll find someone new?
N/A

1) Are you single or married? How do you feel about it and why?
In a relationship, not married. All in all, I am quite happy with it. He is a very patient and kind guy. Not an aspie, though.

2) How many relationships you've had?
Several, but my current one is the only one with real substance. The others were brief flings, relationships I agreed to because I heard that dating in High School was the "right" thing to do.

3) Where did you both meet?
At his apartment. His suitemates and he were throwing a party. I was brand new to college and wanted alcohol and to check out how this whole college party thing worked.

4) How old where you both when it happened?
18. He was 20.

5) Was or is he/she an NT or ''special''? How did he/she reacted about your condition?
Neurotypical. When I told him the likelihood of my being an Aspie (recently, in fact), his reply was "Oh yeah, I can see that." And then he moved on with the conversation and we discussed other things. When I informed him of my depression diagnosis and showed fears that he would leave me to avoid any of that baggage, he sternly told me "I don't want to hear any of that again. I'm not going anywhere. I love you and these things are things to be worked out together." Based on his reaction to that, I was not worried about telling him about the aspieness.

6) What was your 1st impression of him/her?
He was cute, friendly, and polite. Very very friendly, in fact. Dancing on his porch, dancing with other people, offering to get people things they needed. I nicknamed him "Happy Hippie Kid" based on his long hair and him flipping a frisbee or hackey sack wherever he was. I felt very comfortable with him.

7) Who made the 1st move? How did you feel about it?
He did, he did, he did. And here's why: Although I liked him and thought he was friendly, the idea of dating him never really crossed my mind. He was not conventionally attractive and was just super nice to everyone. I didn't think I was anything special. After another party, I was sitting on the couch. I was physically and mentally exhaused and gathering myself to head back to my dorm. He sat down next to me, and put his arm around me. I instinctively laid my tired head on his chest. When I looked up, he kissed me. I fell in love with him right there. Yes, it was very surprising.

8 ) What sort of nice things did your significant other for you?
He listens. He gets things I need. He sends me sweet texts throughout the day. He took me on vacation. He cuddles. He helps me when I'm sick. He holds me when I cry. He dances with me. He loves me.

9) How did you feel the first time you lost your virginity? If you did, then with who? Optional question, of course!
I was detached. It was not with him. Some other guy. I figured I didn't want to go to college a virgin and thought I should just get on the horse. I thought it was overrated and went on with my life. We do not talk anymore. The guy was not the greatest guy.

10) How long were you both together/married? Are you still together?
Together three years, three months and 18 days. Yes, still together.

11) If not, what led for you both to break-up?
n/a

12) Do you think you'll find someone new?
I hope not. He's not perfect, but no one is. I would be completely fine marrying this individual.

1) Are you single or married? How do you feel about it and why?
Single now, but have been married twice before. I like being single but at the same time I miss the companionship of having a relationship.

2) How many relationships you've had?
Three long term ones and a few not so serious ones, including my current friend with benefits.

3) Where did you both meet?
I've met them at various places, mostly through family. One of the not so serious ones i met at the a business school I went to and the FWB I met online at a dating site.

4) How old where you both when it happened?
My first serious relationship started when I was sixteen.

5) Was or is he/she an NT or ''special''? How did he/she reacted about your condition?
They've all been NT and no one ever knew about my condition, they just thought I was quirky.

6) What was your 1st impression of him/her?
That varies from guy to guy, but I will say that with my current sexual partner I thought he was absolutely beautiful.

7) Who made the 1st move? How did you feel about it?
All the guys but two have approached me first, and those two being the guy from the business school and my FWB. Sexually though. this is where I'll admit that one of my special interests has always been sex, and I have been known to be forward with my wants and the majority, if not all the time, I've been first to initiate sex.

8 ) What sort of nice things did your significant other for you?
Most of them haven't been that romantic, but neither am I, but my first husband wrote I love you and my name in the snow along my walking route to the bus stop. I was thrilled.

9) How did you feel the first time you lost your virginity? If you did, then with who? Optional question, of course!
I was 16 and had been seeing one of my brothers older friends for a few months. I initiated it and even set up the place and time. I was extremely curious to see what the fuss was about. In the end it was slightly disappointing since it didn't last too long but it didn't stop me from wanting to learn more and do more.

10) How long were you both together/married? Are you still together?
My first one was 8 years (never married), and we had three children. The next one was 4 years, but only married for less than a year before we broke up. The last one was was 7 years and we we were married for two years before I left him.

11) If not, what led for you both to break-up?
The first one was a controlling violent alcoholic. The second one, I just lost interest in, and the last one, I got tired of paying his bail and caring for the kids he had custody of. I raised my kids and I didn't want to raise someone else's. Also, I've come to discover that I don't like the suffocating feeling of being legally connected and obligated to another individual and that certainly helped with ending things. I'll never get married again.

12) Do you think you'll find someone new?
Sure, but only because I've been told that I am fairly attractive and have a tendency to flirt without realizing it. The real problem is finding the type of man I desire, which would pretty, feminine, and a homebody. Major bonus points for looking cute in a skirt.

1) Are you single or married? How do you feel about it and why?
Single. I don't like it because I hate being the odd one out or the third wheel whenever my friends all start to pair up with each other every spring. Then I want to hang out and they're like, "no, I have to see my bf/gf." So I have nothing to do. :/


2) How many relationships you've had?
Three short ones.

3) Where did you both meet?
First) We were in high school marching band.
Second) We were friends in college.
Third) Okcupid.

4) How old where you both when it happened?
First) I was 16, he was 15.
Second) I was 19, he was 21
Third) I was 21, he was 24

5) Was or is he/she an NT or ''special''? How did he/she reacted about your condition?
First) No. I told him and he asked me, "so you're ret*d then?"
Second) He's a gemini so there's a bit of bipolar-ness in his moods. He was indifferent to my condition when I told him but was annoyed when I wouldn't pick up on cues.
Third) Depressive bipolar. He was tested for AS but it came out negative, frankly I think he needs to take it again because I'm sure he has traits.

6) What was your 1st impression of him/her?
1) Oh, look! Another saxophone player!
2) He's hot and he's looking at me. *blush*
3) Awww, Asian!

7) Who made the 1st move? How did you feel about it?
1) I did. It was weird but casual. "wanna be my boyfriend?" "Sure."
2) I did. I was nervous as hell but when he said he could return the favor, I was super happy-face.
3) He sent the first message on OkCupid, I initiated the first date. I was apprehensive as online dating has a lot of taboo attached to it.

8 ) What sort of nice things did your significant other for you?
1) Sent me carnations on Valentine's day...then bitched me out when I wrote a cute note with his gift because his friend read it out loud to the class.
2) Um...he gave me my first kiss? I dunno. He was nicer to me after we broke up.
3) Take me out to dinner, bought me a Hello Kitty Plush and necklace for Christmas, told me I was beautiful on a regular basis, etc.

9) How did you feel the first time you lost your virginity? If you did, then with who? Optional question, of course!

I was disappointed. It was like, "where's the fireworks that I hear about?" I still don't enjoy sex (or masturbating for that matter) so sex is a confusing issue for me. It was with number 3. >.>

10) How long were you both together/married? Are you still together?
1) 2 months, not together anymore.
2) 3 weeks + extra FWB time, not together anymore.
3) 3-4 months. We're not together anymore.

11) If not, what led for you both to break-up?
1) I caught him making out with a guy in the hallway, he pushed me so my head cracked into a brick wall, he constantly canceled dates and would make fun of me around our friends. He broke up with me on Runescape.
2) He cheated on me when I was home over winter break with his ex. He broke up with me in front of my friends the night we got back from break and I cried the entire night.
3) His mother decided she hated me. We tried doing a secret relationship for the last month but then his sister ratted us out (she goes to the same college as me).

12) Do you think you'll find someone new?
Eventually maybe. I'm aiming to drop another 70 pounds so I'll be more likely to catch the attention of men so I'll have more options. Hopefully by then I'll have my driver's license, car and enough money to move to a place with more people who are in my age group. Until I move out, I don't think I'll be able to date anyone as my mother will scare them away with her high standards and conservative christian BS. D:

1) Are you single or married? How do you feel about it and why?
Neither, I'm in the early days of a relationship. And I feel awesome!
2) How many relationships you've had?
1, this one
3) Where did you both meet?
Internet, so far it's only an online thing but we're seeing eachother next week.
4) How old where you both when it happened?
18 and 19
5) Was or is he/she an NT or ''special''? How did he/she reacted about your condition?
He suspects he's an aspie of some sort, but technically he's an NT. He didn't really react to mine of course, we have talked about it though.
6) What was your 1st impression of him/her?
Messages me alot
7) Who made the 1st move? How did you feel about it?
He did, I was HAPPYYYY
8 ) What sort of nice things did your significant other for you?
Say nice things thus far
9) How did you feel the first time you lost your virginity? If you did, then with who? Optional question, of course!
Still a virgin
10) How long were you both together/married? Are you still together?
Not long, we've only been out for a week or so, and of course we are.
11) If not, what led for you both to break-up?
We haven't
12) Do you think you'll find someone new?
No idea it's very early days, it's nice to think I won't find someone else for a loooooong time.

I have a fiance who loves and accepts me for who I am.
Since I'm the poster girl for assorted minorities and a helluva lot of weird interests and views, I am incredibly lucky.
The odds that I would find someone like me are large enough that I've gone from atheist to agnostic because of them.

1) Are you single or married? How do you feel about it and why?
In a longterm relationship and I'm frustrated half the time. He lives with me. I'm not sure if it's "normal" or not, but he pushes my buttons daily. He's a smartass and he jokes about EVERYTHING. Eventually, I either say "go away" or he sees the look on my face and says, "ok, I'll go away now."

2) How many relationships you've had?
This is the longest relationship I've been in. Before him, I dated 7 or 8 guys for 3 or 4 months before each ended horribly. After being cheated on three times by three different guys, I lost my trust in men.

3) Where did you both meet?
For a few months, I worked at a bookstore with his sister. She was a barista, I a cashier on the book side. I didn't really care for her (still don't!), but we had a common friend who invited me out for his birthday. She brought her brother and that's where we met. I thought he was unique, but wasn't going to initiate anything, because I'd just broken up with a real jerk. My friend told him I thought he was cute. He texted me to ask me out and my friend said yes, though I told him not to. I was a bit peeved.

4) How old where you both when it happened?
Me, 24. Him, 22.

5) Was or is he/she an NT or ''special''? How did he/she reacted about your condition?
I think he's special. He has a lot of social anxiety and needs certain things his own way. Oddly, I've coached him out of the really debilitating stuff.

When I told him about me (I found out while we were dating), he said it made sense, but he doesn't really go into it. I think he's scared of facing it or something.

6) What was your 1st impression of him/her?
I hated his hat. He has a black toboggan (spelling?) that he wears during the fall and winter. I still give him crap about it. When he took off the hat, I was like, "Okay, he's kind of attractive." He has a big smile and nice eyes. He's also tall and skinny, which I like.

7) Who made the 1st move? How did you feel about it?
Like I said above, he did. But he did it with a LOT of coaching by his sister, who I think was trying to pawn him off on me. I thought it was nice a guy was making the first move.

8 ) What sort of nice things did your significant other do for you?
He bought me a Wii, because he knew I wanted one. Then, he bought me an Xbox, because he knew I wanted one (but I gave him my Wii). He's really patient with my mom. She's older and a bit much at times. He buys me my favorite drink or treat when I'm down. I just wish he was more romantic.

9) How did you feel the first time you lost your virginity? If you did, then with who? Optional question, of course!
I lost my V with a guy in college. I dated him for a while and I'm glad he was my first. He's kind, smart, and funny.

10) How long were you both together/married? Are you still together?
We were together...5 months?

11) If not, what led for you both to break-up?
I couldn't handle his relationship with other girls. There was one in particular. She was all over him all the time...not my thing. It made me question how special I was to him. I also didn't think we would last, because his family was so Catholic and I wasn't very religious.

12) Do you think you'll find someone new?
Like I said, I'm in a relationship right now.

1) Are you single or married? How do you feel about it and why?
I'm dating someone, but technically single. I feel fine about it...I'm not ready to get married.

2) How many relationships you've had?
3 including the one I'm in currently, but I've dated a couple other people.

3) Where did you both meet?
Mostly through mutual friends, one person I met through a church function.

4) How old where you both when it happened?
My first relationship I was almost 15. I'm 20 and currently in a relationship.

5) Was or is he/she an NT or ''special''? How did he/she reacted about your condition?
I've dated one suspected aspie (I suspected it after we split). I've only told one person about my AS, and they are neutral. They don't understand it all yet.

6) What was your 1st impression of him/her?
I've dated more than one person, so that's hard to answer. Everyone I've had a serious relationship with I didn't meet with an intention of dating them, I just met them with the intention of making a friend. I had neutral to positive impressions of them all as people.

7) Who made the 1st move? How did you feel about it?
My first relationship, he made the first move; my second, I made the first move; my third, it was fairly mutual.

8 ) What sort of nice things did your significant other for you?
My SO's have done lots of nice things for me; compliments, gifts, etc. The things I've always appreciated most are when they do nice things for me, though.

9) How did you feel the first time you lost your virginity? If you did, then with who? Optional question, of course!
I "lost" it recently. I feel fine about it, but I'm still with the person I had sex with.

10) How long were you both together/married? Are you still together?
Still together.

11) If not, what led for you both to break-up?

12) Do you think you'll find someone new?
I don't think I'll just lose interest, but I can see things that could be problems for our relationship. Plus, we're very young and it's very possible that either one of us will change/want different things at any point in time.