How do you avoid being sexually attractive?

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Just be less feminine, more tomboyish. I don't necessarily TRY to be less attractive; I am just such a tomboy and can't be bothered with all those time consuming things that women do.

Things like: shaving (especially not shaving your legs. that turns a lot of men off), wearing makeup, straightening/styling/letting your hair down everyday in a feminine/attractive style (I just tie it back into a ponytail or simple bun with a scrunchie); wearing clothes that are meant for practicality and not to show off your body. (Loose pants, non-girl style t-shirts, non-dropping necklines, slouchy hoodies, non bright or "stylish" clothes, never wearing skirts or dresses or heels or anything "cute")

Especially if you have large breasts, wearing loose clothing/high necklines can bring attention away from your breasts; which as other people have commented are like eye magnets for men.

When you stop doing these things, you stop sending off a message to men that you are trying to look attractive for them. Also, many men are shallow and will be turned off if they see your hairy legs or ordinary looking outfit. Girls are playing into masochistic fantasies by dressing up and wearing makeup every single day of their lives.

Another thing is I live in the city in a pretty bad area of town. It's basically a survival mechanism out here, as a girl, to dress less provocatively. One time a female friend of mine walked to my house from the bus station. She got followed by a man, bothering her with sexually inappropriate comments, all 5 blocks to my house. As well as getting cat called the whole way here. She was very distressed, scared, and uncomfortable when she got to my house and never came over again. Guess what she was wearing? A girly, matching outfit, above-knee length skirt, heels, done-up hair, and makeup. (She is a girly girl who dresses like this everyday)

bad breath and body order, hairy legs, act old, loose your femininity in every way you can (except for maybe your hair), and wear clothes that don't drape you closely so you can hide your silhouette.

you will be a turn-off to a larger portion of men but not all unfortunately.

What may help in such situations is feeling confident in your ability to defend.
A good dog will go a long way in this. You can also attend martial arts classes and learn a few tricks.

Typically those packs consist of only a few agressive types and the others are followers who become passive as soon as they personally feel threatened.
Ignore all verbal assaults and approach them. Always move forward. Showing no fear gives you a moment to do something unexpected to a key person of the group.

Ofcourse only do this if you know there is no sensible and safe way out.

Oh, I'm not afraid where I am. In a large part because I took martial arts for many years and am always "on guard" so to speak. I know how to walk around confidently and exude the air of "I know what I'm doing, where I'm going, etc."

Also I carry a knife and I have my heavy u-lock on hand when biking late at night.

But the main thing I was trying to bring up was that you can avoid a LOT of uncomfortable cat-calling and male attention in these sorts of areas if you dress less feminine. I usually wear slouchy pants or men's board shorts and a big loose hoodie in my neighbourhood when I walk around. You can barely tell I'm a girl from certain angles or from a distance.

The few times I leave the house dressed up for some occasion (in attractive, feminine clothing) the amount of cat-calling and such goes WAY up. Like, can't walk half a block without being cat called at least once. Very uncomfortable.

I've been wanting to get a dog for company, but have to wait until I have a job-
you have to feed them, and take them to the vet, apparently.
My point was that I was in sweats and a huge bleach stained t-shirt, with my hair in a bun, and all this still happened.
I have it on good authority I'm getting a Glock for my birthday next year.

Don't get their jokes. I haven't encountered a man yet who didn't hit on me by being "funny". Take these jokes literally, and demand detailed explanations in a very cold, cerebral manner. They will break into a sweat and run away from you.

You must look them directly in the eyes (or thereabouts) otherwise the brutish, predatory ones will think you are passive and weak and won't give up.

Well, I'd have to observe your behavior and body language before I could offer you any suggestions. For now try scratching your privates in public and sniffing your underarms as much as possible, and sticking your finger up your nose. That might do the trick.

Well hello ladies...how you all doin'?

OP, I say this with sincerity...maybe this is your problem and not that of others. Sorry if I missed an important point that would cause me to rethink this statement, but I am just a man and was too busy looking for cleavage to stare at to read much of the female yammering in here...

You see, flirting and approaching those whom you believe to be sexually attractive in the hope of securing sexual relations is common behaviour....do you think it would be possible to shift your perception on this to see male advances as being a compliment and as expected you can simply turn them down? Either that or you could see how many piercings you can fit on your face which tends to limit ones sexual opportunities...

Oh, to be so popular with those dirty dirty dogs...

The crickets are deafening...