do you ever feel asexual?

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I voted Yes, sometimes.

I feel I am getting more like this but that might be I don't know my asexuality at the moment.

I'm still waiting for puberty to hit. I'm 31, I have a child, but I've never felt inclined to date someone let alone do anything more.

I dated when I was 18-19 years old, one guy, because my 'friends' (I thought they were at the time anyway) insisted I couldn't *not* be interested and that I needed to at least try it. So I landed with a kid and have been a single Mum for 11 years.

I identify as asexual. Aromantic asexual.

I'm asexual

I voted sometimes - don't feel sexual or even like a woman when I feel childlike which I tend to feel when people treat me like a child...see the topic maternal-phobia...

Otherwise I want to have sex with/ will fall in love with - not sure which - with any decent looking, usually older, male who protects and takes care of me.

Do I have daddy issues?

(don't tell my psychologist)...

In a way I consider myself asexual but I don't know if that term is accurate for me. I don't have sex with other people. Maybe I should just call myself celibate?

you're asexual if you don't want to have sex

you're celibate if you're not having it regardless of whether you want to or not

I think if you want to but you're still not this is known as "involuntary celibacy" hahahaha

You took the words out of my mouth

A gay man?

Odd - I feel like a mixture of a hetero man and a child ...in a woman's body.

And around women - especially big groups of them I feel like a fraud, and wonder how long it's going to be this time before they realise I'm not one of them and oust me as the pretender I am.

I've always been asexual. When I was in my 20's, a psychiatrist tried to convince me I needed his help in order to develop a sex drive. He must have been ignorant of the fact that asexuality isn't something that needs to be fixed. What needs fixing the kind of unprofessional behavior he exhibited.

I've never been interested in sex. I'm either asexual or damn close to it. I just don't see what the big deal about it is, and yes, I have had it before and I hated it. It did nothing for me but re-affirm my negative opinion of it. I'm perfectly content to go the rest of my life without ever having it again. (which is my plan) I find no appeal in something that's messy, awkward, and a pregnancy risk for what amounts to some so called fleeting moment of pleasure. (which only the other person gets) It's simply not worth it and I could be using my time to be doing something much more productive. Part of the reason why I left the ex so I wouldn't have to deal with that anymore.

To make a long story short, I really do think "sex is icky."

Romantic relationships as a whole are simply not for me and I'm perfectly OK with that. I vastly prefer being single to being a "ball and chain" to someone anyway. I was never interested in them in school and the only reason I did it one time was because he showed interest in me and I figured I might as well see what it would be like to be in one. Somehow it lasted almost 2 years before I finally had enough.

Mostly asexual.

Someone invades my space, invades my body, causes intense sensory stimulation, and then wraps me up in slimy, sweaty arms and stakes a huge slice of his ego on me convincingly saying I had a good time?? People enjoy this???

But, I need companionship. I need a partner. I haven't found another asexual female I could set up a domestic partnership with. Women in general annoy me anyway. My (seemingly) asexual male friends wouldn't be a good choice-- one of them hates making decisions as much as I do; the other one and I would starve to death in a cardboard box saving up for a rainy day and/or start a cult.

And I wanted kids.

I love my hubby.

Ergo, I have sex.

I'm in the gray. I seem to be between asexual and sexual. I like sex and find it romantic but I am not interested in having it. I have been interested before but I tend to lose interest. I enjoy sexual scenes in my favorite movies and picture myself being the character and having sex with the guy and I like it. But yet I don't actually want it myself. I often feel asexual but yet I get these sexual thoughts. Plus I have felt sexually attracted before but now I don't. My sex drive comes and goes and I haven't felt one in years.

I am a bit of a prude too because I don't like other sex types, I can only tolerate intercourse because I find the rest sick. I get bored during sex, I do not like the feeling of hairy skin or sticky skin so I never have sex naked.

I have been a celibate too in the past.

I feel asexual and gender-less even when I'm all dressed up in a feminine manner...I sometimes feel like I'm in drag, and feel 'fake'. But I do it because it makes me feel like the woman that I've always wanted to be rather than the person I really am inside (which I only reveal to a select few who are truly worthy because the real 'person' is just a zillion times better than the 'femme-bot' me). I'm at the point in my life where I'd like to meet the right man (I'm 26), I've never been ready for that, and have stayed far away for a very long time. I've only recently started wearing dresses, pretty shoes, make-up and perfumes, (NT girl-friends do come in handy, I've learned alot from them even if being around them makes me uncomfortable alot of the time). If I had things my way and didn't have to deal with the rest of the world, I'd be living in t-shirts and pajamas and I wouldn't shave my legs....that was actually me in my teen years and early 20's. I still go back to that when I'm in my 'regenerating' phase (I am trying to reduce periods of these, my NT friends are used to my hermit-like behavior), I get so overwhelmed by the things I have to do just so I can blend in with the world outside my doorstep. I still hate shopping, I still do not know how to do my make up, and I still do not attend parties or gatherings. But I do try to look as attractively feminine as I can with minimum effort and discomfort. There have been many instances where I get myself all dressed up just so I can smile at my reflection and enjoy the sight, only to take it all off because I don't feel like that person in the mirror.

That's me now. I used to do the girly dress-up thing but I'm not even interested in doing that any more and no longer like the attention it brings. I think when I was younger I enjoyed the male attention from that because I was treated so horribly in school that I was happy to have some positive self esteem boosting attention. Now I just want to be left alone.

I'm asexual!

I had this ridiculous sexuality crisis in high school, where I thought I was a lesbian because I was not sexually attracted to men. Then I realized that that didn't make sense, because I wasn't sexually attracted to women either.

But to clarify a bit, I do think both men and women are attractive in an artistic sense, the way I admire a well-designed building or a beautiful piece of art. But I have no desire to have sex with a person...or a building or a painting for that matter.

I can definitely imagine myself in a romantic relationship though. I've had crushes before, based on a mix of admiration for their intellect and humor. The only thing is that forming emotional connections is difficult enough with making friends, and the expectations for forming emotional bonds in romantic relationship are even larger! I don't know if I could open up enough or understand my SO well enough for that to happen. But we'll see.

Sometimes. But sometimes I'm the opposite.