An affair to tell or not?

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Basically I'll keep it short as I have school run in about 5 minutes.

A friend of mine is currently having an affair and cheating on his wife. I know its not my place to say but the guilt of know is eating me up inside. I feel like telling his wife everything I know and how unfaithful he actually is. So should I tell her and risk loosing his friendship or do should I let it carry on eating me up? I can't just loose him as a friend unless he stops talking to me as we are great friends and tell each other everything so I can't just cut out his friendship either. I think its the whole not liking change.

I'd tell him he needs to tell her.

He should tell his wife, not you.
It's not your business.

Give him a time frame, or you will tell. Everyone says its not their business but I look at it more as a health issue. Who knows if the person he's seeing isn't the village bicycle. I'm always hearing news of someone catching something from a runaround spouse. Sad but true.

If you do have to tell don't be surprised to find some know and don't care.

I think curlyfry is right. I will talk to him tomorrow and give him some time to tell her. Probably until after christmas as I don't want to ruin the events until then. Its their son's birthday this weekend also. If he hasn't told her by then I guess I'd have to.

I think you're risking a friendship by giving him this ultimatum. It is his (and his wife's) business. I'd stay out of it.

Just my 2 cents...

~Kate

You risk losing the friendship if you take any further action. The go-between in such a situation can become villianized.

I agree - stay out of it. Not your business.

Sucks, but yeah, I agree with the others. Not your place to tell. Eventually someone else will catch them or guilt will get to him and it will end. Whether the wife finds out now or later, she will still be devastated.

I would encourage him to end it though, and refuse to meet the mistress..

you should tell him that he should tell his wife