LadyCass wrote:
Hi.
So, yeah, a little embarrassed about posting this... I'm not used to talking about it.

sorry!
I'm going to throw you one move, though.
What to expect at the gynalogical exam:
expect to spend 15-30min filling out forms asking all sorts of irrelevant sounding information.
expect to be given a short robe that opens at the back, and to spend another 15-30min waiting in a doctors room on a paper covered chair.
expect to have likely a female nurse or doctor (though I'm more comfortable with males) to ask you to lay back and put your feet up and onto fuzzy covered foot pads.
They will then show you the implement they use to perform the health check, in an attempt to calm you:
here is an article about a woman's first visit.
http://www.obgyn.net/young-woman/?page= ... bgyn_visit
Then they will tell you they are going to place their hand on somewhere relevant to the lower belly and that you will feel some pressure.
They oil the tool, insert it, and OPEN it-somewhat like a pair of pliers.
This allows them to see a little more of the flesh-to discover the condition of the cervix; the opening INSIDE YOU past the obvious opening; where the sperm goes in and the baby goes out.
There also inevitably is some feeling around with the fingers.
If your shy now...
I feel for you. Helpful is placing judgement on hold and just letting the doctor get done and over with!
I experience depression afterwards.
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