24 Feb 2012, 11:32 am
RosieLea wrote:
Brohoof to OP: /)*
When I moved in with my bf, essentially leaving my entire family behind to move 150 miles away,
my grandma told me to ignore everyone's disappointment that I was leaving because your man needs to come before yourself, your family, and your children. Geez grandma.
She also said that I shouldnt feel bad for only making $600 a month at my part time job because it was my bf's job as the man to take care of me anyway.
Of course, we've still fallen into traditional gender roles because my bf is a bit of a man-child that cant take care of himself, and he does pay more of the bills than I do so I feel its only fair that I do more of the housework. (Also his cooking is atrocious.)
When I moved in with my bf, essentially leaving my entire family behind to move 150 miles away,
my grandma told me to ignore everyone's disappointment that I was leaving because your man needs to come before yourself, your family, and your children. Geez grandma.
She also said that I shouldnt feel bad for only making $600 a month at my part time job because it was my bf's job as the man to take care of me anyway.
Of course, we've still fallen into traditional gender roles because my bf is a bit of a man-child that cant take care of himself, and he does pay more of the bills than I do so I feel its only fair that I do more of the housework. (Also his cooking is atrocious.)
Brohoof. /)*(\
I don't think I'd be moving that far. I would most likely be moving 80-100 miles to wherever my bf ends up. Probably not further than where he is now. But really, grandma? Wow. That's not a healthy mentality. My grandma would be like, "and you better visit us or at least call! Don't forget how we cared for you!" Which makes more sense to me.
I probably would end up with this arrangement, I cook and he does the dishes. If he cooks, I'll do the dishes. He'll vacuum, I'll dust. He'll take out the trash and I'll get the mail and wash the windows. I feel dividing up the housework like this would make life easier for both of us.
24 Feb 2012, 11:45 am
24 Feb 2012, 12:15 pm
shrox wrote:
Keep who you are, just add the good things grandma wants you to know. Punk rock chicks can cook and sew too!
Doing the dishes together is fun I think. For chores I just did what needed to be done when I saw it. No specific regimen.
Put each other on a pedestal.
Doing the dishes together is fun I think. For chores I just did what needed to be done when I saw it. No specific regimen.
Put each other on a pedestal.
Yeah. I just hate doing the dishes. I'm okay drying them though.
24 Feb 2012, 5:28 pm
24 Feb 2012, 8:54 pm
24 Feb 2012, 8:55 pm
LiberalJustice wrote:
Your mother sounds very old-fashioned from what I have read. Does she honestly expect you to be nothing more than a housewife? If so, don't pay any attention to her expectations. Whether you want to work or stay at home is up to you, not your mother.
I think she expects me to work AND be the perfect housewife. Good luck.
25 Feb 2012, 7:38 am
Being good to cook is skill that is most useful when having kids. So the question is who will cook for them?, dad-mum-househelp? 
25 Feb 2012, 7:51 am
25 Feb 2012, 7:58 am
Keyman wrote:
Being good to cook is skill that is most useful when having kids. So the question is who will cook for them?, dad-mum-househelp?
Me, most likely. Unless I end up marrying a master chef, which my bf currently is not.
Mithos - I hate those jokes so much. They are old and really stupid. The fellas who say kitchen jokes want her there because clearly they don't know what to do with her in the bedroom.
25 Feb 2012, 8:07 am
25 Feb 2012, 8:19 am
One can also tease these "wife-trainers" that the skills that most likely will make a difference is the ones in the bedroom. And ask if they can share any expertise in that area? 
25 Feb 2012, 8:26 am
Keyman wrote:
One can also tease these "wife-trainers" that the skills that most likely will make a difference is the ones in the bedroom. And ask if they can share any expertise in that area?
I would get yelled at until the cows came home. I don't wanna open that can of worms. >.<
29 Feb 2012, 7:14 pm
29 Feb 2012, 7:25 pm
temperaryobsessor wrote:
I don't think any of these resposes will actually help if you really believe talking to her would be ineffective but you could try telling her.
Choirs: I intend to marry somebody who loves me for me, and is not looking for a live in maid and cook.
Make a man happy: Wouldn't daddy know more about what men want in a wife.
It could be fun to say.
I don't think the fact that your making a big deal of nothing if she expects you to already be devoting a good deal of your life to somebody you have not met.
Choirs: I intend to marry somebody who loves me for me, and is not looking for a live in maid and cook.
Make a man happy: Wouldn't daddy know more about what men want in a wife.
It could be fun to say.
I don't think the fact that your making a big deal of nothing if she expects you to already be devoting a good deal of your life to somebody you have not met.
Well, I have a good relationship with my bf so far so many she thinks we'll go the distance? I dunno.
I wouldn't ask my dad what makes for a good wife...since he's going into his fourth marriage I don't think he knows either. >.<
29 Feb 2012, 7:52 pm
I think every adult (male or female) should practice each of the following skills:
- Assemble furniture according to directions.
- Assemble games and sports playing areas.
- Balance a checkbook.
- Clean a wood floor.
- Clean appliances: refrigerator, stove, and dishwasher.
- Clean bathroom and kitchen sinks and tubs.
- Clean shades, walls, furniture, shelves, bookcases, and other environmental surfaces.
- Clean to prevent rust and mildew.
- Drive a stick shift automobile.
- Find directions to a destination using the Internet.
- Make a grocery list and locate these items in a store.
- Make your own bed.
- Mow the lawn and do basic weeding and soil preparation for a garden; water plants.
- Operate a barbecue or grill.
- Operate a motor vehicle in a lawful and safe manner.
- Operate television sets, compact disks, stereos, computers and other electronic equipment according to directions.
- Pay bills.
- Perform basic car maintenance: replace lights, battery, oil, water, windshield fluid and wipers, and transmission fluid.
- Perform basic installation and set up of television sets, compact disks, stereos, computers and other electronic equipment according to directions.
- Perform basic first aid and CPR.
- Perform simple carpentry tasks: hang a picture, replace a lock or hinge, or replace worn replace molding or weather stripping.
- Perform simple electrical repairs: replace a light, remove a switch cover, replace a fuse, or turn on a circuit breaker switch.
- Perform simple plumbing repairs: replace a washer, turn off water at a valve, and replace gaskets or floaters in a toilet.
- Prepare a healthy meal for 1 to 8 people.
- Put clothing and clutter away to create an orderly living space.
- Read a map.
- Recycle renewable items.
- Remove garbage and trash to the appropriate outdoor receptacle.
- Set up camping equipment.
- Shop for basic household items.
- Shut off the gas and electricity during an emergency (e.g., earthquake, flood or fire); operate flashlights, lanterns, or kerosene equipment.
- Sweep, mop and wax a tile floor.
- Vacuum a carpet.
- Wash and wax a car.
- Wash clothes by hand and dry in the sun or wash and dry clothes in a washer and dryer.
- Wash dishes by hand or in a dishwasher.
29 Feb 2012, 8:13 pm
Fnord wrote:
I think every adult (male or female) should practice each of the following skills:
- Assemble furniture according to directions.
- Assemble games and sports playing areas.
- Balance a checkbook.
- Clean a wood floor.
- Clean appliances: refrigerator, stove, and dishwasher.
- Clean bathroom and kitchen sinks and tubs.
- Clean shades, walls, furniture, shelves, bookcases, and other environmental surfaces.
- Clean to prevent rust and mildew.
- Drive a stick shift automobile.
- Find directions to a destination using the Internet.
- Make a grocery list and locate these items in a store.
- Make your own bed.
- Mow the lawn and do basic weeding and soil preparation for a garden; water plants.
- Operate a barbecue or grill.
- Operate a motor vehicle in a lawful and safe manner.
- Operate television sets, compact disks, stereos, computers and other electronic equipment according to directions.
- Pay bills.
- Perform basic car maintenance: replace lights, battery, oil, water, windshield fluid and wipers, and transmission fluid.
- Perform basic installation and set up of television sets, compact disks, stereos, computers and other electronic equipment according to directions.
- Perform basic first aid and CPR.
- Perform simple carpentry tasks: hang a picture, replace a lock or hinge, or replace worn replace molding or weather stripping.
- Perform simple electrical repairs: replace a light, remove a switch cover, replace a fuse, or turn on a circuit breaker switch.
- Perform simple plumbing repairs: replace a washer, turn off water at a valve, and replace gaskets or floaters in a toilet.
- Prepare a healthy meal for 1 to 8 people.
- Put clothing and clutter away to create an orderly living space.
- Read a map.
- Recycle renewable items.
- Remove garbage and trash to the appropriate outdoor receptacle.
- Set up camping equipment.
- Shop for basic household items.
- Shut off the gas and electricity during an emergency (e.g., earthquake, flood or fire); operate flashlights, lanterns, or kerosene equipment.
- Sweep, mop and wax a tile floor.
- Vacuum a carpet.
- Wash and wax a car.
- Wash clothes by hand and dry in the sun or wash and dry clothes in a washer and dryer.
- Wash dishes by hand or in a dishwasher.
I've done the ones in bold. What's my grade?
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