"You think too much."

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I hear this a lot too. My family tends to say it when I bring the same kind of topic up multiple times (only a continuation of what I was saying before) and I also hear this response when I am including more details in a conversation than the listener seems to want to hear.

I got told that during gym too much.
I ask too many questions about the games apparently lol.

also my ex told me that when I would analyze pretty much every action or word he said in my head.

i often get this when i voice opinions contrary to the speakers. i take it they do not think very much. it is probably because you're a woman. nobody expects you to have an opinion let alone voice it, especially if it is political.

All the time. I get told that I 'think too much', I'm 'too serious', I need to 'relax'...AND that I'm 'too emotional'. However, most of these people have also told me that I need to drink more at parties (specifically so I can learn how to stop thinking so much). So not thinking = happiness? Hm.

I think that in relationships when AS women say something like "what did you mean when you said X?" often times it's an honest question, because people can be confusing. But a lot of guys, thinking it's just a 'woman question', interpret it as some kind of trap.

yeah all the time infact i feel like even i get tired of all the thinking sometimes...its really difficult for me to stop the discussion that goes on in my brain it takes quite a long time till the feeling subsides or i can no longer what the initial point was, you know?

Though thinking a lot can be good like may be when you want to be a psychologist but seriously in my case it gives me such a headache wish i could just stop it cause i am unable to concentrate on other things!
And i agree its so difficult to explain to guys that when i ask something there's nothing hidden and i just want to know the truth!!

All the time.

constantly. although i think the source can be as relevant as the statement given there are people who go to extremes to avoid their own mental narratives. comparing one extreme to another extreme to demonstrate the immoderateness of the first, isn't always helpful.

"you over-think everything!"
"oh, yeah, well that's only because you under-think everything!"
"oh yeah, well that's only because you over-think everything!"

common things can seem to be more (or less) analytical relative to who you're with.

this is more often what i get too rather then "you think too much". thinking (or worrying perhaps) keeps me up many nights. some nights i can't even sleep at all because of it.

Yeah, I get that a lot too.

Once a long time ago I had a conversation like this:
Friend: Your thinking is way too complicated, you can understand all the difficult stuff, but none of the simple things.
Me: Yeah, but I'd rather be complicated than as simple as you.
Friend: ...

That killed the conversation nicely. I'm rather surprised she talked to me again.

Yes, I get told your obsessing.... don't analyze things so much! Be positive.... etc etc...

I've been told I think too much as well. But recently a friend told me "don't analyse everything and enjoy yourself".

I think he means, just go with the flow. I think too much about the reasons behind people's actions and what the absolute best way of solving the situation is. Humans aren't perfect and we can't expect ourselves to be. It's less stressful to accept that you will make mistakes.

Although, that is easier said than done for me.

Yep I always get told that I overthink everything. Some people have even told me they can see me analysing while I am talking with them!

To weeOne:

Yes i have got that all the time since i started to talk with people outside my family. My family has explained to be that people do not think about things to as much depth as i do either because it is "instinctual" so no need to think or they think it is not worth it.

I completely get how it can be hard to stop. Infact it can be downright painful for me to stop without completing a thought, which seemed to surprise a NT colleague who thought she was being helpful by asking me to stop thinking. I would be eager to know what responses you get from people.

On a side note:

The sheldon clip- i could relate to it. I did not generate a algorithm to make friends but i developed a theory on kinds of friendships and their relationship with interaction. I am currently testing it and making modification as i go. Helps me a lot.

But a question. I dont know why but when i see big bang theory i feel like crying than laughing. It just seems like he thinks the way i do and people seem to be making fun of him. I dont like it. Does it happen.

By the way here too, i might get a response saying "you are thinking too much"