How many people have you had "romantic experiences"

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I don't do relationships. I know it's probably a laughing matter, commenting on a thread like this when I'm only eighteen, but, meh. My opinion when I was thirteen years old is the same as it is now, I think that's long enough to believe in it.

I just believe that a person should love and know themselves before they think of even loving another. I haven't gotten there yet.

Yeah, more than 10 by the poll criteria... I don't care to recall them to put an exact number on it... probably less than 20.

Before my husband there were 3 that I truly loved. Most likely my "love" was too intense. Although intoxicating at first, it probably scared them off in the end. I didn't realise this at the time. I was in my teens then and am in my 40's now.

The last one did me a lot of emotional and psychological damage after me holding on for 10 years (we were together for less than a year but he asked me to promise I'd never leave and I promised... ). Although we were not a couple and he had other girlfriends, he was my one and only for that decade. We still had awesome sex. Awesome for me 'cause he was still my special interest. Awesome for him too because what guy doesn't want that kind of sex lol. Poor silly me still thought he'd come back and we'd live happily ever after.

Anyways, I eventually swore off relationships as I decided the negatives outweighed the positives. I realised each person has a definition of a promise and a lie. It was just too confusing and hurtful.

Then, years later came my husband. We have been married for nearly 13 years. The guy is a saint. I tried everything I could to scare him off in the beginning but he was kind, accepting, persistent, consistent, and could not be scared off by the bare truth about my whole life. Yup, that includes the decade long "relationship" described above. Believe it or not.

My husband and I have 3 children, all diagnosed on the spectrum. I was only diagnosed after the kids were otherwise I may have understood myself better and probably wouldn't have had the kids. My husband doesn't flinch at the quirks and eccentric behaviour. I feel completely safe with him. Although I can't understand it I believe he is 200% devoted to me and truly adores me. He also sacrificed his career without hesitation or resentment to help me cope with the kids.

Oh, yeah and in all cases they chased me (some harder and for longer than others lol). I never really valued it but I have been described as "easy on the eye" (at the time I went home and asked my dad what this meant). I guess that explains them chasing 'cause apart from my dear hubby they all ran for the hills once they got to know me!

I would really love a relationship, including a sexual relationship. However I have never had a long-term relationship or a fully sexual relationship because my Aspergers/Autism and mental health problems have derailed my life too much for it to happen so far.
I also have extreme hang-ups about my body so one night stands would be out of the question for me, which is kind of a hard fact to face because I do get sexually frustrated. However I probably couldn't cope with the social side of random sexual encounters, except for maybe with women (I consider myself bisexual and am attracted to both sexes, although probably to men more).

I am twenty five. I am sad and resentful about having missed out on this side of life. I know from the very, very brief contact I have had with this side of things that I benefit enormously from the physical affection of this kind of thing, so that makes the loss cut even deeper.

I tongue-kissed a boy at a party when I was 15.

I had a close friendship with this much older guy when I was 21 who I kissed a lot and was in bed naked with. We didn't have intercourse. I was too inexperienced and also very traumatised (I have PTSD from past abuse- not sexual abuse as such but very bad physical and long-term emotional abuse, which to be honest does just the same amount of damage to your sense of your sexuality from a different angle)

I lay and fondled with a guy I made friends with in a hostel when I was 22. No kissing. Just happened once.

Most recently I had the closest I've ever had to a relationship at 24 where I was very close to a guy emotionally for a few weeks and physically in that we hugged a lot, lay in bed together watching films, kissed a lot and, er, did some other stuff, but again, no actual intercourse. This time I was actually ready, but the relationship ended, he was autistic himself and had his own problems, we had no privacy where we were living and so on. Just didn't happen.

So my experiences in that realm have been tragically limited. Why is life so f*****g unfair eh?

I guess Ive only had one bf. we were both freshmen at the same high school and it started off as a friendship. never anything physical. he was a really nice guy but wanted to get way more serious than I could deal with at the time. I just couldn't handle it emotionally and I don't think I ever liked him as more than a friend. When we broke up he was very angry with me and tried to get back together a few times. Ive been kind of scared of getting into a relationship since then. Not sure if I would even want one at this point.

Never, sounds creepy when you think about it ?

None

Two long-term relationships, two short entirely sex-based relationships, one regrettable one night stand, two drunken hookups, and about four first/second dates that didn't really lead anywhere.

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I met my bf on OKCupid. That's all unless ur removal of clothing criteria counts over webcam.

I would also add the usage of "I love you" in a non-friend way to the criteria.

I've had more physical encounters than I can count. I wouldn't call them romantic. I just like sex and it's easier for me to have sex with people than have conversations with them. Anything further in the relationships usually fell apart for this reason.

1 and he became my husband. We are both aspies. We met on internet.

I've never had a romantic experience.

None until now.
I've never dated, kissed someone mouth-to-mouth, or had a romantic relationship with someone until now.
I'm also still a virgin.
People have never approached me, and probably never will, since I scare them.
I've never approached someone but if I tried it would probably be useless because they would be scared and wouldn't want to approach me.

None and probably never will