What have people commented about you repeatedly?

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1. How long have you been living here? (I've lived in this town for 10 years but don't know my way around because I rarely get out)
2. Your eyes are very big.
3. You shouldn't get mad about things that happened years ago.
4. You're really quiet. What's wrong?

Snap! What might never bloody happen?? That comment drives me potty! I had this said to me so many times in my youth that I walked around with a fake fixed smile for about 10 years because I assumed this must be what people wanted. (I still accidentally slip into Cheshire cat mode when I enter new social situations - but am working on not doing so!) They can like me or lump me. In fact they can just lump me!

The other think people always say is "Stop over-analysing everything!" - which is obviously the ill-considered trademark remark of serial underanalysers!

"You worry way too much."
"What's the matter? You look upset."

I always got that too I also got "You're too sensitive you take things too heart"

'Smile, it may never happen.'
'You're in a world of your own.'
'I'm too tired to talk about that right now.'

"why are you looking at my chest/ears while I'm talking to you? you are creeping me out"
"you are very sensitive"
"you are a cute girl but you are a little 'eccentric"'

"bad" things:
-you need to make better eye contact
-think before you speak/you're rude/you're too outspoken
-you're too quiet
-you're too shy
-you're a geek/nerd/dork
-you need better self-esteem
-you're too picky
-stop fidgeting/pay attention
-you're disorganized/a poor time manager
-you're not a self-starter

"good" things
-you have a kind heart
-you're very intelligent
-you're funny
-you're interesting
-you're honest
-you're pragmatic
-you have a unique perspective
-you're not like other women/I've never met anyone like you

Ever notice how most of those remarks are rarely-if ever-made at men? I used to get the "Smile, it's not that bad" from customers at the various crappy jobs I had to work before, during and even after college. You know what? f**k them, for all they know it IS all that bad and in my case I usually was not grinning ear to ear and bouncing around like a puppy because I was exhausted, stressed and dealing with all sorts of family uncertainty. Woman are expected to cheerfully keep pressing on but men are allowed to be grumpy, angry, etc-I CALL BS.

Oh and "where is your sense of humor?" is often used after calling someone out on obvious racism, sexism, etc. For example, a guy tells a joke that degrades women and you tell him it's not funny. 9 times out of 10 you will then be taken to task for not having a sense of humor. I happen to have an excellent sense of humor thank you very much, WHEN SOMETHING IS ACTUALLY FUNNY.

I'm too shy/quiet.
I'm odd.
I'm not very feminine.
I'm cold/unfriendly.
I'm smart.
I'm funny.

People say that I'm really accident prone
You're so loud
You're weird
You're smart

"Smile!"
"You should really try to be more outgoing."
"Are you going to sit at home this weekend or are you going to actually go out and do something?" (From my mother)
"You must be really smart."
"That was rude."
"I can't tell what you're thinking."
"Is it a good day or a bad day?"

Last edited by nuttyengineer on 02 Nov 2012, 9:15 am, edited 1 time in total.

1: That I should smile more.

2: That my voice is too soft.

3: My face isn't very expressive (90% of the time I have a poker face, regardless of what mood I'm in).

4: That I'm too articulate and should dumb down my language for the general population.

5: That I should put a lot more effort into my appearance.

6: That I need to exercise more and lose weight.

7: That my body language is largely incomprehensible.

8: That I'm not emotional enough.

9: That I'm not "girly" enough.

1) Why dont you smile???????
2) Whats wrong with you???????
3) Why are you so quite??????
4) Are you ok???
5) Why are you not coming???

"You're so quiet"
"You're nice"
"You don't look like you have a teenager"
"Nice hair"

I don't like it when people tell me I'm 'nice.'

"You look so sad."
"What's wrong?"

Pretty much everything you mentioned!