Wow! Now I know, that my poor mom was an aspie with a streak of ADHD. She was a very loving and very intelligent creature. No one ever knew what was "the matter" with her. She suffered from a strong amxiety from childhood and had a hard time facing the day. In her early school years, my granny gave her tea in bed each morning, so she could prepare herself slowly. She spoke very slow as a child and was made fun of, called "odd child" and she could space out in the middle of a conversation, suddenly following her own trail of thoughts. She was VERY creative and had her own world and her projects. One friend at a time and a dominating girlfriend who protected her at school. She was lazy at school, but she scored high at exams, because she could read intensely right before and remember it all. She was a great systemizer. At school, she was called "the professor", as she tended to come up with correct matehematical solutions by her own rules.
At 82, when my father had a stroke and became afatic, she trained him, as the hospital did nothing to help him. She learned to tackle the social system with laws, rules and everything, and she got over her fear of facing "power-people" in the system. She coped brilliantly.
All the way she had been known to be hysterical, - and she was at times, but in most of her bad periods, I think she had real meltdowns because of too much emotional stress. Sometimes she cried and screamed, and I was terrified. I felt, I had been mothering her since late childhood, and I didn´t understand, what was going on. She couldn´t explain it herself.
My, had we known this.
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Femaline
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