Any female Aspies decided that motherhood is not for them?

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I hate children, never had any mothering instinct in me other then loving animals, animals are excellent and my partner and I hope to have a cat together one day

I have a phobia of children under the age of 14, as up until that age was when I was most badly bullied and it turned me against children even more. I also cannot even bare to think about possible getting preg, it makes me feel sick just thinking about it, a parasite growing in me? Not f*****g even, it scares the hell out of me, DO NOT WANT.

I knew in 1987, at 15, I was never going to have kids and, lucky for them, I never did.
Personally:
The whole baby making thing is unnatural
Who in their right mind chooses to spend at least 18 of their best years of life caring for a dependent ingrate
Babies, infants and children are repulsive, smell wrong and have been giving me sensory overload since I was one of them
Never had any regrets, not even for a nano second.

At the age of 6, I informed my mother that I was never going to have kids. Of course she didn't take me seriously.

I'm 50 now. Guess what, no kids, and very pleased with that. In the distant past, I've had mothers of partners ask me, "When are we going to hear the patter of little feet?" (Oh, vomit!) And, "Are you going to give me any grandchildren?" (Not $%#@ likely!) And most of the time, I think, why the heck would I want to jump into your gene pool? And why would I want to produce offspring that will be screwed over by your lackadaisical grandparenting?

One partner went back on his statement of not wanting kids, but I prefer to think now that he had his eye on someone else anyway. No great loss.

Babies frighten the bejesus out of me anyway. Unpredictable, grinning, screaming little horrors. They are definitely in the region of Uncanny Valley. But I'm getting better - I can actually hold one now.

So, it's a GREAT RELIEF to hear that, although I may not be typical, I'm not alone. Thankyou, previous posters.

Never wanted kids. Happily married and have 6 dogs, that's where my heart is! I've been told all my life I "should" have kids, one day I'll "want" to have kids, that my life wouldn't be complete without having children... I'll HAPPILY stick with raising dogs and other critters, thank you very much.

I NEVER EVER EVER want to have kids and sometimes my mom says things like maybe I will some day and I'm like NO!

I know that people change but to have kids you have to be married and I don't ever want to get married either.

I'm glad to see other people who think like me.

I do have children, and I like being a mother, but not everyone feels cut out for it, which is fine. It's a personal choice and you shouldn't feel guilty or feel the need to justify your reasons. Some people will judge you no matter what. And some of those people might say you'll change your mind, but even if you do, it's much better to regret never having children than to regret having them. Raising children is an enormous job and I understand why some people might choose to do other things with their lives.

I think I'll stick with dogs.
Babies make me very uncomfortable and I would probably perish during childbirth... I'm super squeamish about the whole thing.

I work with kids as a children's librarian. I do not know I could handle having any. I am too disorganized myself. I do not know if I could handle having a child with my issues. Not that I had many. I just do not know that I could handle the thought of my kid not having friends and not being able to do anything about it. Childhood was happy for me, but not when I did not want solitude.

I don't think I've actually "decided" not to ever have children because I never really wanted to anyway, just like I've never really wanted to be married. And I'm TERRIBLY old-fashioned, because I think people should have children AFTER they're married.

I held a tiny kitten today.

I think what I felt when holding that adorable tiny kitten must be what many woman feel that they call "maternal instinct". I just don't have it for human babies, only animal babies.