How do you avoid being sexually attractive?

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THANK YOU so much for this injection of sanity and reason. I'm tired of guys like him intruding even on women only pages.

No worries...any time.

You're right, it was wrong of me to think that advice on how to not be seen as attractive by men could possibly be offered by a man.

If the type of people that are approaching you truly are horrible then of course it has nothing to do with your attitude.

Keep expecting the entire world to change according to your expectations...in the mean time have fun swimming against the current...because it's easier to be aggressive online than be assertive as a real person...

Wrong. You'll notice that further up this thread, a male poster gave advice in a serious, considerate manner and I listened. Your post on the other hand was more in the vein of 'Just suck it up'. Sorry, but I'm tired of doing that. This is the women's discussion forum, not the men's, so don't come in here expecting a female poster to put your feelings first. Thank you.

Oh believe me, I'm plenty aggressive in real life, too. Now it would be nice if you shut up.

Ha, this is the only time I think I've come across a thread online of how to twart male attention. I usually dress as my boyfriend says "frumpy". which comes off even more unattractive apparently living in a very superficial city. Let my hair hang in my face, only sometimes wear makeup. I'm told by people sometimes that I'm good looking but I seem to not receive very much male attention. Maybe I'm just oblivious to it or maybe my body language just screams "dont &*!?@ing talk to me!" or something. I dont see why girls want to dress sexy to receive attention from douchebags. It only seems pertinent to try and appear attractive when you have someone in mind you intend on being your best peacock for. Why soo much efffort ladies to impress strangers who you'll mostly never see again? Oh, fellow aspie ladies, I think you're the only ones who understand!

Man-Deterrent Checklist:

-loose, baggy clothing.
-unapproachable demeanor
-clumsy, awkward movements
-when a guy tries talking to you, look at him like you dont get it. Great for you too because the guy doesnt realize that you may really not get it!
-avoid areas of objectifying men, i.e. construction zones, bars, etc
-unsexy walk. I walk briskly with long steps, swinging my arms forcifully back and forth. I always look like I'm walking with a mission
-avoid eye contact (easy for us!)

It is as if you are in a state of blind rage and not actually reading anymore. I really don't care about how tired you are of anything. You have asked for opinions and I have wandered in here to read the post of a friend and thought I might be able to contribute. Asking for opinions means you might possibly receive them.



No, this is a section of a much larger community. Being a public forum means that the contents might be read by and commented on by the general public.

My feelings are not at risk here. I'm just disappointed in your behaviour, to the extent that one could sensibly be online, which is also the reason my feelings are not a concern. The opinion provided, as a member of your problem sample of the population, has aggravated you to the point that you felt justified in calling me a 'douchebag'. Again, I think your attitude is your issue, not the clothes you wear, what you say, or your mannerisms.



And I offered my advice. Regardless of whether you thought my advice was valuable or not, engaging me in discussion on the matter means that I will continue to respond as I please, or you may choose to end the discussion by not responding. See how that works?

Something I have said has made you act in a manner which I would suggest meets your goal of becoming unattractive. If you acted in a decent and considerate manner you might attract decent and considerate people.

You see I care enough about a stranger like yourself that I will continue to provide sensible advice as long as you continue to spew absolute rubbish at me. Of course, these efforts would be in vain if your actual motive was to boost your own ego by attempting to portray yourself as a woman that continues to attract men regardless of your efforts to become unattractive. If this is the case, then I can only hope that you will succeed and be eligible to post about how you are tired of members of the opposite sex not paying you any attention. This alternative motive would certainly explain the venom in your responses.

Just do "the face":

[youtube]http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8wRXa971Xw0[/youtube]

So basically..you're annoyed at how I behaved to you.

I'm afraid I behaved to you that way because you were flippant, insensitive and offensive. If you had posted in a simply factual manner I'd have been totally fine with that, but you chose to run your mouth and sorry but that is not welcome. You'll notice that when others posted in a respectful or merely neutral manner I was respectful back. That should tell you something.

In addition:

It's also specifically for women.

By your logic, it would be totally okay if I went into the Parents' subforum, told parents what they should be doing and how they weren't good enough, even though I'm not a parent myself and I know very little about bringing up children, because 'it's a public forum'.

Which it is obviously not.

Most people would want to be seen as attractive, sometimes it's a good thing as it makes you feel more confident, other times it's a a curse if you attract someone you don't want to attract

Many women want to be in your shoes. I hardly get noticed by men personally so you're a lucky girl.

You can't change how you look nor can help who you attract, just put out your intentions on the fact that you want to recognised as a female and not just as someone who is a attractive. Never change yourself, that includes how you dress ect just avoid those that don't respect you.

Stop Objectifying men, you don't deserve the attention you get and you don't know what men go through everyday

^^^ this, the only answer i have managed is to nail my door shut or when i lived in the middle of nowhere i got left alone. when i was fat even the ones who did not ask me for sex went out of their way to tell me i was fat and ugly, seems all they care about is sex

Don't wear makeup, dress for comfort, not looks, and if you don't want to flat out tell them you aren't interested, try talking about cats.

Act like a human being. Many, if not most, men are not actually attracted to human females; they are attracted to femininity, meaning artificiality.

I did not read all 8 pages of responses but...

I would say tattoos but they freak some guys out, turn others on, are very permanent. Facial piercings also work (I used to have like 10) but there will again always be the people who think you're a freak.

I tried dressing more casual/lazy but I've figured out that sometimes I seem to get MORE attention then, like I'm more approachable.

I've solved this by just braying NO. NOPE. NOOOOOOPE. NO.

Over and over and over when dudes try to talk to me. To hell with a social contract. I don't owe anyone a "thank you" for trying to strike up a conversation with me using flattery & compliments.

i didn't read the whole thread, just the first page. perhaps this has been suggested. wear baggy clothes that cover lots.

Alas, you cannot totally escape this issue, because sexually is so complex and diverse, no matter what you
do or look like, SOME ONE will find you very appealing! Age will take care of most of your problem, I always
had a "good figure" so men would comment on that, but now that I am a senior, I am safe and free at last!

Just know that all of us are in the same boat, 90 per cent of the attention we get is unwelcome. Wait for
the 10 per cent that is, and enjoy it.
Best, Alice