A small clarification about this section

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Soooo, no one has bothered re-wording the description for this section on the upgrade.

It's sad... I see a women area but no men... as if men don't go through male problems, as if men don't go through things only males and some females can understand. Where the crap is the support for men? This annoys me so much because I know men go through a lot. I know what they go through and, it's harder for them to talk emotionally, to speak out about problems and then these 'support forums' only give sections out for women.

What deliberately strikes me as odd, is having a sub forum for women that is being headed up by men constantly. Fine, so you don’t have male mods interfering here, but you do get male members.
If they want a male forum, give them one, at least it will keep them away from here and from posting quips and jibes elsewhere.

i am also in support of a reinstatement of the men's forum.
i know that when it was attempted in the past many of the posts were crude and misogynistic, but i wasn't there so i'm not sure how true that is. however, i'm sure there are things that can be done to minimize this type of behavior, such as redirecting topics to the adult forum, editing or removing seriously harmful posts, and being very clear about the intent of the section. i mean, ideally, if a men's section was modeled like the women's section there would be few problems. lol.

but i say good, so long as women are allowed access it and voice our opinions and ideas if we want to and are within the forum rules, just like men do here. it's not like the men's forum wouldn't have to be monitored to the same degree as the women's forum (right?), and plus, if some men want to exchange destructive ideas that may or may not be clearly outside of the forum rules, wouldn't it be better to discuss that openly rather than repress it completely and let those ideas manifest even deeper? even if it becomes hostile, its not like threads here or anywhere else on this forum have not become hostile due to difference in opinion. i believe we owe it to the men on this forum to give them a space like the women's forum where they can talk about societal pressures, men's health, sexual health, clothing, hygiene, relations with women, other men, parents, children, etc. there are lots of issues i'm sure men would like to discuss which are completely valid and applicable to their gender, and the men's thread is an awkward solution to this.
i understand that debates can blow up and cause strife between members, and also that women may not want to disclose certain things in the presence of men and vice versa. many the issues with restricting access have already been identified, and so maybe the best solution is to recreate a space for men to have exchanges in a predominantly male context.
i agree with Empathy too, in that a men's forum could actually serve to relieve the women's forum of some of the less helpful types of male presence here. if its done well, it may even be able to balance out the hostility between male vs. female arguments. yes there may be more hostility quantitatively, but leveling out the playing field and giving men a chance to express themselves in a rightfully male dominated context is good sportsmanship.
i'm not so deeply afflicted by online hostility, and maybe i'm in the minority because i enjoy open debate and think that it's ultimately regressive if arguments aren't made for the sake of keeping the peace.

with all that said, i really do understand that people cannot be controlled so easily, and it would be asking a lot of alex and site monitors to reinstate a forum which has gone so wrong in the past. my vote is all for giving men a second chance to make it right, though. maybe there needs to be more monitors on wp?

It's only confusing because there's no "Men's Discussion" forum. I assumed this wasn't private, but was exclusive to women-related questions. I'm not going to get too personal about my body here, but I don't want a guy commenting on something he doesn't understand--like PMS. Let's get a Men's Discussion!

I second the thought of adding a Men's Forum. Also I hope this doesn't come off as rude (this is just a straightforward observation I've made being new around here and scouring all the threads) but the Love and Dating forum kinda looks like a Men's Forum already? Maybe giving the dudes their own space to talk would even things out around there

I just want to add my vote here about the males posting in the women's discussion category. I wouldn't ever ban men, but I would strongly discourage it. It is bothersome and the women can't use the category in a constructive helpful way. I think Alex should consider the women's view because their are more and more of us now. Maybe we'll leave this site and find our own way somewhere else.

One other suggestion. One person commented that they don't look at the categories, they just look at the latest things posted and respond to those. What if the women's category was removed from that list so that a person would have to deliberately seek it out in order to post or reply there. I think this may cut 90% of the male posters.

I also don't agree that this is sexism, just as affirmative action isn't racism. The men always get what they want is BS. As other women have said, men run the dating category like it's a woman bashing event. I dare not step foot there. I wish the women's category was so unwelcoming to men.

Thanks for the explanation!
I was surprised that SO MANY men were posting & answering in the women's section!
I mean, they get our bathrooms now, and a shot at all female athletes now, I guess we'll have to put up with the hairy stinky lot of them here as well!
LOL!