Why do some women get mad that you have only been sexually

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It was in amithedevil.

I haven't suggested you're referring to all women. Dismissing a woman as a skank based on how she's dressed reflects poorly on you, not on her.

There was a guy telling me his ex did enjoy getting cat called and whistled at because it made her feel like she looks good.

However, the vast majority of women don't feel like that. So what we are asking as a majority: blokes stop it.

Just because a handful of women like it, doesn't mean the rest of us do.

I'm not saying you behave like that shadow.

But just because you know women who like being whistled at doesn't mean they give a free pass to men to whistle. Hope that makes sense.

I'm guessing your argument is along the lines of , "how do we know who wants cat called and who doesn't when some women like it and actively encourage it?"

The default now is don't do it. Tough luck to those women who enjoy the attention, but even they don't want to be man-handled, groped and persistently bothered let alone anything physically abusive.

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Yup.

Personally, I find skank to be an outdated term. As long as she isn't cheating or spreading STD's and protection (along with consent) is involved, a woman who sleeps around is not doing any harm.

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Well it is still considered an insult, I get what you mean...but I would not advise actually calling women skanks.

But yeah not sure why having sex with lots of different people or dressing in revealing attire necessarily make someone unpleasant. People don't seem to have a problem with men who have had sex with lots of different people, so why is it suddenly negative if a woman has? Certainly a double standard hence there not being like a male equivalent of skank.

So worse in 6th grade when my mom told me I had to wear very long shirts if I am going to wear stretch pants or wear loose pants if I am going to be wearing short shirts because boys were staring at me. This led to my future eating disorders and body image issues.

I told this in my post as well. And the thing is, I don't think my mom was trying to teach me if you don't want men to start at you, wear something else. I had to unlearn it. How my mom should have handled it instead was telling my teacher that she should tell her boy students to not look at me and to learn some manners and learn to respect women and not harass them.

And shoutout to that one teacher in the AITA thread for saying she has told her collogues off for suggesting her 4th grade student should dress different than her classmates because of early puberty.

Good for her, she isn't hurting anyone so I disagree this makes women look bad. I've seen the same argument used against sex workers as well. Yes while these women may also be consenting and like the attention, that doesn't mean they want to get crude comments in their inbox or try and get men to pick them up and send them creepy messages. I mean there are women out there that do pay for sex services and do pay men to talk dirty to them and stuff but more power to them. Yes I have seen other women speak against these sort of women. Women can also be misogynists too.

I wouldn't be surprised the downvotes and angry comment came from women who hates sex workers or women that like to dress in a way that shows their body because they are not ashamed of their body but that contradicts the repost the OP made. Reason why I hid mine was because I was ashamed and hated how I looked and then I lost enough weight and was feeling good about myself so I decided to start going out in a sports bra or short shorts when I go for a run. And that was when I discovered all this attention from random guys and I thought "so is this what women were always talking about?" It would happen several times a week and I thought "imagine if this went on all day long or on a daily basis, it gets old." So yes I can see why women would fuss. Should I change what I wear when I go for a run? No. I have even had random men pull over just to talk to me and you know what? I just want to run damn it, not be bothered. I have also had some random men come up to me and start talking to me and I just want to be left alone and run. Yes I will be polite and brush it off and just think "well at least it doesn't happen all the time so I won't let that one incident ruin my run."

Sex workers sleep with married men and destroy families, from reading all that you have just proved to me how delusion you are and that you will defend anything.
Good for her? She is hurting her children by bringing all these men home, half of them married men so just as bad.

I'm going to call this out too if we are going to get at someone for using the word skank.

Saying that some women dress down is misogynistic too. If that's what they feel comfortable in, so be it. It's their choice.

The point of feminism is that we get to choose what we want to wear, without judgement.

I don't dress up often. Maybe for weddings and special occasions. I think you would judge me if you saw me based on this comment.

I ordered a dress online and got it delivered to my office because it was coming by courier and I didn't want to miss it. I unpacked it at my desk. It was strapless and bright pink. A male co-worker said to me, "I didn't think you would wear something like that."

We aren't typecast by what you see us in.

And you showed me what you think of sex workers, thinking they all sleep with men? You think they all bring home random men? Do you realize there are different sorts of sex workers.

Guess what, I sell my fetish stuff online and my husband is okay with that and I do not bring home men or sleep with anyone but my husband. But good for you for showing me how judgmental you are.

Also lot of sex workers would not being home random men, why? Because it's stupid and unsafe and they don't know who these men are and who they are dealing with. They also would not give out their location or even use their real name. Why? Because they don't want to be harassed or stalked.

A sex worker is a sex worker. Their is no excuse to sell yourself. So my point, lack of self respect.
Funny how you ran to the moderators huh? Yet its okay for everyone to group up on me and say i'm this and that but you dont like it. I have only gave my opinion but guess you cant do that here as everyone thinks the same and defends everything.
Also if i'm to get reported again...
Then maybe the moderators can get me up to speed with the last incident i was in and sort that out.

If you think a female sex worker is "trashy" for selling her body, but a male coal miner isn't for selling his, it speaks volumes.

Coal miners dont sell their body for sex so how does that compare?

Paying the bills seems like a reasonable excuse.
Enjoying the work seems like a great excuse.

Not that one needs an excuse for finding work they enjoy (assuming their participation is voluntary).

Right whatever you say pal, having sex for a living is a great life. Seriously.

^ The excuse is whiney misogyny.