Are there aspie woman who love the freedom of being single?

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I like my freedom!

Yes. I used to believe I was a lesbian, but now I think I may be asexual in terms of I never want to share my space with another person-unless I have my own child.

Meh, I like having my boyfriend better than being single....I guess its less effort to be single since you don't have to care about that other person, but also more boring and lonely.

It's not so much the effort, it's just that I like to do things my way and any type of romantic interest will insist that we become an "us" and try to alter my routine. If I could find someone who will just coexist with me and take care of themself/not expect me to be their entertainment, maybe.

It has some advantages, but I don't love it.

Sure.
And plently of reasons too.

I simply don't desire a relationship. Mainly because I'm completely apathetic about it and satisfied in my current status.

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I hated it when I was single! I'm glad I'm with a man that loves me for who I am.

I feel like it would be nice to be in a good relationship and share life with a person who is compatible with me, but there's the rub, there's the gamble -- I have failed to find that kind of stability with anyone. Yet I'm always my own "rock".....so being and living single has been my most stable domestic situation, and yes, I do really enjoy it.

I enjoy the freedom of doing what I want, when I want. I enjoy making my own choices. I enjoy my space being my own space, and if I happen to have executive functioning problems and let the place be a mess, there is no one to judge me for it, it's my own challenge, responsibility and my own mess. I don't need the grief of another opinion in the mix.

Like I say, a GOOD relationship is golden and that's a nice ideal. But failing that, being single can be very beautiful because although yes you're alone, on the plus side there is nobody to rattle your cage, nobody to judge you, nobody expecting things of you you know you're not interested in doing or being, nobody who can also be a source of stress, not just good things. Being with the wrong person is way worse than being alone.

Sure, I like being single. I like my solitude in general and I don't have a lot of interest in relationships because they seem too high maintenance for me.

That being said, it's not like I have never felt affection for others in a romantic sense, but it's very rare. I do sometimes feel lonely, but that is easily remedied through other relationships, like family and friends. As for sex, well I have either the option to masturbate or have casual sex with either strangers, acquaintances, close friends, etc. You don't have to have sex or belonging or affection or intimacy in the context of a romantic relationship. If I did form a close bond with someone and we entered into a romantic/sexual relationship, then fine Id be cool with that but it's not something I necessarily yearn for.

I tend to feel most lonely when I am cut off socially or emotionally from others in some form or another. I know this is something we all do as we are a social species that evolved to yearn the company of others. But honestly, I don't actually feel like I need to be around people all the time to feel satisfied - just a few close friends and family members suits me.

I don't mind it either way, I'm doing fine on my own and in no rush.

I hadn't really thought of it in terms of "freedom," but I guess so. I am romantically disinclined, and I also like the idea of living alone.

Although, I am actually really bad at living alone, so I can't. Part if it is just the monetary expense of living alone, but I also have trouble from executive dysfunction. When I lived with a romantic partner, he handled a lot of little things like paying the rent and other household bills (I'd provide my share of the money, but he would be the one to actually turn the money in), checking the mail, and taking the kitchen garbage to the dumpster. He also reminds me to eat. After we broke up, I lived on my own for a year, and it was a disaster. I ended up moving back in with him (platonic roommate).

I'm open to having a new romance with someone someday, but since I'm so fond of being single, I'm much pickier than most people.

YES!

And I find it so annoying when other people here go on like not having a romantic interest is the worst thing in the world. I guess if they really want a lover that's fine as long as it's not for the wrong reasons i.e. society has made them believe they have to be like the animals in Noah's Ark - get a mate or die.

I love it

All around me I see terrible relationships, and people staying in them just so they're not alone. Meanwhile I feel so darn free to do what I love at my work and not have to justify working late or having alone time to recharge in between!

I do get a lot of slack for not wanting a relationship, from the very people incessantly complaining about theirs. Enough said !

I wonder if there are currently more women in the world than men who are ok being single for long periods of time (seems to be a pattern on WP at least), and if so why that is? From many of the answers here it seems like women generally feel more capable of taking care of themselves emotionally, while the men on here who complain about being single express a need for a female romantic companion to be able to express their emotional selves and to feel supported and like their life has a purpose. Why is it that women can feel our single lives have purpose without men but men can't seem to feel the same way about their own lives without women? Is this a cultural phenomenon?