kraftiekortie wrote:
There are times when I could be successful just "winging it"--doing it off the cuff.
Many times, though, I become flustered, and I stutter. There are many times when I can't convey my thoughts well at all.
I don't really "rehearse" any longer. However, I believe there are times when "rehearsing" might be to my benefit.
My husband drew out what he meant by his scripts. It is mostly for small talk situations with strangers.
It reminded me of the number factor trees you did in school.
Someone says, "Hello, have you been waiting long?"
That breaks down to choices a or b response.
If the stranger say this...you can pick from c or d.
Basically, it is what a child would learn in a social skills class.
Have you waited in line long? That could be the person inquiring about a statement of fact (length of time) OR they found you interesting and want to chat while waiting OR they want information (length of time) and have a chat.
The suck part is body language, facial expressions and tone of voice sort of dictate whether it is 1, 2 or 3. My husband is horrible at judging any of those instantly. So his scripts are the polite middle of the road.
When he is with strangers, his anxiety sky rockets. The ability to read people plummets, and that is why he thinks the scripts help him.
My husband says be barely does it anymore for family or folks he has known for a long time.