It's said most girls with AS don't do girly things? Your op?

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I like to be clean and neat, I like to clean, I wear female clothing, I played with dolls growing up and Polly Pockets, I played with make up and dress up but yet mom says I was a tom boy up until age ten because I also did boy stuff like get dirty, play in the mud, climb trees, played with my brothers toys, played fighting games. But I still wore girl clothes.

So I would say I was a girly girl and I was emotional too and talked about my feelings because I would say what was bothering me and how kids were treating me at school. But apparently I have a hard time with my feelings because whenever I express them, they are thoughts I am expressing, not feelings. Sure I can say "This pisses me off" and that is expressing my feelings. It is saying it makes me angry.

I wasn't really that girly when I was younger. When I was in elementary school, I liked some girl things, but I felt like I was meant to be a tomboy. But when I moved back into my hometown at age 13, I had a sleepover with the "popluar" girls, who transformed me into the complete girly girl I am today.

What *are* girly things? I think I'm not girly, but I can't be sure because I just like things that I like, whether someone considers them "girly" or not. If I don't do something that's considered "girly" it's because it doesn't appeal to me for some reason, likely having nothing to do with my gender.

I do wear makeup but I don't spend a lot of time grooming or adorning myself. I'm uncomfortable with attention, so that would be counterproductive, really. On the other hand, I've had two children, and I loved the pregnancy process, but it didn't make me feel any differently than I did before. I think I just identify with me; to me there is no purpose in identifying on a larger scale with a group of people who may or may not share some characteristics with you.

No I don't do girly things. I like the idea of wearing dresses or skirts but when I do, I feel really strange like I'm in a costume or something.
I don't like wearing jewelry, getting haircut, manicure, facials, and going shopping.

However, I wear makeup almost everyday. I feel naked and ugly without it. And people (men and women) treat me better if I have makeup on.

I can be somewhat girly, but I'm really not as girly as your average girl. I didn't care for shopping till I was 16. When I was younger, I would always hate going shopping. Now when I do go shopping, I perfer to go in and out of stores. I'm not like other girls who will spend hours in a store. I have some girly interests such as cooking, sewing, fascination with people, pop music. But then I also having less girlier interests such as electronics, science, numbers, etc.

My maintances is probably one of my least girliest things. I live much like a guy; I dont always shower everyday, I forget to wear deodorant a lot, i wash my face infrequently, I dont clean my room and bathroom as much as I should, I dont like keeping excess junk around my room, I wear the same clothes more the once.

Clotheswise, I mostly wear comfortable clothes: shirts, tanks, shorts, pants, mostly running shoes. I dont feel comfortable with dressing up unless everyone around me is. I do take interest in wearing nicer clothes such as skirts or dresses but I dont do it that often. I almost always wear some form of fully covered shoes,(mostly running shoes) due to feet sensory issues. I do own flats and sandals, but I rarely wear them because there not comfortable. In terms of nice footwear, I wear nice boots when its cold. Hairwise, its just wash and wear. I tie back my hair if its hot and thats mostly it. I only wear makeup for special occasions.

At the age of 15 I started straightening my hair, and wearing lipstick and concealer (for dark under-eye shadows) to music college cos I fancied someone. lol. At 18 I started wearing mascara and at 20 I learned how to do eyeliner using dark eyeshadow and one of those flat edged brushes. I have very little skill with makeup, but I learned how to do mascara and eyeliner in one way I like and I always do it the same way cos I know it looks ok and I like doing that. I never use foundation or any of that kind of stuff though. I don’t really get the point of it and I don’t know how anyway. I focus more on skin care. Nowadays I like wearing nice, girly-ish clothes out but most of my clothes are quite simple cos I don’t know what the fashion is and I don’t know what goes with what, so yeah. I don’t wear heels either. My favourite type of shoe is flats. I also enjoy clothes shopping… alone. I like earrings. And I love cute things like smiley faces and baby animals. Still quite girly but not super girly. =)

I paint my nails black and wear black eyeshadow. That's about as girly as I get.

All I do is light makeup (not much beyond mascara, mineral foundation, and blush). Any more than that and I have a strong temptation to take it off after a couple hours. I also like styling my hair, but since I have a pixie cut, it's pretty low maintenance no matter what. I just need to keep it trimmed. I also can't/won't do manicures.

As for clothes, my default is jeans, converses, and t-shirts, but I also like composing my outfits (I'm a graphic design student, and like playing with the different colors, patterns and cuts, but don't pay too much attention to trends). I wear heels for church, but not much else. I also can't wear tight or frilly clothing for long without wanting to change into something more comfortable and casual.

All in all, I'd say I'm girly but practical.

I voted 'Never,' though that's not entirely correct. I've worn make-up exactly 4 times in my life: my 16th birthday when my mother took me to a spa, prom, my sister's wedding (twice - once for 'testing' beforehand and once for the actual wedding). I tend to rub my face and eyes throughout the day, and when I try to do that while wearing make-up I of course get foundation all overi my fingers and it feels weird to boot. The last time I wore it my lips felt weird for days after I'd washed it off and anytime I touched my face my fingers would come away kind of shiny.

That said, I keep my nails long and fairly nice-looking. As a kid I hated having them cut, and whenever I cut them myself I'd go too short. I was allowed to let them grow as long as I kept them clean, and it's become a point of pride for me. Used to wear nail polish quite often, but not recently. I don't mind skirts and dresses for special occasions but usually wear jeans and a t-shirt. I also like wearing earrings and my ears are pierced. Wearing them for two or more days in a row makes my ears tender, though. My hair's down to my shoulders and used to be longer.

Interests-wise, I'd say I have a mix of girly and non-girly. I like sc-fi, video games, explosions and action scenes (always have), but I also enjoy reading more 'emotional' stories. I like shopping as long as it involves food or electronics. As a kid I played with Barbies and Polly Pockets with my sister, and also Lego with my brothers. I hate the stereotypical 'make-up, shoes, boys, etc' girly interests, but also dislike sports, beer, etc, which are the stereotypical guy interests.

Rarely bother except important stuff like interviews. Im more likely to wear face paint other times haha! The local shop think im a hippy as I'll face paint flowers down my face if im going kids party - why should they have all the fun?!

I'm not girly at all, never have been in my 35 years.
Don't wear make up, don't shave my legs/arm pits or 'other' places, wear perfume about once a decade, cut my own hair, always wear sports pants or jeans and a T-shirt/ jumper, always baggy, never tight cloths because I find them indecent and sickening (not a sensory issue for me), and I hate skirts and dresses and haven't worn them since I was forced to as a kid.
I've always preferred short hair, and I had it cut short at nine when my mother finally let me, and I've kept it short ever since.

I'm not into chick flicks at all, nor chick lit. I don't fit into societal expectations of females, and I have no wish to. I think everyone should be who they are (excluding violence or murder of course), and society be damned!

I was never very girly until I started going nuts over Victorian-era fashion and etiquette. It's a different type of girly than what I'm used to seeing in today's society, and I relate to it better. Still, most of my interests are things that guys normally enjoy, like video games and rock music.

I hate most girly behaviors.
My mother forces makeup on my on special occasions but I hate it
Jewelry annoys me except stud earrings
I only wear a skirt to church and even then always knee length or longer
I hate everything about puberty
so.... yeah... only difference is I get no support AS wise because I'm undiagnosed.