Scared and disgusted of pregnancy

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I've had my tubes tied, so pregnancy is not a concern of worry for me, personally. I am not repulsed by pregnant women or pregnancy in general, I am however always a little bit nervous around women who are really pregnant and I'm not quite sure why.

And like the person above me said, there are PLENTY of breeders and pro-creaters out there, so I'm not worried that my decision to not have children will hurt the human population - in fact I think I'm doing the world a favour.

I have a one year old and I never wanted to be pregnant. It took my husband 12 years to convince me to do it. It wasn't scary or disgusting in and of itself. Everything happens so gradually and I was so nauseous and exhausted that I slept a lot for the first 6 months. I can see why you'd be afraid of it and if you feel that strongly about it then taking great measures not get pregnant is a good idea. I really disliked being pregnant and thought the end would be gory and gross but it wasn't at all. A period is way more than what I saw and I had a c section after 24 hours of labor that wasn't going anywhere. One cool thing about pregnancy is that your skin looks amazing - or mine did anyway.

It's hard on your body - you have to work to get your figure back. It's been one year and I've worked to get back in my old clothes and taken good care of my skin from day one so ill be back in my bikini with no stretch marks. Hard yes, gross, not at all. What's much harder is dealing with life after the baby arrives. The stress can wear down a very strong marriage and bring out the worst in people. But I only speak for my case.

I felt very strongly against it but decided to do it anyway. The baby is precious but I definitely feel that the best parents are just different than me.

I'm more freaked out by the thought of raising a child that I made the wrong decision to have. I'm not maternal (unless it's puppies or a kitten for some reason), but I don't find human babies cute or special. I just don't. Lots of people find me cold or hardened by that, but I really don't give a s**t, its how I've always been. I find babies loud, pudgy, draining and they all just grow up and resent all your hard work anyway.

I don't see the point.

I'm emetophobic and can't stand the thought of being nauseous and/or throwing up EVERY morning!! ! Also I heard that in spite of the name morning sickness does not automatically end at noon, and more recently I've heard that even though this is supposedly a "natural" part of pregnancy some women get it so bad they end up hospitalized. But that's not the only reason I don't want kids. I'm not married, I don't even have a boyfriend-not that that makes any difference these days, pfft!-and there is no way I could handle it, especially the fact that babies have a tendency to not "hold their food" well, come down with viruses more easily and frequently and often projectile vomit without any warning. I have two cats, and I would much rather have something that wrecks my furniture than something that wrecks my whole life!

I read that some people think baby dolls are bad for children because it gives them unrealistic beliefs about motherhood and even encourage teenage pregnancy. I played with baby dolls a lot as a little girl, usually preferred them over Barbies, so obviously those people are wrong.

I am now pregnant. My guy could not build a relationship with me and we parted. I'm very frightened by the news of the pregnancy.

That must be a big shock! Have you already told him??

Yes, I told him
but he says that he does not need a girl like me. and does not want to see me anymore. and does not respond to me.
I was all alone ...

I really understand your issues with child-birth. I decided quite early on, sometime around kindergarten, never to have bio-kids. Adoption all the way!
However, as I got older I realized it was not the 9 months of being pregnant, or even the child-birth that was the scary part.
It is the next 18years to life after birth that seems the worst part. The constant worrying and fear that something bad would happen and that I would do something to screw the kid up and turn it into a serial killer or not be able to protect it from bullies and terrorists and environmental destruction and meteor strikes and earth quakes and floods and lightening and car accidents and tripping in the stairs and falling off the fence and..... And that fear will never go away, no matter how old that 'child' gets. Even when s/he is 80 (if I were still alive) I'd worry. Yeah, I I think the whole thing about children is scary and I will leave it up to those brave humans who actually don't mind that constant anxiety/fear.

When I was pregnant as far as I can remember I only threw up one time and that may have been partly from motion sickness from being in a car. I do remember being nauseous and hungry at the same time so I couldn't eat.

I wouldn't want to be pregnant (and can't get pregnant any more) but I'd be more scared of the birth and having to take care of the baby than I would be of the pregnancy. I find breastfeeding to be kind of interesting and would have liked to try that if I had kids but I don't want kids so I never did.

I had a discussion with my boyfriend about this and it blew my mind - he realizes that women's bodies are dual purpose and can indeed be sexual again even after having children! So different than a typical guy.

I have been pregnant once and I loved being pregnant. I was afraid before I became pregnant but once I found out I was pregnant I just took every day in stride. Yes, I had some of the usual annoyances (finding the right position to sleep in and peeing all the time) but I loved seeing my body change and feeling the baby move.

I know people gripe all the time about whatever is going on in their lives but being pregnant for me really was amazing.

I don't want children, but if I did I would rather adopt than be pregnant. I think adoption is the better option, because there are over 7 billion people and many homeless children in need of a loving parent(s). Plus I wouldn't want my children to suffer with sick obsessions like I do with guys I like and suffer being rejected constantly by guys/girls they like. Also now that I lost weight and I want to get into modeling, I don't want to ruin my body either.

Most people don't want me breeding anyway, which I agree, I wouldn't want another me. I am one of a kind and when I'm gone, only a memory of me will exist.