love wrote:
My first experiences were with a woman, but I found myself shamed by family/society and trying to be normal so I did the dating of men. In high school I came out as bisexual and dated both men and women. Then I met my husband and we got married (we have been together nine years). A few years ago I came to terms with myself and realize I am a lesbian. So, I am a lesbian married to a man. Amazingly there are quite a lot of lesbians and bisexual women who come out after they are married to a man, and some, like me, choose to stay married for several reasons.
Sorry to double post, but I wanted to comment? My maternal biological grandmother was like that. Basically, she got pregnant and got married because she was following societal normals while dating, had six kids, but was attracted to women. She and my grandfather stayed together until my youngest maternal Aunt graduated High School, then Grandma moved in with her partner and my grandfather dated women half his age. He's in a committed relationship with a woman younger than my mother but who has ALS (Lou Geirig's Disease) now. My grandmother is also monogamous with her partner.
(my first overtly sexual experience was with a girl, too. I never counted it though until after my ex-fiancee broke off a hetrosexual engagement at 17- I've Identified as Bi since I was about 14 and Pan since 17, though.)
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~Savannah Nicole Logsdon~