Do you feel like a man?

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Ok, so I was searching the internet to see if anyone else with autism/aspergers felt this way.

So, thanks.

Anyways, I feel like a girl and a boy also.

I notice when I read articles online about the way men and women think, I identify with both processes.

I am feminine in some ways, I'll wear flowers in my hear, wear girly shirts, and wear necklaces.
However, I WON'T wear makeup (unless I am in a play) and even when I try to wear it otherwise, I think I look more ugly.
I only wear jeans and shorts (unless at church, then we have to wear dresses/skirts), frankly, I think shorts are plain more comfortable and jeans feel better than skirts. Oh, and I do LOVE to color coordinate, but that probably has to do with the fact that I'm OCD with my colors making me an excellent artist.

As for attraction, I like guys. I have had crushes, and guys have liked me. But, I never really was able to connect to them (let alone talk to them), when they/I did. I have never really felt anything towards girls except that I understand them because physically, I am a girl. I have never dated anyone/ever gone on a date, but that is because I am a teenager, and just because of the social aversion because of the autism/aspergers . Oh, and I would NEVER ever be gay, but I am okay with the idea of living alone.

In sum, I can see myself as both girl and guy, and it freaking annoys me. I want to know which I am.

Oh, and I am also aggressive and intelligent like a guy, and want leadership roles. Then, all of the sudden, I become shy and passive, and trip over ideas, like a girl.

I feel like an "it". Traditional gender roles for men and women are so polarized that I can't strongly relate to either category.

Not according to my husband. He says I feel like a woman.

My view on gender is the XX or XY. There are of course other combinations, but gender basically involves the typical combo. Any other differences are cultural in my view. I am a woman because I have lady parts. Anything else about me is not defined by those lady parts.

Didn't catch the whole gendered "suspension of disbelief" until late. Before then the feeling of being a specific gender had never occurred. Life was always just a way of being without having to filter frames based on associated identities. Since then I've experienced identification with both genders, in some bizarre ways, but at the core of it experiencing an affinity with any identity just doesn't happen for extended periods of time. It's like each situation evokes different identities. Is that even possible?

I've always felt somewhat in between a man and a woman. I love to do my hair and dress nice. But, I also like to wear jeans, drink beer, and watch sports. I've always gotten along better with men than women. I think it's because I have more in common with men than women. NT men seem to be more honest than NT women too. I hate it when women gossip and lie about themselves or others. I prefer to hang out with men and talk sports.

I know that I am female but that's gentic. I get on better with men than girls or aies and always have done. I was a bit of a tomboy at school. I wear mens clothes and have studied for a degree in a typically male dominated subject. But Deep down I'm me. Isn't that all that counts?

Ps. I can also make flat pack furniture and build walls and wire plugs for any of you who don't have a man.

A deceptively simple and interesting question. I think it's affected by age quite a bit. At my age, I'm comfortable with the whole concept of gender and gender roles. I'm not comfortable with gender limitations being placed on anyone, but that's an entirely different thing.

I don't, until I compare myself to other women. It's not that I have masculine traits, just that I lack feminine ones. I lack grace and seductiveness and voluptuousness. Even my chubby, flat chested figure seems to desex me. I'm like an awkward, cute cartoon character. I don't feel like a man, I feel like a Pokemon.

No.

I mean, I feel no association whatsoever with, say, this:



I suspect, though, that that's society's problem, and not mine.

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sorry i see this is in the womans forum so just forgive and ignore me

Last edited by b9 on 20 Nov 2010, 9:54 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I feel like what i suspect some men might feel, having never been one of course. l like to do many "male" activities like physical work, trades stuff and/ home engineering projects and have no sense of or interest in fashion, gossip or celebrities. But also have no interest in sports and am very non competative in general. I only have romantic feelings (to date at 54) for women but usually feel its easier to talk to and understand what men are saying. Most of the time though my internal sense of myself is gender free as many others have posted here and i experience myself as a "being", somewhat more akin to animals than humans of either sex. Maybe because a lot of gender identity involves a simeltaneous group identity which I almost never feel

I feel like a member of the third sex, nowadays.

I feel a little androgynous, I'd say like 70% female and 30% male.

I often get the urge for one that looks like Robert Pires!

I tend to hang out with guys a lot and have a lot of predominantly male interests, but I still feel like a girl the same. I'm not as concerned with my looks as I ought to be, but at the same time, I love new clothes. Though nothing beats new video games...

I'm a lot like you. I feel like a man's brain in a woman's body. Almost all my interests are stereotypically "male," and I find most stereotypically "female" interests distasteful and/or boring. I have a strong tendency to think, talk, move, and act like a man. I find most women's thinking and behaviour to be perplexing, and I often feel like I'm on the outside looking in at my own gender. I prefer the company of men because our interests are similar and they're easier to understand. I'm comfortable with my female body in a physical sense... but I've grown to despise the female gender role it comes with, because society keeps trying to cram me into it no matter how antithetical it is to who I naturally am. This body comes with a lot of annoying social expectations! Despite all of that, I would never want to mess with my physical gender.