Is There Anyone Who DOESN'T Want To Have Kids?

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I don't want any...

I don't want kids either and am never going to have any.

Ok - this is a loooong old and current post - so I just want to add that in having a kid you get to play with Lego, Tomy trains, K-Nex, Sega, N64, Gameboy, More Lego, Hotwheels, Action Man, Playmobile, even more Lego - need I say more

I would just like to add that these are not good reasons to have a child - - - but I bloody enjoyed them and so did he - and he still knows how to play at 21

No. The thought of childbirth and anything breaking, urgh...

Plus, the AS runs in the family.

I'm kinda ambivalent about kids, which I take to mean I probably shouldn't have them. I need a lot of time to myself and just living with my boyfriend can get to be too much stimulation sometimes. Other reasons why not: I don't see myself making close to enough money to support kids AND what all else I'd like to do in my lifetime (heck, I don't know if I'll ever make enough for the latter). I didn't have the best family life myself, so while I've always longed for kinship, I don't think it is reasonable to expect my kids to fulfill that need.

I could actually see myself being a good mom if things were like they used to be where women took care of the home and kids and life was simpler. I like kids and I respect the effort it takes to parent responsibly. But I am constantly overwhelmed/overstimulated and made anxious by all that goes on in the world, all the information, people, and material things I have to make an effort to keep up with to be even slightly aware of what is going on outside of my head. On top of that, I would have to work in addition to being a mom, and I struggle *every day* to keep my head above water in the workplace. I just don't see it happening, and I've accepted that. I'll do other things with my short time on this planet.

I have known since I was a child myself that I do not want children. I am glad that my parents and in-laws have not put any pressure on me to do so and that my husband is fine with my feelings on this (he says he could have gone either way). The only reason I'm bothering to post this is for the younger women out there who are being told that they will change their minds in their 30s or 40s. This is not necessarily true. I am in my mid-forties and I still have no desire to have children. I know a childless (by choice, as far as I know) couple in their 70s and they do not seem to have any regrets. I also know some happy parents who are very glad they had a kid/kids (including unplanned surprises), and some people who strongly want children but have decided not to because of their situations (no mate, mate has kids with someone else and does not want more, etc.). One of this last group of people described her maternal urge (or maybe it is better to say strong urge to get pregnant and bear a child) to me and it sounded very primal, almost like a deep and intense hunger, but I have never felt this way and I found it a bit hard to understand.

I do not know if Ive replied to this thread or not. But I do not want kids. I dont like it either that my mom puts pressure on me. Shes all like whos gonna take care of you when your old cause she figures that, thats the only thing that will get me. Oh well, I dont want to be another person bringing kids into the world that Im not capable of taking care of. There are too many people in this world who have kids and they 'cant' take care of them? I mean come on.

See I work at the supermarket right now and I listen to the cashier women talking a lot amongst each other. They talk about their kids, part of having kids emphasizes how much of a super women a mother has to be. Shes gotta work a job, take care of the kids, take care of the house, and take care of the social aspects of the family...ick. Its like multitasking, I dont like multitasking. I do wanna get married. But mostly, I just want my job to take care of, im one of those people that are willing to work 50-60 hr work weeks but not wanting to work less 30-40 and take care of kids. Nothing that involves watching out for the well fair of other people gosh. Cause once u put the well fare of other people in MY hands, who knows whats gonna happen? Besides, Im a one track minded workaholic individual, ill put in the same amount of work that you do, but of mostly much of the same nature. Not this kids, work, kids, work, family, taking care of whoever, etc etc etc that so many women do. There are many caretakers in this world, Im NOT one of them regardless of my gender.

Hello Auri, I'm new to WP and I'd like to add my name to the list of women who do not want children. I've never had any desire to raise kids - in fact, I've been considering sterilization. In the event that I inexplicably develop maternal instincts, I can always adopt.

When I was in my late 20's/early 30's, I considered having children because it was part of the typical adult program. But my identity was weak, I wasn't in love, and no man seemed like father material. I wasn't going to do it on my own. Another thing - I felt like I'd barely lived for myself as I was always propping myself up in one way or another. What did I have to give? So I didn't have children.

When I was a girl, I would put my dolls to bed and forget about them for a week. I didn't like playing "house." Maybe the signs were already there.

I'm surrounded by "momulators" in my neighborhood and I can't relate. In fact, sometimes I'm repulsed.

I absolutely, positively, most assuredly, fanatically, DO NOT WANT CHILDREN!! ! The whole idea of it makes me want to wretch. Thankfully my husband feels the same way.
I had to laugh a little bit, though, when I saw this thread. I had recently come across a school assignment from second grade. In it I explained in great detail why I absolutely, positively,...did not want kids even then. I even gave the same examples of why as I say now.
Granted, my grandmother told me I would never become a "whole person" without having a child of my own. I said," Thank you Grandmom".

Just wondering, if something living and growing inside of something else was nothing but normal, why does everyone shudder at the scene in "Alien" where the thing bursts out of the person's stomach. Shouldn't women simply say, "wow, what a different way to do a C-Section?"

[quote="GreyGirl"Just wondering, if something living and growing inside of something else was nothing but normal, why does everyone shudder at the scene in "Alien" where the thing bursts out of the person's stomach. Shouldn't women simply say, "wow, what a different way to do a C-Section?"[/quote]


I love your spirit!!
Reading this thread has made me feel so great - maybe that seems wierd but there is a stupid amount of pressure no matter what your position . . . pressure to have em' if you don't want to, pressure not to if you do

My husband and I get all kinds of criticism saying we shouldn't have kids - what if we breed a hoard of autistics? What about that overpopulation thing? What about this what about that - believe me there are tonnes of people who support the decision Not To have kids! You are all "in good company" as they say.

What I did get from reading this is that there are LOTS of people who choose not to - such that I can feel okay about going ahead and having a few.

I know this is really about people who don't want any kids and clearly I am among the others, but I wanted to reply to the C-section comment because it is soooo witty! (and perhaps acurate - the whole experience was a little "alien"!)

I dont want kids! I dont see the piont in having them.