How do you avoid being sexually attractive?

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I don't deliberately try not to be sexually attractive, it's just how I am. I wear practical, comfortable clothing and sneakers. My hair is very thick and grows everywhere so I have to keep it "short and sassy" so I don't end up looking like a sheepdog. I like "cute" short-sleeved tops and T-shirts.

But I can't handle looking like a slob or neglecting my appearance. My clothes have to be clean, and I have to shower and take care of my teeth because being dirty feels gross. But I don't have guys hooting at me everywhere I go. Good thing, too. Maybe because I'm fair, fat, and forty-ish. Some women look sexy and beautiful no matter what they wear...

Actually, i think mouthing off about how much you can lift will gelp fend off guys inless he has a fetish.

What do i do or dont do? I wear baggy clothes. Looking flat in the front and back goes far. Dark clothes help, too.

I rarely wear makeup or heels.

Ive thought about going on and on about how much i like edged weapons would help.

Scowl. Look mad and angry.

I agree with this. Beauty has its cons like stalkers!
Im cute, and i quit having guy friends. Every one of them tries to hit on me even if they are elderly. Ive dealt with jealousy and sexual harassment. Some guys think if they are a lil nice to you, then you dhould put out. If i wanted sex and drama, i would date.

I'm glad most people aren't attracted to me. I guess being the fact that I wear a lot of anime and gamer t shirts they probably think I'm younger then I actually am. Then again I've dressed in a conservative manner before and still get ID'd so I don't think clothing has to do with it. The only thing thats creepy about that is that I tend to attract older men who are old enough to be my dad and thats kinda creepy.

Conservative clothing, messy hair, no make-up, no dresses or skirts, lots of jeans and T-shirts. Still there will always be someone who gets past my shield of androgyny. But I'm more comfortable this way.

My feeling is male attention has more to do with the neighborhood you live in or where you are and how hungry the men are for power than how you look. They get power out of making you stop doing whatever you're doing and pay them some attention. It's seriously pathetic what they will do for attention. It's immature and Jung would say a stunted man who does this.

Being one of society's 'Plain Janes' (apologies to all Janes/Jaynes on here), I never have that problem!

I'm not sexually attractive at all. I have an cute face, but my body is revolting. I'm only maybe a little overweight, if at all, but my body shape is gross. I have small breasts, a slightly larger than average waist (though it's not huge), average hips and a super small bum. I basically receive very little male attention. And when I do, it's from guys twice my age 80% of the time.

I Have small boobs and a flat butt too and while short of surgery you can't change that, but you can change your waist and work out so that everything is in proportion. That's what I did. My. Face isn't cute so you have an advantage there. I can suggest a workout if you want and that can really make a difference.

Also I wear push up padded bras and that really works when I wear something low cut. I also found a padded butt thing to wear over underwear and under clothes at the Chinese store. I'm sure they have them at lots of other stores. I wear it under jeans and it looks good.

Sometimes it's also just a matter of finding the types of clothes that enhance your shape. My younger daughter recently found that out. She is overweight but has a small waist and DD boobs and a J Lo butt. She had been wearing baggy clothes but tried on something I found for her for a costume party and was shocked when she put it on and found out she was shaped like Joan from mad men. I'd love to trade bodies with her but I can't. I'm like a board and tall and thin. I feel that I look like gristle but I've learned what to wear to enhance my shape. I can give you suggestions too if you want. It's all about illusion.

The problem with pads is sensory issues. And exercise as I hate the feeling of sweat, though swimming is okay.

You can shower right after you finish exercising. You would be sweaty an hour at the very most, and you will have to be places where you sweat on other unavoidable occasions, so why not endure it purposefully for a good reason? Do you hate sweat worse than you hate the way your body looks? Working out isn't fun most times. The exercises are hard to do and you get sore the next day. And yes, you sweat. However the sweat washes right off and you finish with hard exercises soon, and all that is temporary and doesn't last long at all, while what you gain from it not only lasts but makes you feel better about yourself. Wouldn't together put up with an hour or less of sweat and look the way you want to because of it? Does that seem worth it to you? Also you could turn a fan on you while you are working out and that helps a lot.

I'm also thinking of the hot flashes I'm going through right now from menopause where I break out in terrible sweats and just burn up for up to ten minutes for no reason. Sometimes it's so bad that I have to shower and change and I wake frequently at night from night sweats and have to change nightgown because it's soaked. So, one day you will have to endure it no matter what, so why not do it on a short term basis now for a good reason?

I personally hate to shower. I just cannot stand it. I'm a housewife and don't go many places so I could get by with not showering. However I hate how I look and smell and feel when I don't, so I endure the shower and just get it over with and feel much better when I'm clean. Couldn't you do the same with exercise and sweating? Honestly you aren't going to end up sweating like you're running in 90 degrees or anything. Especially if you do them in sets and take breaks. It's mainly the cardio that will make you sweat.

I'm really trying to talk you into it. You don't want to get to be my age and kicking yourself for never having had the body you wanted because you didn't want to feel something that is happening to you then for no reason except hormones.

I wish I had small boobs. I hate mine.

OK. I will admit it. Exercise makes me feel awful. I'm sorry, but it does. And I read somewhere that aspies have to work out harder than NTs to get the same benefits. Running makes me want to throw up, even when I do it to a not-so-intense level. Everyone says "Yeah, you may not like it at the time, but the 'high' you get after is amazing! It just makes you feel so good, right?". No, it doesn't. I don't get that "high" they all talk about. It makes me feel worse. Like running makes me want to throw up. I've heard people talk about this great energy boost they get after exercising, nope, not me. I want to just crash on a bed and sleep for 5 years after I exercise. I gain nothing from it. Truly, I want to start exercising, but it just makes me feel so awful.

Also, I can't exercise for an hour, only 30 minutes and then I have to take a break.

Also, I did have a nice body when I was a teenager. It's only been since I turned 18 when I started to gain weight really easily all of the sudden.

many pages but short answer is ? You can't.


Men have certain...lel... adaptive charm that requirement becomes "breathing" and in some cases that is not required **shudder**

When I was too young - I was hit on
When I was too smart- I was hit on
When I was too awkward- I was hit on .... then came puberty early finishing with size DD at 12
Beat them at own game... less hit on but still hit on
More man than men- hit on
Fresh from the field (military know what I mean) - ew still hit on
Moon time- still hit on
Married- still hit on
Brain damaged from Car Wreck- it is said I was still hit on 0_0
With my kids- still hit on
With my mastiff- well least MEN couldn't hit on me up close
Hetero Catholic- Still hit on by women, Jews, Buddhists, couple Muslims and once a Hari Krishna
Pretend to be far left? - hit on
Exaggerate my right leaning?- hit on
Overweight to a size frippin 50? STILL HIT ON
Age gap 15+? - Hit on

Stay home.......
Landlord married : hit on me
Neighbor married : Hit on me
Tech guy (...okay I gotta admit he was cute): Hit on me
Old High School Acquaintances: Hit on me
When I was DJ: a got too many hits on line and in person.
Cosplay as something scarey or Minotauress? Hit on (and not at the Con either.. at cafe <_<
IN Furry COSPLAY.. actually I wasn't hit on as yet.... but my friend was ( We could have been lepers under that!)
Polite- Hit on
Course- Hit on
Armed- hit on

I am no where near that hot. My close male friends say I'm a solid 6. Including my fiance before we became an item.
I am not a coquette, I am rather shy and awkward if my return interest



And if I had a package? Prolly wouldn't change
Dead? Though I pray never -it could happen
I now have come to believe even as another species there would be no rest.

Most peace I ever had was with my 3 battle buddies in our 5 man team Iraq. We were glued at the hip for 2 months. No privacy. Yet personal space was biggest it ever was in my life despite sleeping so close to a non boyfriend I could feel their breath on my skin when they were facing my way.

Last edited by gingerpickles on 02 Jun 2016, 7:13 pm, edited 1 time in total.

Opt for a closed-casket funeral?

I'm going to have to break out the shorts for this season now that it's summer time. I don't shave my legs so I'm pretty sure I'll repel many dudes after a while

I think I would die if I got hit on that much, half the time I don't even feel like a female so getting hit on by that many dudes would be awkward. I actually look really young for my age so the only guys that tend to come after me are the older creepy, old enough to by my dad types who probably THINK I'm younger then I am ... Of course such things lower what little faith in humanity that I already have.