Is There Anyone Who DOESN'T Want To Have Kids?

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Take it from someone with an entire brood-- there is ABSOLUTELY NOTHING wrong with choosing not to have children!! !! !! !! !! !!

Another reason I never want to have sex is for fear of getting pregnant since I absolutely know I do not want children! I know birth control works well 99% of the time but sometimes for some odd reason, it isn't always the case.

See, this is exactly the reason I love WP in all the years I've been telling people how much I don't want kids and how I think the idea of being pregnant is absolutely revolting, only here have I ever heard another female agree with me. Mostly they say something snide like "Ohh we'll see! I didn't want to have kids either when I was your age *wink wink* " .. "Wait till that clock starts ticking!" etc. I'm 26 and I decided I definately didn't want kids when I was 15 (hadn't really thought about it prior to that) when exactly is it supposed to magically change?

I could probably list at least 50 reasons why I don't want children, not the least of which is that it just gives me the willies. Besides being expensive, wreaking havoc on your body and so many other NEGATIVE things. I don't see any positive side of having children at all.

In fact, fetuses are parasites. They live inside you and feed off of your resources. That is the very definition of parasite. Most people are pretty creeped out by the idea of parasites (eg tapeworms) and yet somehow love babies?? I don't get it. Besides that, once they come out all they do is scream and poop themselves. Wow, isn't that tons of fun >.>

Whenever I express these opinions to someone else the main reaction (besides shock and offense) is "Well you were a baby once too!" ... I fail to see how this is relevant. Why does the fact that I used to be one of those disgusting squealing things mean that I need to like them now? Can someone explain that to me?

I don't want to have children and never have. I just don't have maternal feelings towards children - I'm actually more effected by animals. Also, I know I wouldn't be able to take care of a child; I struggle enough just to take care of myself.

Life has always seemed like a burden to me and it's not a burden I would want to pass on to someone else.

I get paranoid about that as well. But I know that having a child is a VERY socially demanding responsibility that I would in no way live up to. I have a hard time being around normal people for more than 5 minutes, let alone kids. Right now I'm living a single parent's lifestyle without the kid...in other words I'm broke that not in deep debt. If I was a parent right now I would be totally screwed.

Somewhere along these lines I submit: My co-worker.


She has been planning her wedding since I started working here and talking about how she wants to get pregnant AS SOON AS she gets married. Well she got married about a month ago and is now pretty much bragging about being pregnant. I just heard her talking about how her Halloween costume was a skeleton suit with a little skeleton curled up in the tummy area. I also heard her talking about how she was so sick this morning blahblah for breakfast and she sounded positively proud about it.

I understand this is something she's wanted for a long time and she's happy, that's fine. I just don't get this attitude at all. I think I'd bawl my eyes out if I got pregnant and seek the nearest abortionist immediately >.>

I think they assume you will change your mind because Neurotypicals do all the time. They fail to realize that some people (namely Autistics) are among those that once they make up their mind adamantly about something like that (and have carefully weighed all the pros and cons), they NEVER change their minds. It's something Neurotypicals can't get their heads around.

There's never been a time in my life where I have ever wanted kids. (I'm 26 now) Considering that I don't like sex, don't want marriage or a romantic relationship, it's logical for me not to have them.

The thought of being pregnant or giving birth has always creeped me out, and I could never understand how anyone would ever want to do those things. Having something inside you for 9 months acting essentially as a parasite consuming your nutrients, and then to top it off, having to push it out through a passageway that seems far too small to me. I have watched a lot of Discovery Channel animal documentaries in my days and it seems like humans by far have the most painful and excruciating/risky child birth process.

As a matter of fact, I don't even like babies in general. I simply don't see the big deal and prefer to avoid being around them if I can help it. I have never been one of those types that starts cooing and going over the top if I see one. (baby animals on the other hand.....) I just lack that maternal instinct, and I'm basically that one person in the room that will ignore it entirely while everyone else is jumping over themselves to give the baby attention.

I also couldn't tolerate the tantrums. Nothing irritates me more than toddlers throwing tantrums. (Toddler stage is the WORST stage IMO) I don't have the patience for it and couldn't cope with it as my coping skills are already very below average due to AS.

The world is already overpopulated enough, and I don't want to add to that problem. I also would not want to bring a child into this world in the current state that it's in, ESPECIALLY a little girl. Girls have NO wholesome role models whatsoever to look up to.

^ Completely agree to all of that

In addition, I wouldn't be able to handle a girl because I can't understand or tolerate most of then at all. I dislike 99% of females I've ever met. An NT female child is probably my worst nightmare.

VERY true!! Most people with Aspergers usually don't change their minds about anything once they've come clear on it.

I´m scared of pregnancy, having something inside me...I always wanted to adopt a child, also to help a kid who is alone, find a new home.

I find children in general to be horribly annoying but their parents can be worse, especially when they do not have the backbone to be strict and teach their children some manners. For as long as I can remember I have never had the desire to have children and I would love to not ever let a parasite like that grow inside my body.

Me. I'm too much of a loner and an individual to get married or have kids. I like to be alone, and just the thought of having to take care of something 24/7 is exhausting. I can't stand hearing babies cry anywhere...it's like nails on a chalkboard.

When I'm in my 30s, I can see myself having a cat or two. That's all the companionship I'd need.

i'm in my mid forties and don't want kids, ever, never did. i toyed with the idea in my twenties but the idea was too scary and i'm real glad i didn't. i could never be happy this way. and you're right, it's not fair to put pressure on us to have a child we don't want. i couldn't stand being a mother. it's suffocating. i'd rather get a cat. they're much more fun.
maybe you should concentrate on a future career that will bring you tons of money. we aspies are very smart, but sometimes don't know it.
they say women are so miserable if childless, i'm not. i'd be miserable if i was stuck with a demanding, annoying kid. i don't even like to babysit, except i liked to babysit my nieces when they were young. i've got nieces, don't need my own. don't understand why people want kids, something evolutionary, i guess.

i also have a hard time being around normal people for more than five minutes. and i feel much better knowing i'm not the only one who feels this way, thanks.

I'm 23- I recently had a tubal ligation. I am this sure about my desire to never want children as is my partner (thank alien Cheezus).

I decided this at the ripe age of 11.

I never liked kids, even when I was one; I hung out with adults because they wouldn't tease me and would intellectually stimulate me; the kids were so plebian and cruel (Granted most adults never got past the stage of junior high....they just got more subtle). It bothers me when patients and other people ask if I have children or proclaim mindlessly "one day soon...when you have kids.." I want to scream..."Don't rub your conventional ideas on me! I have a tubal ligation already for crying out loud!"

I still have a desire to run and hide when I see rambunctious 5-8 year old boys (my worst tormenters in elementary) and 11-14 year old girls (junior high nightmares)

I prefer animals much more....MUCH, much more....they were my comforters and tear-lickers when I came home crying from school...why have a kid when you could find a fabulous shelter dog?!

My viewpoint isn't shared by most of humanity...but I'm used to being strange...I just hide it well most of the time