do you ever feel asexual?

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I would like to echo what some other people said. Sometimes I feel like a lesbian and I'm a guy. I have these moments of masculinity and femininity that flow through me. And then sometimes I feel asexual. It's very frustrating and confusing for me. I like intimacy but I don't think I like sex all that much. I do it sometimes cause I think it's what people want but then I'm like...only fantasizing about other things. It's kinda weird actually. I really don't feel that drawn to anyone...guys or girls.

I'm like a camel - a hump or two and I'm good for a long time!

I'd never be compatible with an asexual though. I need a partner who wants me, physically. I don't really get much out of sex itself, it's pretty rare that I can orgasm. But I need to make someone else feel good to feel good about myself. My ideal partner is a bit selfish, sexually speaking. But not too much.

Ironically, if there was a female copy of me, I wouldn't be compatible with myself.

I feel asexual 50-75% of the time, depending on how much stress and things are going on in my life. When I am eating better, I am more sexual.

I have problems with emotions and trust and physical problems, so I'm rarely having sexual contact with another person. I want to, but I don't want to feel certain ways during and after, which makes me anxious before and not wanting to do it

I would consider that living asexually, unless you include what I do by myself.

I miss "yes, most of the time" on the poll. I chose all the time, because I very seldom have those feelings, and when I do, it's only a mind game, when I think of actually doing it for real, I feel sick. So I consider myself asexual

Yes.

I kinda wish it was 100% of the time.

I think I'm a heterosexual affected by AS. I did feel an occasional desire for sex when I was young, sometimes because of hormone surges and sometimes because I was with a man I was attracted to. But when it came to actually doing it...that was no fun at all. I hated the physical and emotional closeness, I hated all the fussy foreplay stuff, I hated the weight on top of me, I hated the sweat and the smell, I hated the heavy breathing, I hated the sounds the guys made, and I hated the fact it usually hurt as well. I was just overwhelmed by sensory unpleasantness, and I've tried it enough times to know it wasn't only something that happened at first. I think perhaps if I didn't have AS with severe sensory issues, I might like sex – but I do have AS, and I didn't wait too long before giving myself permission to stop trying to like it! The fleeting desires I felt became less and less frequent as I got older, and since going through the menopause I haven't felt any kind of sexual desire at all, just complete equilibrium. Which is bliss.

I'm an aromantic asexual. Courtship rituals baffle me. I sort of wish it were possible to reproduce via parthogenesis, because I'd love to have a child of my own - I've got strong maternal urges. I just don't see any appeal in the conventional method.

I wouldn't say I'm asexual at all, but my most recent boyfriend was coercive and aggressive, so I took a long break and have decided to be more careful with men. My heart goes out to other women who survived abuse.

I'm mostly asexual, but I still do find some men attractive. I have no interest in sex whatsoever. Maybe I'm just young and that will change when I'm older. My AS makes me more asexual as well.

Yes, I'm extremely picky about the guys I like. I don't develop crushes just by looking at someone that easily. Personality is what wins me over.

I have no clue about asexuality or not, but I have no desire to share any sexual activities with someone else as I think the physical contact is quite daunting. I am slightly attracted to a very small amount of people, so I guess I am hetrosexual, but I also think I just am not able to do the social stuff that is required to start a relationship in general.

I go through periods of very low sex drive. I guess I can kind of call that asexual. I also go through periods where my sex drive is super high. I barely ever get periods where my sex drive is normal. I hope my sex drive is normal when puberty is done.

Yes yes and yes. It bothers me.

Yeah. Pretty much all the time. Still baffling how I can feel affection for another human.

Something I Jess when he asks about my sexuality: I'm asexual, Jess. Get over yourself.

Most of the time