lesbian/bisexual?

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I had for almost 20 years a relationship with a woman 18 years old than me (ok, already solved the "look for a mother" stuff)

We lived calmly in a way, never, but really never going out with homos. What we did inside the room or whatever was our stuff. Nobody asked, we never had to tell, and so it was fine. I had interest in many guys, also for marry, but for some reason I kept going back to "mom".

Once the relationship was over I went back to seek an old love, my first real and only in my mind...

We kept a close friendship for years, she married, had a daughter, and then, left the husband who use to cheat her to stay with another woman. I entered the scenario when that woman was anymore to be seen.

Tried for years to established a relation with that old love but didn't know how to overcome the daughter, ex-husband or family matters (everyone there knew everything about everyone!). But in fact I did not realize that my "love" had a bunch of lesbian ghetto friends.

Last year, as last resource, I tried to join this...ghetto. Came out burned and with neurological problems!. The ghetto's leader once known that I had an interest for my old love, drove her away and found her a "new toy". I was left out as a crazy and worst, with everyone telling me I needed to go to therapy...

Well, I'm away from that gang now, really in the other side of the ocean, since I discovered months ago my mom has cancer. She's going into surgery in a few days. I'm an only child. No children, no relationship, but good friends around.

If I'm gay, Bi or straight, the only think I ask Upstairs is, first, of course, for my mother's health, and second: please, keep me away of ghettos that I always despised.

That last experience makes me think about my sexuality a lot. My "loved one" doesn't beleive I'm Asperger, and I don't wanna use that as an excuse for her to come to me. She tries to be my friend, I think that's all I always wanted from her after she married.

Now, man, woman, nothing matters. I was always considered androgynous since youth, never had problems with that. Always had "fans" both ways, but after this ghetto experience I think that to be alone for...lets say....the rest of my live would be the best choice!

Bisexual.

I'm not exactly straight, but I'm a virgin, so I don't know what or who I'd really do when the time presented itself. I love looking at both guys and girls, though. No idea which one I'd be more likely to have sex with.

Yeah, I'm bisexual with a preference for guys. I've had a girlfriend before, and I enjoyed sex with her as much as I did guys.

bi-sexual, not here...nor there...like guys and girls exactly the same.
found out I was bi-sexual when I fell in love with my bestfriend, but still liking guys
with confused the crap out of me, because I'd never heard the term 'bi-sexual' and I thought I was a freak.

what does pansexual exactly mean? I believe someone told it meant bi-sexual, but that didn't sound correct.

I can relate to that, but I mostly consider myself bi.

Recently came out of the closet as bisexual. I am equally attracted to both sexes, but I find myself in relationships with men more, since women who like women are rarer to find. I am also considerably more attracted to females sexually than I am males, but I enjoy sexual experiences with both, though I'm overall inexperienced with relationships in general, I fantasize about both.

Well, if I wasn't happily married to a man, I might consider a woman as a sexual partner. I don't know, I've got no experience with that, but it could be interesting.

My question is this, though. It's generally assumed that people are straight, until otherwise specified, so how do you find out that someone is a lesbian in order to know that you can show a sexual interest? I've never had a woman show me the remotest sexual interest. I even had a best friend who surprised the heck out of me by suddenly getting a lesbian lover. I had never considered that for a moment, and she had never expressed an interest in me that way. I'd be afraid to show a sexual interest in another woman, because if she's straight, it might creep her out. (Then again, I've creeped out some men by showing a sexual interest, so maybe it's just me.)

Again, though, I'm just asking out of curiousity for what might have been. I'm not in the market for a sexual partner.

I prefer men for friendship and sex, but I am attracted to/fall in love with/enjoy all the touchy feely stuff with women.

Mostly, though, relationships stress me out, so I avoid them now.

Last edited by radclyffe59 on 24 Apr 2009, 12:41 pm, edited 1 time in total.

I must have posted this awhile back, i'm sure, But i'm pansexual. I'm in a serious relationship with a boy though.

I'm lesbian.

I have slept with only 2 guys in my life, and both were my best friends. We were single, bored and horny, yadda-yadda... You know how it goes... Anyway, I liked it well enough physically at the time, but my thoughts/fantasies and desires then and now are 99-100% gay (which both of them knew all about).

Unfortunately, my attempts at getting close to females are riddled with shyness; I never get far before my nerves give out and I run back into my shell... But now I don't want to "use" guys for some kind of replacement sexual contact, so for the last few years I've just gone without.

Answer: "Gaydar"! It's like someone else's gayness "tickling" your own, and you instantly recognize them as gay - even if you just met. It's an odd but really neat experience. You likely have at least some Gaydar if you do lean that way.

Otherwise, signs of attraction - gay or straight - are apparently the same... A lesbian who likes you might gaze into your eyes a lot, smile and laugh more when you're around, give you compliments, seek you out to talk to... The more masculine ones might try to appeal to a girl's humour with sarcasm, teasing, wisecracks, or general clowning. They might also become a mostly silent "rock" for her to tell her troubles to, and offer advice/support... The more feminine, "touchy" lesbians might find excuses to fondle your shoulder, hand, back, etc., or just fiddle with their own hair or clothing when you're around - or she might start wearing fancier clothing/makeup to try and get your attention (-something I'm notoriously bad at noticing...lol!).

Even then, one can still be wrong - I've learned that the hard way. Females seem to be a lot tougher to read in general - especially the ones that are undecided about what/who they want in the first place..! (-yes, frustrated "Lesbian Virgin" here )

Lesbian, although I've always felt more like a man trapped in a woman's body (seriously).

female, married to a slightly effeminate boy (love him), and bisexual.

Bi, but prefer men.